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Left-Out Blues

Besides getting soccer ball right in the gut, my LEAST favorite feeling is when I feel left out of something. You know, like all of a sudden your friend starts chillaxin’ with someone else, or your older brothers are invited to go someplace and you’re not—it’s not a great feeling, is it?

Not so long ago, this girl Julie “Fabulous” Faber was having this crazy birthday party at her house. She got her parents to buy stuff to make it Hawaiian-themed, and she even handed out fruit-smelling invitations! Maeve, Katani, Charlotte, and Isabel all got invitations—except me.

So, yeah, I felt pretty rotten! I mean, being the “Ave” and all, I tried not to let it bother me, but feeling left out really hurts. Sometimes, feeling left out makes you question yourself. Like, “What, am I not good/popular/fun enough to go to this party?!”

It turned out that Ms. Fabulous Faber said I was “too immature.” Whatever. I like to have fun and be silly sometimes. That doesn’t mean I’m immature. In fact, EXCLUDING people is what makes HER immature.

So, what did I do about my left-outness? You’ll have to read book #7 Freaked Out to find out. But here’s a hint: I def did NOT let it spoil my evening!

you tell us ...
When have you ever felt left out? What did you do about it?

Later,



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chloebp writes:

i realy relized that i had NO real friends i was her slave not her bff but then i realy relize were i was going rong in life so i moved school and found lods of friends there is one i bff loz we have never in our lifes falon out
 

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chloebp writes:

when i was left out it was from not being who i am so i now myself 4 ever more everyone listen to hermione23 she is fuly cerect
p.s be your self! U NO I'M RIGHT!!
 

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chloebp writes:

To herminoe
i realy agree with you as it happend to me 1 day and then i was once told by a close friend ccauld ** that i was crul mean and selfi
sh and she want the real me back
 

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babybunny101 writes:

well i told my dad then he told me to just talk to the people who were leaving me out of every thing (alot of people though).
 

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limetop20 writes:

I was left out when my 2 cousins were together at a family reunion and i was left out.I felt really bad a bout it. I was crying all weekend lovg. But i talkted to my older cousin and she said that she was sorry and she did not mean to leave me out.
That is what i did to change what was happening that weekend.
 

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nellgirl writes:

I really like the way i m, it try 2 b everyones friend and always b open but some people dont like me for bing that way, should i stop??????????????
 

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nellgirl writes:

today at ski program well, we have this thing call "ski patrol" and one person has to stay back to help if anyone falls. One of my friends just went off with another girl to be "ski patrol" and they wouldn't let me be "ski patrol" with them.!
 

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dramagirl40 writes:

One time all of my friends got invited to one of my friends birthday parties and i didn't. I felt so left out! But I got her a present and gave it to her the next time i saw her. She was shocked. It was hard for me to do, but it made me feel really good.
 

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hermione23 writes:

dear everyone,
when you are around "cool" or "popular" kids, just be yourself. Don't try to act "Cool." Then you won't have any fun and the people won't like you. If you just be yourself, you'll realize that they are just the same as you! Then you'll be good friends.
love,
hermione23
 

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hermione23 writes:

dear santafelover,
I hate when people hand out invites like that at school! I'm having a birthday party soon, and I mailed the invites. My friends are really good about them and don't talk about the party at school. (They whisper to me that they can come)
love
hermione23
 

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hermione23 writes:

dear ariesgirl,
I understand. That happened to me once too.
 

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leaofparis writes:

BSGRox- that isn't right. So what if you don't have a boyfriend? I don't think you should really be friends with people like that.
 

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BSGCute writes:

Avery,I have been left out many times.Is your problem about gossping?If it is,I can totally help.Ok.If it's the first time someone has gossiped about you,just ignore them.If it's the second time,repeat number one.If it's the third time,ask them to stop.Fourth time,say number three with more power.Fifth,talk to your parents so they can have a talk with a counselor.Sixth,seventh,and eighth,you have a big conference with your principal,counselor,parents,and your enemy's parents.Trust me,this will work.

Your Friend,
BSGCute
 

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ariesgirl writes:

Dear leaofparis, that stinks. Maybe you could try invitng both of your BFF's to do something fun with you. Make sure you didn't accidentally make them mad. Also, make sure you've got other friends. You don't have to be their BFF's, but some friendly conversaton once in a while won't hurt, and you might develop a great friendship! Please write back!
- ariesgirl
 

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BsgRox124 writes:

well my friends started a little club that u only can be in if you have a boyfriend AND I DONT!smilies/sad.gif It makes me feel real sad and left out any advice?

Have a talk with your friends. Tell them that you want to hang out with them, but that you don't want to have a boyfriend or that you aren't ready to date. If they still won't listen to you, try talking to your parents, or to a teacher you like about it.

Later,

 

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leaofparis writes:

I've got two BFFs. But sometimes, I have the idea that they like each other better than mee. We're all BFFs, but I'm the one who is left out. They have like a billlion classes together, without me. Advice?
 

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ariesgirl writes:

Thanks for writing back, Avery!
 

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ariesgirl writes:

I am almost always left out! My BFF dropped me for the popular clique. They don't like me because I don't wear the coolest clothes. I have another BFF, but she's a year younger than me so I only see her on the bus. I have 2 other good friends, but their BFF's are other people. I don't know what to do about it, so I hang out alone most of the time and pretend I don't care.

