Get to Know Your Crush!

Hi girls!

You know, sometimes I wish I were in the movies. Well, actually, I wish that ALL the time! But, I find myself especially jealous of those girls in Hollywoodland who get PUSHED together with a cute boy by outside forces. Like, Gabriella and Troy when they sang Karaoke. It ALWAYS works out that the boy ends up liking the girl and the girl ends up liking the guy, and everyone’s happy.

But, what if you and your crush AREN’T pushed together… ever? Like, you’re not in the same class, you don’t have the same friends, and you feel like you’re just meant to stare at him from afar… oh, so romantic!

Romantic, but frustrating. So, how DO you get to know your crush when it seems like the forces of nature are keeping you APART? Read on for my secrets.

Use your resources. If your crush is in your friend’s class (lucky!), talk to her about casually dropping your name in here and there. Like, “Hey, that was a great story you read today in class. My friend Charlotte is a really good writer, too.” Or, if he plays on your brother’s soccer team, go to the games and say “hi” or “good game”—not too hard, right?

Focus on his strengths. If you are talking to your crush casually from time to time and need another excuse to talk to him, think about his strengths and what he’s into. Like, if he’s really into music, you could ask him to recommend which Rolling Stones CD is the best to get for your dad or something. Also, everyone likes to talk about stuff that they’re good at. Bring up a sport he likes or ask him a question about something he knows a LOT about. Chances are, he won’t give you a one-word answer!

Be BOLD. No, really, you gotta be bold sometimes when there are no forces of nature pushing you and your crush together. You have to make it happen for yourself! Yeah, you can have your BFF talk to his friend, but that route can take AGES for anything to happen. Sometimes, you just gotta go up to him, smile, and say “hi!” It shows confidence and friendliness—which are GREAT qualities to have. And, it’s not like you have to single him out, either. Say hey-what’s-up to all his friends, or challenge his group of guys to a soccer match against your group of girls. Sometimes things seem a lot easier when you have your girls behind you!

Crushing from afar might seem impossible, but there ARE ways to get to know your crush when you’re not already in the same group of friends, or neighbors, or picked to sing Karaoke together. Got an idea? Share the wealth! (And, if you have a few minutes to spare, take the time to answer the questions on our NEW bf/gf survey!)

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your turn ...

Forces of nature aside, what are some of YOUR ways to get to know your crush?

XOXO,

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sidnee#8 writes:

Thinkpink16,
How are ya Girl? I have not been on the site because me and my family. went away for the weekend. But what happend to the other maeve advice colum???????????? smilies/sad.gif

I guess we will just have to uses this one! So this is where I will be if you need me K! -Sidnee#8 smilies/cool.gif

Oh! I can answer this one. The other advice column, "Do Your Own Thing," is having some technical difficulties at the moment. But, there's no reason why we can't hang out here! We'll try and get it back up asap. Love yous!

XOXO,

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sidnee#8 writes:

	fashion_designer, LOL That is great advice!!!!!!!! And such a good idea I love the crazy thing! You rock! That is really good advice thanks for sharing it with all of us! Go Girl Go! -Sidnee#8

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sidnee#8 writes:

Sweet110ipod,
OK I am a little confused does he like, like you or just likes you because your friend told him too? And if he likes you he sould notice you! Anyway If he is older or younger that does not matter at all K! So just go for it if you can and I know the right thing will happen so just go for it when you can and I know he is not in any of your classes but that does not mean that you can't like him! K! So just talk in bettween classes or after school if you can! K! Tell me if that help K! -Sidnee#8

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sidnee#8 writes:

JBleu,
It you are not ready for a boy friend then just tell him that you are not ready for a Boy friend but you would love to just be friends and when I am ready I would love to go out with you! That is all you have to do K! And don't freak out a lot of Girls are not ready for a Boy Friend yet so be your self and when are ready then things will happen they why that they are so post to happen K! Tell me if that helps K! -Sidnee#8 smilies/cool.gif

Great advice, Sidnee#8!

