When Friends and Sibs Collide

Hey girls!

My older sister Kelley is really special to me. She is one of the funniest and most honest people I know, no question. But, Kelley has autism, so it’s harder for her to know when the BSG and I need some quality BFF time and leave us alone.

It’s part of who she is, and I wouldn’t change her for the world, but sometimes she can be sooo frustrating! And you know what? Autism isn’t fully to blame—I bet tons of girls out there have siblings who like to be included in private friend stuff. I mean, I’m glad Kelley likes my friends, but they’re MY friends. Sometimes, I just want to be with them on my own, without my sister following us around.

And then I have the opposite problem with my other sister, Patrice. She’s in high school, and she sometimes acts like she OWNS our house. Like she’ll come into the room where the BSG and I are chilling and totally kick us out! Hey, other people live here too, Miss High School Attitude.

So what’s the Kgirl solution? Let it go, and then talk it out. It’s not easy, but when Kelley or Patrice make me really annoyed while my friends are around, I try to just let it go for the moment and talk to them about it later, in private. That way nobody’s feelings get hurt.

you tell us ...

It's like siblings always have a knack for interrupting quality BFF time. How do you deal?
TTYL,

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Skywriter10 writes:

	I Tell my dad or mom

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lovesky150 writes:

	i understand u i am the youngest i dont have any fun but mi big sis is mi best friend but sometimes she changes on me i dont know wat to do Yeah, it seems like big sisters are nice to you one minute and then completely ignore you the next! What's up with that? You should try asking her for some quality sis-to-sis time every now and then. I think that's what I'm going to try with Patrice. TTYL,

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lovesky150 writes:

	luv the story see ya lata

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dancergrl101 writes:

	Well, I just ask my friend if she wants to go somewher else so they don't bother me.

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BSGatheart13 writes:

Hey Katani,
I know exactly how that feels (I am the oldest btw), but luckily I have found a great system to let everyone feel included and leave some private time for myself too. Normally when one of my friends gets dropped off, my mom talks to her mom for a while. During this time, my friend and I normally stay and talk with the grownups and the rest of the family. When my friend's mom leaves I always ask my friend what she wants to do, I recommend a board game or something like that. I ask if it would be okay if one of my siblings joins us. The more the merrier when it comes to board games. After we play a game, we normally head to my room to talk or play other games by ourself. Sometimes my youngest sibling would like attention. My friends don't have any problem giving her that, which is perfect. Since younger kids have short attention spans, just a little bit of attention is needed to cure their desire to be with you. I use this almost every time i have friends over. It works really well because everyone is included at least once and my friends benefit from having them around. I get to have some time to myself with my friends in between. Besides, I know that next time my siblings have friends over that they will let me in on their fun as well. siblings can help cure that boring don't know what to do time.
Hope this helps!

~BSGatheart13
P.S.
Bored: siblings can help fix that boring don't know what to do time.....they will do anything to entertain you or help you think of something fun

Hey girl, those suggestions are great! I'm so gonna use that board game advice next time.

TTYL,

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Chichiag writes:

	I promis my sister a whole day just us! Oh, hi Heidy08. I hope you see this post so you can see I said hi.

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heidy08 writes:

	hey i am new here i hope i will meet lots of new friends

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Hollywood24 writes:

	Maybe try spending some great quality time with you're sisters when you aren't with you're friends. THen find something for them to do when you are with friends. That way they will stay busy. When you're friends are gone spend some more time with you're sisters. Hope it helps!

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greenbeen writes:

	I know how you feel. I have younger sibblings too. One is always following me around and the other is just plain rude to me. The way I deal with it is by ignoring them and then talking to my parents about it later. It really helps.

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hope365 writes:

	a good way to deal is to tell the 'rents! they totally have power over sibs!

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7lilgill7 writes:

	I try to be nice to my siblings but it is hard they are just so annoying! 7lilgill7

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loachell95 writes:

	I be nice to my siblings and i tell them nicely if they would get out!!!

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kia writes:

	im the youngest, i never understood the point from one of the older sibling this helps a lot

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COgirl writes:

	katani, when my lil sis interrupts my quality bff time my bff and i normaly start talking about things she doesn't understand or care about. This normaly works for younger siblings, but i don't know about older siblings. hope this helped, Katie in Vermont

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Starrie18 writes:

	Kgirl, I have 3 sisters that are 13,12& 9.Sophie is really bossy when my BFFS are over!

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babymegan90 writes:

	Ya. Just walk away. If you tell your parents they will end up calling you a tattle tale. That would be worse. Advice Chica

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babymegan90 writes:

	I just call my friends and we set up where and when we will meet when my brother is gone out with his friends or gone to dance. Later Katani.

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ANSG writes:

	I have two older brothers .They always make fun of me .I just walk away it is the easiest way or I tell my mom and dad. Dido, Alison

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