I totally know how you feel--being left out is the worst. But actually, it sounds like you really do have some awesome friends. Don't worry if your friends have other friends--that's totally normal. I mean, you wouldn't want your friends to feel bad because YOU have other friends, right? And people are your friends because they like you and want to hang out with you. So don't sweat it. But if you find yourself with no one to chill with, try striking up a convo with someone you sort of know but not really. Even if you guys don't end up BFF, you'll still prob learn some cool stuff about a new person!

Later,
 

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books369 writes:

I was left out of one of my best friend's birthday party.All of my friends from school got invited.I tried talking to her but she kept on ignoring me!It made me really sad.I called one of my friends on the night of the party to see if she went or not and her mother said she was at the party!I did nothing that night.I just did my homework.The day after the party my friend who had the party told me that she was sorry that she didn't invite me.She would of but her mom said only 25 people could go to her party.She ignored me because She thought I was going to get mad at her.I thought that I should wait after any event for someone to explain why.We are friends again.
 

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deenerweener writes:

I feel left out ALL of the time! My BFF is hanging around with another girl. This girl is being really mean to me.
 

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kimberly39525 writes:

Once i was left out of one of my best friend's b-day party! i mean, she is my best friend!
 

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nellgirl writes:

Last night i went to dinner and a movie with the friend i wrote about earlier! Thanks 4 the advice!!!!!

No prob!

Later,
 

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raro_chic writes:

I live next door to one of my friends from school. We always have heaps of fun when we go to each other's house and when we muck around together, but sometimes at school she kinda ignores me. I'm not sure if it's because she's a year younger than me and she has other friends, or if it's because i moved here last year and she already had friends. I don't know what to do about it. I have so much fun when she comes over.

I think you shouldn't worry about it--it's totally normal to have friends from all different parts of your life. Like, I have the BSG, but then I also have friends from my soccer team and my basketball team and when I go visit my dad in Colorado. Your friends in your neighborhood can be different from your friends at school, and you can have an equally awesome time with both!

Later,
 

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nellgirl writes:

Thanks for the advice avery! I hadn't even seen the advice today but I did that, but she said she couldnt smilies/sad.gif.
 

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hermione23 writes:

Yea. I hate it when someone's having a party and they talk about it IN FRONT OF PEOPLE WHO AREN'T INVITED. It's really rude.
 

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nellgirl writes:

Last year i was really close with one of my friends, we did everything together! But last summer she stopped talking to me and went off with some girl who is really mean to me. Now we're not really enimies but not friends. I miss her!

Yeah sometimes friends just drift apart like that. It's weird. Maybe you should just randomly call her up and be like, "Hey, what's up? I know we haven't talked in awhile but I just wanted to say hi." She'd prob be happy to hear from you!

Later,
 

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santafelover writes:

I have been left out before. I can remember, just a few months ago, that the a girl that was supposed to be my friend didn't invite me to her Sweet 16. I shouldn't be mad over that, I know your saying. But the thing that made me mad was when she handed out all the invitations in front of my face, but didn't give one to me. The whole lunch period, all my friends and her talked about the party and how they were so excited about it. I was the only one who didn't get invited at that whole lunch table! I was so shocked that I didn't say anything. I mean, we both went to the Hannah Montana concert and have been friends ever since third grade for crying out loud! I guess high school changes everything. How did I get over this whole mess? I wrote in my diary about it. You may think that sounds childish, but a diary is a girl's best friend. You can spill all of your secrets and woes in it, and it will never tell.
 

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soccerGod writes:

well since lot people have partys alot and they always passed them out around me and other people i dont really care, first i have better things to do on a weekend, second, i dont hang with the person who ever is passing out the invetions, and third, i will make my weekend fun. yeah i dont let it get to me at all, i learned that without being jeoulse be happy
 

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swim4ever513 writes:

soccergrl1010: i think u should try to talk to your BFF privetly.. then give her a couple days for her to think about what u said. If she still is mean, than she's not a real friend. and about your bro. he's just exiteed about his new girlfriend..so give him time 2
 

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swim4ever513 writes:

I need help!! my BFF and and my other BFF have been exluding me latly with sleepovers and stuff, like on Fri. thay had as sleepover and did'nt invite me!!! I thought we were all best friends

What a yucky situation. That would totally hurt my feelings. I think you should talk to each of your friends in private and tell them how you feel. Sometimes when you talk to people one-on-one it's like a whole different situation from when you're trying to talk to two people at once. Good luck!

Later,
 

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dannilp1 writes:

Once I was at a game place with a bunch of people I knew. A girl I was really close to before kept ignoring me. I finally went up to her and said hi. She was really rude to me, saying her friends were waiting. I was really hurt at first, but realized I should forgive her. Dwelling on what happened wasn't going to help or change it. I have made some really amazing friends lately that truly care. It can be painful when people ignore you or say rude things, but just remember that your friends and family really love you! Whatever that one person said is just that one person's opinion. And it doesn't mean it's true.
 

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dramagirl40 writes:

Well one time one of my friends invited all of the people I knew to her birthday party. That included my best friend. I felt really sad, mad and TOTALY left out. But I got her a birthday gift and gave it to her the next time I saw her.
 

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082398princess writes:

Hi guys, I was the new gurl in skool last year and wasn't that popular at first. One girl was having a birthday party and all the girls wanted to be there. Soon I was bending backwards to do anything
i could to be invtied. I was so mad when she didn't invite me... I never bent backwards again and only once did I regret it! She was mean and meaner. I think she needed to go take a few laps. I hated her and didn't get invited to her fabulous party. Anywho, when I had mine in the summer and it was so near to the skool start I only invited two peeps to share about my BOMB partay. I knpow since hers wasn't like that she is still fuming somewhere deep down about how she should've invited me so she could be talking about it too.
 