XOXO,

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Sweet110ipod writes:

	There's a boy in grade 7 not in my class but he's so adorable, but he doesn't notice me. But he likes me because my friend told me shes in his class.

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JBleu writes:

There's a boy in my class who likes me, and he's really funny, but sometimes he tries too hard. He's nice, and pretty good-looking. He's asked me out several times, but I'm not sure if I'm ready for a boyfriend. What should I do? smilies/sad.gif

You should definitely wait to go out with him (or any boy!) if you don't feel ready. It's def a compliment that he keeps asking you out, but he needs to understand that "no, thank you" means "NO, THANK YOU!" But, it's not an all-or-nothing deal. Keep telling him that you'd like to be friends, but that you're not ready to be bf/gf with anyone. There's nothing wrong with that!

XOXO,

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Smartgirl1222 writes:

	Well, all my bff's have crushes on the cute boy I like. I just stay casual and try to be normal. I sometimes chase him and his friends down when he does something boyish (like steal my bff's hat). The only prob is that I sometimes can make it so obvious I like him. I try to just chill.

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fashion_designer writes:

Okay, first of all, what I do to get my crush to talk to me is when I'm walking in the hallways I'll do something crazy! Sometimes I'll jump on my friend's back and she'll give me a piggyback ride! When he see's us, he laughs and asks us what were doing! Plus, that way, I have my best buddies there to help me start a conversation when my mind just goes blank and I can't think about anything except for the fact that I'm talking to him and oh my gosh he's speaking to me and..... Okay, I'm gonna stop now!

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Ivynow741,
Many girls go through this with no topic starters. I would start a convesation about like the really hard test that is coming up because all of u guys have to do it and also try to start a conversation about what he likes becuase say if he is into music then start a conversation about music and if he is into sports start talking about the nfl football team that is near u guys! i hope that helps with your freeze on topic starters!
ThinkPink16 smilies/cheesy.gif

xoxo

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thinkpink16 writes:

	Dear 4kicks101, That question is a very obvious one!! I think it means that he really likes u becuase he is probably staring at u becuase he cant have the corage to go up and talk to u and he gets pinkish becuase he is blushing face it girl he likes u! Do u like him?? Tell me soon!! Hope that helps clear ur question up!! ThinkPink16

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julissa530 writes:

	some boys in my class is my friend and there one boy that so cute

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4kicks101 writes:

WHAT DOES IT MEEN WHEN THIS GUY KEEPS STARING AT ME AND THEN WHEN I TALK TO HIM HIS FACE GETS ALL PINKISH!

Pinkish? Hmmm... that sounds like he might have a little crush on you! Even though it's perfectly normal, boys and girls get all embarrassed when they get crushes. And, we all know that when you get embarrassed, your face usually turns pink! I'd just smile, say hello, and if he's a nice guy, try to get to know him better!

XOXO,

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babymegan90 writes:

spellbee12,
just tlak to the guy. I have alot of guy friends. Just because i am friends with them that dosent mean i am dating him. If people start spreading rumors that you are dating the boy just tell them that you are not. Tell your dad that you are just friends with the guy and you want to get to know him. If he is already gone out palying soccer just hang out with him after school. Like you and your friends and him could go to the park or somthing liek that. Hoep this helps you.
Babymegan90

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thinkpink16 writes:

	Dear Lollypop3, There usually is really no way that you can tell if he likes you because it can either be obvious or be confusing. What I would say is start talking to him more and see if he is interested in you i think if u get together with him more often than you will start to see if he has feelings for you!! Hope that helps! ThinkPink16

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spellbee12 writes:

i want 2 talk 2 my crush,but @ my school,if u talk 2 a guy ur automatialy datng.i no him from the group were in 2 gether,but i cant talk 2 him @ lunch bcuz by the time i sit down,hes already outside playng soccer!i want 2 hang w/him,but my rents (mostly my dad)wud FREAK OUT if i hung w/a guy,even though my dad said i can like whoever i want as long as hes not a jerk.i just cant seem 2 go up 2 him & tell him,though im a outgong person.
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! smilies/sad.gif

Wow... it sounds like you guys are famous or something. You talk once, and all of a sudden the tabloids say you're getting married! I know what that's like, though. It's really up to the both of you on whether to ignore what other people think and become friends, or to chill until people can be a little less concerned about that stuff.

