Do Your Own Thing

Girls, I’m here to talk about those confusing creatures who can burp in your face one minute and be super nice to you the next—yup, this is about BOYS.

Some of us want attention from boys ... others don’t. Either way, getting attention from boys doesn’t have to be to see if they like you or not. Some boys are actually pretty cool just as friends.

But, exactly HOW do you get either kind of attention from boys? Well, let me share three things I’ve learned so far from having a brother, boy neighbors, and like 1,000 crushes.

Get positive attention: Positive attention from boys is actually a BONUS for doing the things that make YOU happy. Like, being the first in your school to score five goals in one game, or getting the highest grade on a math test—boys notice that. Achieving one of YOUR goals is the kind of thing that makes boys think, “Wow, she’s pretty cool.”

Avoid negative attention: Negative attention usually comes from doing things that are, quite simply, NOT you. Being known for wearing the shortest skirts or the highest heels doesn’t necessarily get you the kind of attention you want from boys. And if it does, those probably aren’t the boys who are interested in you as a person—and being liked for who you are inside, I think, is WAY more important.

Play it cool: Confession: I get all giggly and flustered around boys like Dillon sometimes, but being all flirty and intense can freak guys out a little. Casually talking to your crush about class or his soccer team will show him how cool and friendly you are. Then, if you’re too scared to let him know how you REALLY feel, you can have fun being friends and see where it takes you down the road.

Or, take a few minutes to answer our latest survey -- it's all about boys and dating and stuff!

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But, boy issues aren't only about getting him to notice you. What are YOUR problems? Let's see if we can work them out together.

XOXO,

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thinkpink16 writes:

	Hey Swimmgirl! You are not hopeless!Just keep talking to him and try to become closer. Eventually maybe you will be ready to tell him how you feel about him! Hope that helps! ThinkPink16 xoxo

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swimmgirl writes:

	there is this boy i know and i like him but i don't know if he likes me. but we are friends. and next year there is this camp that i am going to go to and maybe he might tell me how he really fells. till then what should i do. i am hope less.

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GLAM!@# writes:

	well i have this boy friend the relationship went great until he didn't come to school for the last week. we talked for a little while until the relationship started to fade away we're still together but i don't know if i should still stay with him or break up and just stay friends.

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Vintage Girl writes:

	littlemiss, Ur situation is hard, but u need to make sure he knows your name b fore u want 2 dance.... cuz it can be realy embarrasing if hes like "And who R U." try saying hi in the halls even if his friends R there become his friend and hang out with his group. GET 2 NO HIM -Vintage Girl

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Vintage Girl writes:

	When I try to get attention from a certain boy sometimes another boy gets a crush on me and it is hard to tell him I dont like him.

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littlemis writes:

I like this boy in the other grade 6 class. But he's part of the popular group so when there's a dance he's either away at hockey or surrounded by his group of friends! So, if I ever get the courage to ask him to dance I'm afraid his friends will laugh at me, or if I want to get him alone to ask I can't because his friends are there! What do I do??? And also I don't know if he likes me back so I need help! BIG TIME!!!

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Lauralee1 writes:

	i lke a boy but i dont know if he lkes me? how do you know if he does what is the signs? XOXO lauralee1

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kamarielle writes:

	I like this boy but I don't know if I should ask him to go to the end of the year dance.

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Sparklygirl writes:

	I have never had a crush or anyone crushing on me but theres this new boy in my school and i think he has a crush on me.But i don't know if he does.Help me please!

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kinda2808 writes:

	I LOVE ME AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO WRITE

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stephylol writes:

	honey im with you i read both books and u r boy crazy like me but Iknow how keep my body 2 myselfand just be me thats as easy as it gets

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destinyhope555 writes:

	Izzy1846 mayb u should rly focus on 1 guy, 2 at the most. sum guys rn't rly worth droolin ova if they dont even kno ur there(ive been there). just b urself n tlk 2 them n get 2 kno them a bit more. then u'll rly kno if u rly like them or not

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Izzy1846 writes:

	my problemo is that i have a crush on like 4 guys!!!!! i see one c looking at me, the other three hardly ever. but the one i really love yeah i mean love is j hes really funny, but he doesnt look at me at all!!! HELLLPPP! -izzy

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Kikos writes:

Boys are noisy and are nose-pickers but why are we talking about this?Guys need there own space.Somewhere where they could not think about girls that crowd them.So here's my tip to everyone;Remember he's just like you.So guys don't wear makeup and skirts.So?Doesn't mean that you have to gossip about guys.Give the guys some space and then get to know him.Remember make sure he feels comfortable around you and you guys know each other.Feeling comfortable is the key to everything!

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pisofi writes:

	Sapphire177- I think u have a sure bet that he likes u!!!

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Hottie101911 writes:

	thank you girls rock i am so happy and we in front of our freinds they fait and we and stop he want dump me cuz he said he loves me and we act all no matter what and we love each other

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gymnast97 writes:

	sidnee#8, your awesome at giving advice!!!!so i was wondering if you could give me some....well, my best friend hates my other really good friend, except my really good friend thinks my best friend is her friend!!!also, my best friend is constantly talking about her behind her back. i feel like i'm caught in the middle!!!kinda hard to explain understand!PLEASE HELP!!!! xoxo gymnast97

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kashmir9 writes:

	Hi, i am kashmir9 how are you i am fine i just love the BSG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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binkysue writes:

	YOU ROCK MAEVE!!!!!!!!!!! HAPPY EARTH DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

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sapphire177 writes:

	Dear Maeve, I like this guy and school, and I think he likes me. He constantly messes around with me and stuff with his friends but is nice and stuff like that when he's not. Anyone who wants to answer this plz do because I don't know what is going on. Is he trying to hide that he likes me???

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BSG Fan writes:

	what i like about you

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urlilathlete writes:

dear anybody who's doesnt know how to clues that u like somebody,
i know how u feel. same simple problem same confusing answer.
If ur brave:tell him how u feel. ask him out get his # dont call him a whole lot unless he likes clingy gf's
if ur shy:flirt like: smile to him in class, wave to him when he walks past u, if hes getting a drink from the water fountain stand in line behind him, try out for the same sports he does but dont do these tips 2 often or he will think ur acting wierd. so still b ur self
the luv d.,
urlilathlete

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meshnance writes:

	this guys lyke me but i lyke dont know what to do.

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lisafrankgirl writes:

	there is this boy and he is from spain and me from. well i don't like him what should i do.????? -lisafrankgirl

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punkprincess12 writes:

	I like this boy and I cant ask him out or can talk to him so what should I do guys? HELP PLZ I NEAD EDVICE. thx love punkprincess12

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wishuponastarr writes:

	If you know a nice boy and you like him , try to get to know him first then make your move and say you like him!

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socerluver96 writes:

	he love love loves my bff!

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Smartiegirl writes:

Dear Pinkymonkey6,
Try to get the guy to like your BFF. Talk to the guy alot about you BFF. Don't say she likes him, just mention how FABULOUS she is. AND, to get him off your back, just say how cool you think he is, but say how you aren't right for him. Make it seem as though you aren't right for him AT ALL. Also, if he seems a little heartbroken, say how you would like to hang out with him sometimes, but just as friends. After all, you still want to be his pal. Hope this works!
Luv,
Smartiegirl

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rentluver1996 writes:

	dear lunatuna, yeah my valentine's day DID stink. but now i am just friends with everyone again and i am friends with my ex-crush too.

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