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krm98 writes:

I have never felt left out. When somebody needs some time slone with other people I totally understand.

Wow, good attitude. I wish I could be like that too.

Later,

 

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abz writes:

well i have been put out of my friends group for just no reason.And I'm really good friends with a couple of guys.And i think that some of those girls who left me out r mad because they think that most of the guys like me and want to be liked to.SO now i just don't even bother with them and found people who r much nicier
 

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Dianadgenius writes:

i went to the bathroom cried and when i got tout they asked why i was crying i said jothing and then when they ask me if i wanna olay i sayno or i go away and not talk to them for the rest of the day
 

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Mette writes:

angel 3808,
i don't know you, but i don't think you are a nerd. because nerd is only a word mean people made up to harass people who are smarter than them! i am being called a nerd myself sometimes, but unsurprisingly only by the people who have reasons to be jealous.


 

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angel3808 writes:

I am left out ALL THE TIME!!! I am the nerd of my school (since everybody has said it so mant times I am starting to beleive it) It makes me sad that people make fun of me all the time!!

Ugh, so not cool. What are those people thinking? Being smart is like a GOOD thing. I say don't worry about labels--I mean, who has time for that?

Later,

 

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CamiGabi writes:

when I was new at school I wasn't invited to many partys my friends were but I didn't care 'cuse I knew the other year I as gonna be invited to more birthday partys.---------
 

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Sapreea writes:

One time my friend was a team captain in gym class. she promised me to pick me first but she didn't. I was picked last but I was hurt.. then I got over it.
 

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babiikriselle writes:

Dear soccergrl1010,
Look, sometimes you just can not hang out with him. Tell him that in two weeks from now that you want to hang and tell him not to make plans! Secondly, try hanging out with them. If that does not work, tell them how you really feel! - babiikriselle
 

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laxrox12 writes:

getting left out can hurt a lot it happens to alot of people but just ignore it.....
 

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soccergrl1010 writes:

i got 2 stories.well first,my older brother(who is like my best freind) got this new grlfrend that hes ben hanging out w/ all the time.he would go on dates everynight!!!!!! its like he and his dumb grlfrend didnt go out enuf!!! now i never see him and hes allways mad at me.but now i just play with my ferrets,cookie and wolf. and now recently,my best friend has ben hanging out with two
QOM's. and my other bff is startin 2 hang out with them 2!!! i feel really left out and all of them r bein seriously mene 2 me. someone pleeze help!!!!
 

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babiikriselle writes:

Dear Kikums156l,
I would really like to thank you for the advice though!
 

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mgirl4ever writes:

Last year there was this girl who has been holding a grudge on me since August. It was April!
She stole all of my friends, and at lunch I didn't know who to sit with. So, I was being very nice to her whenever I could. Even though she was not nice with me. Eventually, she started to treat me better, and we became frenemies. If that make since.
 

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babiikriselle writes:

Dear Kikums156,
I really do not want to leave my best friends behind. If I did not have any friends, I would definatly switch, BIG TIME!
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear Kikums156,
Just do ignore her BIG time! She just is not cool enough for you and you friends!
 

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Kikums156 writes:

one time this girl in my class invited every girl to a christmas party in the class but me and my friends. we never got an invatation now i have to sit next to her i try to be nice and friendly but i can never forget about that!

 

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Kikums156 writes:

babiikriselle,
i feel so bad for you! i have felt left out too. maybe you could talk to your mom and switch schools. i dont know how to help but ill try! if there is anything i can do for you just ask! good luck~!!!!!
kikums156
 

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babiikriselle writes:

Dear Avery,
ALL OF MY FRIENDS ARE NOT TALKING TO ME. HERES THE STORY. THIS FRIEND WASNT TREATING ME AS FAIRLY AS ALL HER OTHER FRIENDS SO I CALLED MY 2 FRIENDS AND SAID I WAS TIRED OF HER TREATING ME THIS WAY. SO I SAID I WAS GONNA IGNORE HER AND MY FRIENDS FELT THE SAME WAY SO THEY IGNORED HER TOO.MY FRIEND WAS AT MY HOUSE AND I TYPED A CONTRACT NOT TO TALK TO HER UNTIL WE ALL GAVE UP.FEW WEEKS ONE OF MY FRIEND SAID SORRY TO HER AND THEN I GOT MAD. 7 WEEKS AFTER WE MADE UP.I WENT TO HER BIRTHDAY AND DID A SLEEPOVER . HER PARTY WAS WHEN WE WOKE UP . I HAD A CRUSH ON THIS GUY AND SHE INVITED HIM. IT WAS OUR PLAN THOUGH. I FELT JELOUS WHEN WE WERE GOING TO EAT CAUSE SHE KEPT ON TALKING TO HIM I IGNORED HER BUT AT THE END WE TALKED. THE NEXT DAY WE IGNORED EAACH OTHER . 6 WEEKS AFTER I SAID SORRY AND ASKED IF I COULD HAVE A RIDE CAUSE TODAY WAS OUR VOLLEYBALL OUTING. ANYWAY I WENT TO HER HOUSE AFTER.THE NEXT DAY WE IGNORED EACH OTHER AGAIN!WE NEVER TALKED SINCE 2MONTHS . ON MY BASKETBALL GAME MY MOM KNEW SO SHE TOLD THAT GIRLS MOM AND AFTER THE GAME THEY GRABBED US AND WE MADE UP BUT WE DONT REALLY KEEP IN TOUCH NOW. 4 OF MY FRIENDS HATE ME NOW BUT I DONT WANT TO SAY SORRY CAUSE I ALWAYS DO. NOW THOSE 4 PEOPLE EXEPT THAT GIRL WHO WE DONT KEEP IN TOUCH WITH ARE TALKING BEHIND MY BACK . THEY HATE ME . IN BASKETBALL WHEN I GAURD ONE OF THOSE GIRLS THEY SAY WHY ME AND THEN THEY LOOK AT ME AND WHISPER SOMETHING INTO ONE OF THE OTHER GIRLS EAR. OH AND ONE OF THE GIRLS SISTER WHO I WROTE THE CONTRACT ABOUT HATES ME. PLEASE HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear Avery,
I know how it is is being left out. One time my BFF got invited to the popular girls party.I felt really bad because the popular girl used to be my BFF in 2nd grade. I felt really happy that my friend did not go to her party. Plz respond.