XOXO,

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ivynow741 writes:

	i envy a lot of u guys, i dont hav any guy friends because im shy. i dont know how to start a conversation with them, besides if i do, they'll ignore me and walk away Eh... those boys aren't the kinds of guys you want to have as friends anyway. Read above for tips on how to start conversations with boys. You might find that it's a lot like starting conversations with girls! XOXO,

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spellbee12 writes:

maevendancebsg3,
omg this is soooooo like freddie on icarly!!!!!!!what i wud do is go up 2 him & ask him if hes jealous.if no;good evrything will work out.if yes,then try 2 tell him as gently as u can that ur just not in2 him rite now,and u probably never will.he might b upset 4 awhile,but he'll get over it.Hopes this helps!
ps;if u ever do get FEELNGS 4 him,c if he'll go out w/u.might b even bettr than datng his bff smilies/wink.gif

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear MeavenDanceBSG3,
When I was younger I used to love the show Lizzie Mcguire, i dont know if you liked that show but i sure did! The boy who is ur guy friend reminds me of lizzies best guy friend gordo and in a lot of the episodes he gets jealous of the boy she is dating. I think if this was me i would talk to your guy friend because maybe he is feeling different feelings because maybe he actually likes you. I definitely if i was in this situation i would be so confused but i think you should go along with your boyfriend and if things get totally crazy i will be here if u need anymore advice!
Tootles!
ThinkPink16 xoxo smilies/cheesy.gif

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lollypop3 writes:

I like this boy, and i know he likes me. He was even gonna ask me out, but i got back 2gether with my old boyfriend. (that relationship is now history) But there are two problems. We are in different classes, and he is in 8th grade and im in 7th. what do i do?

Hmmm... it doesn't sound like you'll be seeing each other a lot unless you hang out after school. Good relationships rely on time spent together, so think about whether you can devote that kind of time right now to a new relationship!

XOXO,

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skycheck writes:

	I like this boy and I do not know if he likes me! Herein lies almost every girl's problem! Because it's not really common to just ask a guy point blank: "Do you like me?" it takes time to figure these things out. In the meantime, you can get to know him better as a friend. No need to rush :-) XOXO,

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3cheese9 writes:

	omg i would hate if my crush got out!!!!!!!!!

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maeve77 writes:

	I like a guy. I don't know if he likes.

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violetglow writes:

He's a little awkward sometimes. Sometimes he doesn't have a simgle romantic bone in his body, and sometimes he drives me insane with trying to make everyone laugh. He's really cute though and really nice. I tried to get over him, but I can't! What should I do?!?

Drama! No one can escape! Sometimes, we really have no control over who we have crushes on. It's almost scientific fact that you have chemistry with some people and with others, you don't. If you feel like you have a connection with this boy, try to get to know him better. I bet there are sides to him that aren't so awkward and that don't drive you crazy.

XOXO,

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MaevenDanceBSG3 writes:

Maeve, I have a question. I have a best guy friend and there is this other guy. Both are in my class. The other guy I have a crush on, so I asked him out and he said yes! My guy friend knows that I like him and is friends with my crush. When I told him that we were going on a date, he just said " Oh! I'm so happy for you!" in a way that says " I'm faking this". He seems upset so I think that he is jealous that I made a date with my crush and my guy friend likes me. Is it true? Because you are like a Boy expert. smilies/grin.gif

Ha! Well, I dunno about expert, but I've seen plenty of movies that cover the whole boy/girl thing. It sounds like your guy friend might have a little crush on you, so he's probably feeling a little bit jealous of the other guy. But, it WILL pass eventually. In the meantime, be sensitive to his feelings and try not to let your relationship with his friend interfere with their "guy time," you know? Good luck!

XOXO,

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rentluver1996 writes:

OMG why did you take away the "do your on thing" page?? everybody loved it and went to it for advice!! will you put up a new one??

thanks!!

rentluver1996

p.s. maeve- i tried out for a musical and i got posted on the callbacks list!! it was really scary but trying out was worth it! wish me luck on callbacks 2moro!

Hi! I'm so sorry to all about the "Do Your Own Thing!" page! It's OK, though. We can hang out here just like we did before. Good luck on the callbacks!

XOXO,

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Betty writes:

I don't know if this dude likes me or not he is incedibly cute he likes sports, but impressing him is hard.Maeve HELP!

Impressing him? Hey, he should be impressing YOU! Just kidding! Impressing a boy can happen when you least expect it. I feel like guys aren't just into girls with skills in sports and stuff. Many guys get impressed by kindness, modesty, and sincerity. So, don't feel like you need to do cartwheels to impress him. Just be the good person you are!

XOXO,

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beardog writes:

	i have a crush and i think that he likes me. everyone thinks that he likes me and i dont nom what to do Hmmm... my best advice in this sitch is not to let anyone else influence what you do next. You can choose to get to know this boy better, or you can choose not to! It's totally up to you, so tune out what everyone else is saying and figure out a plan that you feel good about! XOXO,

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icy.bookworm writes:

	Start out friends! Don't flirt or try to be obvious. A good relationship starts out with a good friendship, always. Often, it comes together!

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miamia22 writes:

	YOU GOT THAT RIGHT SISTER!

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B.F.F writes:

	This guy likes me because his friend is in my class he told me that and I like him to the dude that likes me looks at me alot and everything like that Idk what to do. Help Me!! It all depends on what YOU want to do, girl! If you want to get to know him better, go for it! If the thought of him liking you kind of freaks you out, that's OK, too! XOXO,

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JonasForLife writes:

	DOes anyone have any topics to tlak about? Those really help sometimes. Like Maeve says, ask about what ind of sports he likes, and if you don't really know anything about it (or don't really like it) either ask him who his favorite players are, what the point of the game is, or what team he likes, things like that. Or tell him about your sport. What have you got to lose?

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JonasForLife writes:

I kinda like this guy, but I only like him cuz I think he likes me. He's into sports and we have most of our classes together. We don't really talk though, but I am kind of friends with one of his friends. It's hard cuz I don't know how he feels. I'm really confused!! Plus, I'm like Charlotte--a HUGE blusher!! Like I'll blush at almost nothing. What do I do about THAT?!

Sadly, there's not much you can do about blushing. It just HAPPENS, usually at bad times. But, almost EVERYONE does it, so there's nothing to be ashamed of. More importantly, if you only like this boy because he likes you, think about whether it's a REAL crush that goes both ways. Just because someone likes you, it doesn't mean you have to like him back... but, it does make you notice him, doesn't it? LOL!

XOXO,

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blizzardgal5 writes:

	DEAR MAEVE, I HAVE NEVER REALLY HAD TO GET TO KNOW MY CRUSH BECAUSE THEY HAVE ALWAYS BEEN MYBOY BFF'S ALL I DO IS FIND OUT WHAT THEY LIKE AND HANG OUT WITH THEM

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sidnee#8 writes:

Nikkoli,
This is one of thoes he cares what other people think. Show him you don't care what other people think! Ask him out in private. And ask him this....... do you care what other people think? If he says no they say um it seems like you do to me your friends are telling you not to go out with me! And if he says yes then ask him why?!?! And if he says yes then this does not seem like the kind of guy you can have! Go for what you want! K! Tell me if that helps! K!
-Sidnee#8 smilies/cool.gif