 

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muga123 writes:

I am VERY shy. smilies/sad.gif But I wanted to cry so I just covered my face and tried not to cry, smilies/sad.gif How do I mange Avery? Please reply to this message. TTYL.
 

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Sugar8Sweet writes:

I am a shy girl.One time my friends and me went to a camp together (We got our Moms OK).And we had a great time at first,but then I felt sad because my friends had other friends there and some got mad at me because some of my friends dont like my other friends.I feel really bad about it,and i still do. smilies/sad.gif

Love,Sugar8Sweet
 

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xxxboodettexxx writes:

i felt left out when the guys on my bus actually told me to sit in the front. but now, the boy is nicer to me.
 

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soccergrl101 writes:

DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT AVE IT'S JUST ONE PARTY!!!! MAYBE SHE LOST YOUR INVITATION OR MAYBE SHE'S JEALOUS BECAUSE YOUR SOO NICE!!!
 

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shortywoo10 writes:

I have two friends that i mostly hang out with. They sometimes leave me out of their get-togethers and i think that they're influencing me to say bad words or be mean to others but when i try to talk about it to them they give me an attitude. What should i do?

 

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readingrules writes:

I have a friend.She has a lot of soccer friends.But they aren't really my friends but because I was on the travel team with with them so I expected to be invited to some of their b-day parties.But when she started talking about the parties even though I wasn't good friends with them I was sort-of sad .I didn't tell anyone but,eventully I got over it because I didn't invite all of them to my party so how can I expect them to invite me.
Put on a happy face,
readingrules
 

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BSG Fan writes:

I have felt left out about a lot of stuff. All I did was I said to myself that they aren't the greatest friends. Or maybe they just forgot to invite me by accident. Look up to the positive side.
 

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Mette writes:

in elementary school i had a close boy friend (just a friend not more!). in 3rd grade he had a birthday party and i wasn't invited, even though girls he didn't hang out with as much as with me were. i told no one but my mother how dissapointed i was and tried normal. then my mother met his mother in the supermarket and told her that i was sad about not being invited to his party. his mother was really shocked and told my mother that it was a soccer party and that they'd thought i wouldn't want to spend a party playing soccer. the next day in school my friend apologized and i didn't have to spend the day playing soccer!
 

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born2dance writes:

My friend used to tell secrets to another one of my friends, right in front of me. Even though she said, "It's not about you- don't worry.", I wondered why I couldn't hear. I really do NOT like secrets. If it's not about me, than just say it out loud. If it's something about, say, a guy you liked- and I didn't know about it- just say it was about a guy you liked! I don't have to know who, but it makes me feel a LITTLE bit better to know what the secret was. It's not very big, but it still hurt. smilies/cry.gif
 

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sunshinedancer writes:

popularphone167:
I know how you feel. one of my friends did sort of the same thing, wher its obvious they like each other btter than they like u nd it's awful.
-sunshinedancer101
 

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popularphone167 writes:

i had two friends. One used to be my best friend and the other was a good friend. one day after school the first one wanted to do track with me and the other one was already going. they became best friends! they kept going ahead of me and slowed down and talked. they would just ignore me when i tryed to talk! every time i caught up to them and tryed to talk, they just started to run away! they still ignore me to this day! goes to show they werent true friends!
 

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Jalinia writes:

OK so like, one of my best friends were having this b-day party at this restraunt. I mean it wasn't like a big b-day bash or anything, but ya' know...still. So I talked to her, and she said her parents had a limit to who she could invite. So yeah I understood. A year later, she moved. Then we met Kelsie. She was SO nice! She had a big b-day party and invited all the girls. (no boys becuz it was a makeover party.lol) It totally made me feel like I was 'part of the crowd' smilies/grin.gif
See ya, Jalinia
 

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sunshinedancer writes:

yes!!!!! MY cousins had a sleepover to see HSM 2 and didnt invite me and my sister smilies/tongue.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/angry.gif
 

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kgirl889 writes:

hay avery ur not the only one. one time the whole grade was invited to a dance party but the girl who was throwing it thought i was to baby-ish to go to a boy girl dance party. when i found out about it i went right over to her but i got scared that she might have sent it and it just had not come yet so i talked to her about the weather she thought i was such a loser. a couple days later i asked my bff to talk to her. she kept saying she would bring me an invite but she never did i knew that see would do that type thing but i would have liked it just a little better if she had just told me and not lied about it. the whole sat. of the party i sat at home crying say "i'm not the one being the baby you are" and that is when i realized i wasbeing a baby now and that it did not matter because i could have fun without going to her party!! so just keep thinking that you can have fun without the party and you will!