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sk8tergirl1997 writes:

well i hav this crush but the problem is that me and my bff like him and he asked me out i dont noe wat 2 do!!!!!!!!!!!and he said he doesnt like my bff he has soooooooooo much feelings 4 me thats wat he said but my friend doesnt believe me please help me please please smilies/tongue.gif

Such a tough situation! It's like choosing between your friend and a boy. But, if you are being honest and upfront about the situation with your friend, then it's her job to accept it and believe you. If you feel like going out with this boy will cause you and your BFF to fight, then think about whether going out with him is worth it :-)

XOXO,

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sk8tergirl1997 writes:

	hey that was some great advise now i will get 2 noe my crush

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heartlessangel writes:

	Some ways to get to know your crush is to approch him not nervous and be friends with him before so you get to know him a lot better. Like what i do, for me it isn't that hard to know your crush if your me, i am not obsessd but we used to talk a lot in our old class.

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babymegan90 writes:

	xoaeaglexo19, If you think you like him you must like him! Start out as friends and get to know him .If you think you just like him as a friend just stay friends! Babymegan90

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babymegan90 writes:

	Dear Nikkoli, If he really likes you he wotn care what his friends say. He will stand up for you and tell his friends that he likes you and it is his choice not theres. Ask him out in private when his friends are not there. Hope this works! Babymegan90

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Maggie130708 writes:

There is this guy that I like that is 2 of my classes but myfriend likes him but he told me 2 tell her that he does not like her but I can't beacuse I think it would make my friend hate me bacause I think she would think I was making it up beacuse I like him 2. I even made up a nickname 4 him and she told him that she made it up and he loved it but when I told him that I made it up he said no you didn't

What's that new Ashley Tisdale song? "He Said, She Said?" That's what your prob sounds like! You're being a good BFF by not running to your friend to tell her what he said. It's HIS job to tell her how he feels -- NOT yours. The best way to not let this boy come between you and your BFF is to not do his dirty work for him! You can almost never go wrong by being loyal and honest to your BFFs.

XOXO,

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IcePrincess223 writes:

	I think you should just be nice and help out, get to be his friend first. Also, it wouldn't hurt to be friends with his friends.

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babymegan90 writes:

	Wyntera, Who cares what your friend says? You like him and that is all that matters. If you like hi mand think he is sweet than go for it! Babymegan90

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babymegan90 writes:

	Baby Blue, you should said yes to him! If he always calls you he really likes you! He is not pretending. So give it a shot. Babymegan90

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nikkioli writes:

dear maeve i like this boy in 8Th grade and i'm in 7th. he likes me but his friends don't like me. i have asked him out twice and he almost said yes but his friend told him to say no now my heart is broken and i don't have a boyfriend and the last time i was talking to my friend and this boy heard and asked him out for me and i am so embarresed to ride the bus caucse he rides my bus.Then my brother is friends with him and he always says when do you want me to get him to call you and i can't stand it Maeve please relpy i need some help BAD
Signed nikkioli

Oooh... sounds like bit of a tangle -- like in my hair in the morning! Clearly, this boy isn't comfortable making decisions on his own. As I'm sure you know, some people have trouble making up their own minds and staying true to their own beliefs. So, until this boy is ready to do that, I think it's time to cool it on the crush. Try not to talk about him at school where other people can hear and tell your brother to M.Y.O.B. (Mind Your Own Business!)

XOXO,

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xoaeaglexo19 writes:

yesterday we were playing a soccer game in gym and this guy got a basket. So I put my hand out and he high fived my hand and now I think i like him but i dont know. Help me please!?

Cool! So, you've noticed him, huh? One high five doesn't tell you a lot about him, though, so try to get to know him or kind of observe how he acts to see if he's a good kid or not before you go into full-fledged crushing mode!