Soooo glad to know I'm not the only one this happened to! Your attitude it right on - I mean, I have TONS of things I could be doing instead, like practicing my jump shot or helping Scott cook something totally delish. Thanks for the support!

Later,
 

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fashion_designer writes:

Okay, here's some advice for all of you gals feeling left out: Don't freak out on your friend! It's only gonna get you in waaaaay more trouble! What you really should do is tell your friend(s) that you feel left out, and maybe invite one, two, or three of them over to your house for some one-on-one fun! Wahoo! That will make you feel way better than that whole "revenge" thing! Yay!
 

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purplerox7296 writes:

one of my friends acts really young and i dont care to much but my other friend says it to her face and says she is imature it really bugs me but its true wut do i do??
 

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Sassy_annie writes:

My best friend has awesome stuff's she brings in school like makeup,awesome bags,jewellries,stickers,and magazines.But my teacher never compiscate it because my best friend does hide it in her bag.

Sounds like a tricky situation. I'm glad your friend hasn't gotten caught yet, but she will eventually. Teachers are always onto stuff like that! You might want to warn your friend to keep her stuff at home if she doesn't want to lose it. Just a tip from the ol' Ave.

Later,
 

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alidiva9 writes:

Dear Avery,

I'm sorry you didn't get invited. But something like that happened to me. There was a new girl at school. She was so rich!! My best friend liked her and thought she was cool. One day there was this parrtner activity. I really wanted my friend. But then when I saw her she was sitting next to the new girl so she said " I'm not your friend anymore because me and her think you are weird!" to me!! I felt SOOOOO sad!! I didn't know what to do. My best friend became popular!! I tried to tell the teacher but...... she looked at me and stared.I thought she would get mad at me so I didn't. WHAT DO I DO!!!??? Help Avery!
 

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peanutpup94 writes:

My friends get together in groups alot. When I call one of them, I can hear the rest in the background having fun. I never knew about this meeting thing together until I hear them.
 

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SportzsGrl3 writes:

I never really had a close BFF. But the girl that was the closest to me I found out was talking about me behind my back.We really dont talk that much, but we hang out w/ the same group. People are so mean in my class sometimes!!! smilies/sad.gif

I hate it when people are mean on purpose. Like, what's the point? But everybody makes mistakes, too. I would tell your friend she hurt your feelings, but give her a second chance to earn your trust.

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sarbear156 writes:

My best friend doesn't really hang out with me anymore I sit with her at lunch but she doesn't talk to me anymore. I miss her big time!!!! smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif
 

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chantalbierstee writes:

All of my friends were invited to my other friend's birthday party except me!
 

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chantalbierstee writes:

my bff played with me for half of the day when i came back from my house of being sick and then played with another girl in my class that she is not really friends with!

Hey dude. I know it feels really bad when your friend doesn't want to play with you, but she needs some time to hang with her other friends, too! Maybe next time you can ask her if you all can play together. The more the merrier, right?

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BSGgirly19 writes:

I felt totally left out last year. This one girl came and stole my best friend from me! I would go home and cry thinking about what they were doing at the moment. Saying they probably hated me and never even liked me.

Don't feel left out and if you do, just talk to them about try to hang out with one of them seperatly.

That's I did.

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soccergal101 writes:

My class and I were playing soccer. I am the best girl there but, I was picked last.
 

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hollistergirl writes:

my bff from last year is really popular in 6th grade now. she like hardly talks 2 me nemore, but i'm ' popular ' and sit with them 2. IDK what 2 do, cuz she's really nice but just doesn't talk 2 me while her frnd is sitting @ my table
what should i do?

That's majorly uncool behavior. You should have a one-on-one convo with your friend, away from the lunch table. It's always best to 'fess up to how you feel--like let her know you miss her friendship and you want to stay close.

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Lunatuna writes:

Once when I was in first grade, there was a REALLY mean girl who was double-jointed, and when I was supposed to be talking, she was standing in the middle of a huge crowd, showing off, and the whole crowd was oohing and aahing, and I felt TERRIBLE. smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif
 

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coconut1010070 writes:

my friends act normal but some of them just leave me out and say just joking and laugh it out but i can actually feel the truth
I fell like BroadwayGal when she wrote her message smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif

Have you read Book 10: Just Kidding? Isabel was having the same problem! Saying "just kidding" after something mean does NOT make it OK.

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thinkpink202 writes:

My friend once "ditched" me to hang out with more popular girls. In fact, she just did it, and now I'm feeling sort of alone... smilies/sad.gif I don't know why, but she's ignoring me!!
 

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randirocs22 writes:

julie was TOTALLY wrong 4 that!!!!!!! u r SOOOOOOOO not imature she is!!!!
u should be glad u didnt go!!!!!
 

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2cool writes:

I just play cool and b really nice! smilies/smiley.gif

Awesome advice, 2cool. It seems like I'm ALWAYS saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, but that's advice even I can follow!

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groovygirl91 writes:

Well, once when I was in first grade, my friend and I traded friendship bracelets, and we were always sitting next to each other. smilies/smiley.gifBut then, one day, she became SO poular, that she totally forgot about me.I had to sit next to the teachers pet! smilies/cry.gifI was so hurt.And then, she suddenly got a BF!A BOYFRIEND!IN FIRST GRADE!I was at the point where I was fuming I was so mad!And even now, in third grade, she and the boyfriend are still together! smilies/angry.gifAnd now, I have already ripped off my friendship bracelet, and found new, better friends.(THAT DON'T BETRAY ME WITH A BOY!) smilies/grin.gif
 

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tinkerbell95 writes:

I have felt left out alot cause Im homeschooled and when I went to a private school for a year I kept getting left out cause I was different. smilies/sad.gif
 

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harrypotterrocks99 writes:

I have felt left out tons of times.Just because of my buck teeth friend and my best friend i have ever had and now since i am her neighbor and her best friend forever my other friends semm that now they can take over me and rule me and not invite me to there partys.I don't care but,i wan't people to know taht if you have a friend that your other friends hate tell them that maybe one day they will be in this problem smilies/kiss.gif
 

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dance101 writes:

i go play or talk with other ppl [people]



and

then the ppl that left me out come to me
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

once in fourth grade a few years ago, i was having a birthday party. i invited my 10 closest friends. i invited this girl, who is a good friend, but she has a disorder(kind of like kelly) called down syndrome. i luv her as a friend, but becasue of her disorder, she doesn't really know how to keep secrets. so she told these three other girls who i was friends with in like first grade, about my party(these girls weren't invited by the way). i could tell they felt left out so i felt horrible. one of them who was mean came up to me and said "why didn't u invite us to your party??" i didn't know what to say. i just said "my mom only let me invite people i have gotten together with before." it was a lie but i didn't know how to say something without hurting their feelings.it was awhile ago, but i sitll felt bed.

~~rentluver1996

Yeah, I would have no idea what to say! I mean, you weren't trying to exclude anyone. Sounds like you tried to handle it so it didn't hurt anyone's feelings, though.

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pandagiirl10 writes:

i felt left out a bunch of times.
I try to not feel left out sometimes i go and play with other friends
 

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Mgirl101 writes:

sometimes I do feel left out. especially because me and 2 friends just started a new school and sometimes they do things without me.
 

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BriBSG writes:

I will b honest i get left out alot and the thing u have 2 say 2 ur self "hey, they don't want 2 hang out w/ me thats their loss and besides if i'm striveing 2 hang out w/ someone that dosn't even like me i have a SEIRIOUS problem".......try it

Good point! You don't have to be glued to your friend's side all the time, but it's important to find buds that support you and treat your with a lil' R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

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Starrie18 writes:

Ave, i know how you feel. Once,there was a party(a sportz party, and i'm all about sports)and everyone went - exept for me. my friends told me to go anyway,but i said it was ok. Turns out i could'nt go cuz this girl spread this nasty rumor that I was dating this guy, and the girl that held the party believed the rumor.
 

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Kaija1997 writes:

oh yeah. In third grade i didn't have any friends in my class. I started hanging out with this girl. At first she was nice but then she treated me like her slave. I didn't notice until someone told me. I stood up for myself and she ignored me completly. The next year she ditched me.
 

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horseluvr84 writes:

my BFF told me I would be invited to her halloween party. smilies/grin.gif smilies/tongue.gif but, my other BFF told me she got an invite, and was attending the party. I felt left out because I wasn't invited. :O smilies/sad.gif

Yeah, that's totally awkward. The same thing happened to me! I just figured out a way to have a great time on the night of the party. No way was I going to lounge on the couch all night!

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parisdreamz96 writes:

my friends don't want to be my friend anymore. smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif
 

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heartlessangel writes:

smilies/grin.gif I went to a Halloween Party and my bffl wasn't invited.She didn't know her but i atually went and i had to tell her it wasn't all that but it was to me, and she almost searched, "when your best friend goes to the most awesome party but without you!" on the internet and she deleted it first then a second time, i found out on the second time.
 

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dancer987654321 writes:

NEVER!!!!!!!
 

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BroadwayGal writes:

I feel left out when the people I'm hanging out with are all talking about something that I have no idea about! And they are giggling and whispering. That is not a good feeling at all!!!!
 

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luv2dance4u writes:

I feel left out at lunch time when one of my friends pushes me in front of the line so she dosent get cut off and then i cant see or hear the rest of my friends talking. smilies/cry.gif
 

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dancergrl101 writes:

I felt left out when I'm with my friends at lunch and they're talking and leave me out of the conversation. I just try to ignore it and they never notice.

Everyone has their own little inside jokes, but don't be afraid to ask one of your friends to explain what's being talked about. I bet you've got some good stuff to contribute to the convo!

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skate4life76 writes:

I felt left out today when someone that acts like my friend but is not my best, iunvited EVERYONE over her house to go 2 a football game! smilies/sad.gif I LOVE sports the other girls arent really into them anyway!
 

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doubletrouble writes:

i have tons of friends but none of them invite me to their houses. i found out they were having hard times and i felt really bad for myself. but almost 20 min. later my boyfriend called to see if i wanted to go snowmobiling and i said i would meet him at his house. i stopped feeling sorry for myself and left. doubletrouble
 

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Hollywood24 writes:

I was trying out for the school play. The middle school play. That means an autitoriom to perfrom in, not a gym, about 600 people, not 60, and there were callbacks. I made callbacks! I was soooooo excited. And when I got there I had a great audtion! Or so I thought. The director wanted to hear me sing again so I hopped up on stage and sang my heart out with 8 other people. He told 5 to go sit down in the section of people that have parts, but not me and 2 other people. The director said we had lovley voices, but not for this musical. I sat back down. I was crushed. Then my friend got up there and sang and she got a part! I felt really left out, almost like crying! Then he called 10 people up to act again! I did really well, and he asked me to go sit with the students who had parts in the play! I was so excited I almost leaped into his arms! I sat down and smiled to myself. NOW I CANNOT WAIT FOR MY VERY FIRST PLAY PRACTICE ON MONDY! WOOOOHHOOO! smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif

Hurray! Good job! But, ouch. Seeing your friend get something that YOU want totally hurts. It's tough, but you gotta be happy for her and CONVINCE yourself that the scales will tip your way next time.

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Hollywood24 writes:

Everyone feels left out once in a while. When my two friends met eachother at my birthday party I felt totally left out. I mean, with all their passing notes to eachother, and calling mefor eachothers phone numbers, they even shared a gym locker. I still haven't found out a way to deal, but I will sooner or later. smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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parisdreamz96 writes:

today at lunch my friends told me that they didn't want to be friends with me anymore. smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif i was a little mad at them but i didn't tell them. smilies/angry.gif then today one of my friends said that she wanted to be friends with me again. smilies/grin.gif smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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redsoxfreak24 writes:

last year when i was in 5th grade my teacher was new so some people thought they could do whatever they wanted one of my friends(who is now the queen of mean) passed notes with my other friend. it was this whole stapled pieces of paper they would write on it and bring it back when my teacher was teaching. she sat next to me and she always made sure that i couldn't see what she was writing i got so mad at them but one of them and i made up and the QOM acts so nice to everyone but me now anyway i found out that they were planning a thing to go to aeropostale with my 2 bffs i was mad!!!!!! smilies/angry.gif
 

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allstar2152 writes:

in 5th grade when ever we played kickball i just felt out of the croud so i showed them how far i cold kick and i was in!!!

Cool! That's a great thing to try when you're feeling left out. Think about what you're confident in and what YOU like to do and what YOU like to talk about. Try suggesting those things to your friends and see if you can all share in something TOGETHER.

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parisdreamz96 writes:

every day my friend talks to this other girl and i feel left out. smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif so i just walk. and when i do tlk 2 her and the other girl, my friend hardly tlks 2 me. i feel sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo left out!!! smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif
 

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4kicks2931 writes:

Avery,
I felt so bad for you when I read Freaked Out. Being left out STINKS. I know what it feels like and it is NO fun at all.
 

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brebear13 writes:

last year, you had to have even group and i was the one always left with none of my friends. i hurt my feelings. thye wanted ot sit w/ me but a girl stole my seat. no one wanted her there. she was mean about it.
 

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lol!! my name is mia writes:

i was left out once when my bff, kate, got invited to this fabuloso party where there were gonna be all these popular people. i got so excited when she was invited, because i was sure i would be too. i wasn't. the person giving the party said that i was immature, too, Avery. kate decided she didn't like me, since all the popular people didn't. smilies/cry.gif

Whaaat? That's totally lame. Doing things and believing things that the "popular" kids tell you to do is like being a robot. Think for yourself, girls! Anyone have advice for our girl mia?

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Gilde writes:

i know how u feel. Everyone in my class got invitated to bday party, exept me! Even boy who didn't like it nobody. Well, Avery! that rude Julie Faber is not cool. I know 1: Invitate all or only your closest friends! right? I were happy to be with my older sister. Because after party we had costume party. I was Jennifer Lopez (just cuz, my biggest sister said so)... & I was in time! You are super cool!
 

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catlover111 writes:

my 2 bffs always pair off when we have partners so im stuck with weird people or people I don't like.But the worst is that they always come up to me and "we pity you with this little smile.It drives me crazy and i hate it but the rest of the time there so nice.What should I do Avery?

You should totally be cool with the "weird" people and EVEN the people you don't like. You're probably like, "What? Yeah, right." But, I'm serious! Show your friends that being friendly to EVERYbody isn't something that should be pitied. Being exclusive and clique-y isn't all that much to be admired, is it?

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babymegan90 writes:

Purplerox7,
If they knew you were free that day they did on purpose. Your friends wouldent want you to feel elft put. I dont think they really are your friends but you can make that choice up your self.
Advice Chica

 

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purplerox7 writes:

Avery,
u r really cool, can u help me? my friends had a sleepover and didn't invite me. it was a day they knew i was free what should i do?
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xox11jaymee writes:

my friend jessie is always all over my freinds kelly..and pays no attention 2 me!! I was jer best freind for 2 years...not now!!i dont even know if we r freinds now!!
 

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kaitlinisfamouss writes:

my "friend" is sumtimes mean to me! can you help avery?
 

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hdstewart123 writes:

Sometimes I have friends over for get togethers and I don't invite many people only my closest girl friends and boy friends every one gets mad at me but I now the feeling when you get left out so the next party I had I invited a lot more people!!I felt really good after that! smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif

Yo hdstewart,

I mean, it's totally cool to just have a few people over for a sleepover or a playdate, but it is important to make people feel welcome and included when you're having a bigger get-together, like a cookout or something.

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dramastar writes:

So one day I had to stay in for a little bit so when i went otside after that all my bffs were talking about something and then I asked them what they were talking about ad they said nothing! It turned out they were talking about a summer vacation party that I wasent invited to! smilies/cry.gif Even thogh i asked them why they dident invite me and they said that I'm always busy in the summer and they could make room for our newest freind.were still bffs smilies/grin.gif
 

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~luv da Rockies~ writes:

i felt left out when my ex-bff ganged all my friends up on me so that they were all mad at me when i didn't do anything. Then she went to her b-day party. I had heard all the other details about the party, so i went! it was sooooooooooooo fun-E 2 see the look on her face when i arrived. but the worst part was that she lied 2 me about not letting me come. she said that her aunt didn't know blah, blah, blah instead of just telling me the truth. if she told me the truth instead of hiding it, i wouldn't have gone, and she would've had a better time!
 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Thats what happened to me once and i took it really hurtful because the girl was showing off about the party but in the end i relized that i shouldn't get all upset and let it bring me down. I think its a really good thing to have a positive attitude smilies/smiley.gif in these kind of situations! And also my friend told me it wasn't a kind of party that was so glamorous like what she was telling everyone!!! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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catlover111 writes:

A few days ago a girl in my classs had a Halloween party and my 2 best friends got invited even though they hate her and i didnt. I was hurt but then i said that it's her problem and that she can ivite who she wants cause it's none of my business. I just wish that my BFF didn't brag about the party.
 

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Aloha_Girl101 writes:

Recently my friend got invited to a Halloween party and my other friend and I didn't get invited. At first I was mad but then I was like, "Hey, she can invite who she wants!" And it all turned out okay in the end!

Awesome attitude! You rock!

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FashionGirl313 writes:

one time this new girl came to my school and shes so nice not really shy but a couple weeks later i want her to be my new friend but she did not say anything. At lunch time there is two girls crowded around her, and i said whats going on, but she said leave me alone brat! i was embarassed shes showing off shes like popular now but today we became friends.

It's cool that you became friends, even after all that.

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7lilgill7 writes:

Since me and my friends get along so well I just go and tell them if I feel left and they try so hard to make me feel"left in"My friends ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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stinky writes:

when i felt left out i started to cry a little bit and i have trouble with crying when i feel left out i need help]

Sometimes it's hard to keep it all inside when you feel totally emotional. But, dude, you don't have to! Try talking to your friends or an adult you trust as soon as you start to feel upset. That way you can work things out without tears.

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sidnee#8 writes:

Avery I was left out when my friend and I went to the mall and then came along the boy that she liked and he said that he would bye her a milk shake. He said well I would not want to leave your friend behind and she said oh she is busy anyway. Well I love my bff! And I like boys as friends. Like you just friends and sports! Well thanx you rock!
 

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babymegan90 writes:

Yeah thats mean. It is your b-day and you should be able to hang put with anyone there. If they dont liek you or want to hang out why are they there? Think about who your REAL friends are next time.
 

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annamation writes:

I was left out at my birthday a few years ago! smilies/sad.gif It was fun, but everbody else was hanging out with somebody else but me!
 

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babymegan90 writes:

I have felt left out lots of times. Well I just deal with it my talking to my friends about it.

Cool, I'll def try that next time.

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DancingQueen234 writes:

i wasnt invited to a bday party and all my friends were i asked them why and they say becaause u are so mean



fyi i am not mean it was so stupid smilies/grin.gif
 

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soccerjox1818 writes:

two girls ally and erin ALWAYS leave me out!!! I hate it! smilies/kiss.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/tongue.gif
 

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loachell95 writes:

Well My one friends left me out on my birthday party, but my other friend ask if i wanted to play with her, or when ever i got left out i ask if i can play with them too....

Hey, that's an awesome way to deal with feeling left out. You rock!

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helperforever writes:

every one in the entire fifth grade got invited to a party but not me and i thought i was friends with the girl who had it but i guess not i mean she lied to me... she said she sent it smilies/angry.gif
 

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Rach writes:

i have felt left out heaps of times. like my bff's bday party. cous i went to a diffrent school i wasnt invited in thier convasation. I hated it. i didnt want to ruin my bff's birthday though. i said i wast feeling well so i could go home. my bff came arround latter on that day and i was so upset. and most of all because i said i felt sick and i didn't she thougt i didn't want to be there! smilies/sad.gif

Hey dude. That sounds like a tough situation for sure. Have you tried telling your friend that you totally DID want to be there, but you felt left out of the conversation? I bet she would completely understand where you're coming from. It's hard when you don't know anyone else at the party!

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mr.martayrocks11 writes:

With parties I know that I'VE been to lots of parties so when everyone talks about it I DO get anoyed but it will be old news eventually...
 

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katanigirl1996 writes:

I feel left out when my bff is busy with another friend. Even though I have to share my bff, I still feel left out.
 

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Morganpup writes:

when i was left out i was very sad


morgan smilies/smiley.gif
 

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SparkyMooMoo writes:

I usually play tetherball with four people but one day my friends were playing 2 player and said "Can I play"?
And they said "It`s a 2 player game".
"No it`s not"
"Yes it is"
"Lets do rock paper sissors to find out who`s playing and who`s not".
And I think that they purposely did something so that I would get out but I mean couldn`t it be 4 players just this once?
I felt really bad, I ignored them for awhile but then I noticed that their my friends( one of them itsm`t anymore not because of that though) and we should just make up because it was just a mistake between me and them, they thought tetherball was a 2 player and I thought it was a 4 player. I still feel pretty rotten.

Yeah, it does feel pretty bad when your friends leave you out of something, but it's cool that you realized it was just a mistake. Like when Katani and I were both running for class president. I was sooo mad at her at first, but then I realized she wasn't really trying to take over my territory. (You can read about it in Book 5: Promises, Promises.)

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pinkglam1811 writes:

Parties now are usually just with your closest friends, so I don't get left out very often. Sometimes when I am invited to somthing with all my friends, but I can't make it I feel a little left out. Like one time my friend had this party and I was on vacation, they had a great time and I really wish I had been there.
 

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