XOXO,

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BABY BLUE writes:

There is a boy that I like and he is in 6th grade and I am in 5th grade and he goes to a different school than me but he always calls me I really like him and he asked me out but I don`t want him to know that I like him what should I do?

xoxo,
baby blue smilies/cry.gif

Just because a boy asks you out, it does not mean you have to say yes -- even if you like him back! Telling a boy you like him or going out with him is something you should only do when you feel READY. Don't let him or anyone else pressure you into doing something you don't want to do!

XOXO,

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Kgirl_Katani writes:

	I have a crush and "pretend" to not like him but I do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is sooooooooo cute! But like 100 girl like him back. One even amitted it! I've heard rumors that he likes me back. I mean, we always play games, basketball, and great laughs together! I have this funny feeling he loves me back. Hope he confesses!

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wyntera writes:

	The guy i like is in the 7th grade and i am in the 6th grde. I have a friend that is in the7th grade but she says he is UGLY and not funny. So what is a better way that i get him to like me singed, SoConfused That's a bummer! If she's your only friend in 7th grade, then try to think of ways you can see him or spend time with him to get to know him better. Good luck! XOXO,

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mustanglover writes:

	My crush is in every single 1 of my classes!!! But the problem is that a 100 girls are also after him! But he keeps on talkin bout his girlfriend But it definately seems like heez tryin 2 make me jealous

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roseyposey95 writes:

	Well like some people I kinda act like I don't like my crush but of course I really DO!!!!!! He's SO CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well he's in my Friends class so after school she always tells me some FUNNY thing he said it always makes me laugh!!!! I

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sidnee#8 writes:

	Banvenus, Well I will be your friend! K! If you need me I an here K! -Sidnee#8 P.S. I am glad that you are friendly so am I! LOL!

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AcrobatsAlyssa writes:

Usually, I act like I hate my crush but, I actually really like him. Then we start talking, get in trouble for talking during class, and then the next year we're either across the room from eachother or in totally different classes, nobodys happy. smilies/sad.gif

Then I start hearing rumors that my crush likes me back, then we start playing games togather at recess and finally, there's confessment in all of us! (I personally don't know what confessment means) smilies/grin.gif

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banvenus writes:

	deer all iam a new one iam very friendly i hope i have many friends

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Charlyn08 writes:

	I will love to have a crush on a boy

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sidnee#8 writes:

hollywood43,
I know you are going to be like what I have to tell him that I like him more then a friend but if you don't do it you will be wondering a lot! And if you do it,it will make you feel way better! K! Just tell he you like him more then a friend and was wondering if like me more then a friend. And if he does GREAT and if not say that is fine we are still friends right. I hope that helps a litte bit! Tell me if it does K!
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hollywood43 writes:

I need help! My friend is awsome and I really like him, but I think he thinks I am just a friend. I need help trying to get him to think I am more than a friend!

You know, I find that it's hard to "get" boys to do or think ANYTHING. Friends liking each other as more-than-friends needs to happen naturally if it is meant to be. But, changing your personality or wardrobe or stuff like that is definitely not the way to try to get him to see you as more than a gal pal. If you guys are friends, then he already likes you just the way you are. If there's more to it, it'll happen when the time is right :-)

XOXO,

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poppop123 writes:

	dear,Maeve i have not met my crush yet

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear HollyWood24,
I totally know what you mean!! There is this boy who is in my class and in art one day his friends came up to me and they are like he likes you and like i reallyu liked him so i kind of blushed because it was practically in front of the whole class! But he will never tell me to my face that he likes me! Its almost like the same prob. So what i would do is talk to him and maybe he is like a little nervous about telling you because sometimes i am nervous about that kind of stuff too. So I think you should talk to him and make him feel comfertable with you!!
Hope that helps! Best of luck!

ThinkPink16 smilies/grin.gif

xoxo

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thinkpink16 writes:

	Dear Rentlover1996, I really like the idea of that! Thats so cool my school is a little like that so maybe i should try that!! ThinkPink16

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear teddybear916,
What I would do is talk to your bff if he asks you out. just tell her that he really likes me and i am going to be going out with him . She might feel a little weird at first because I know I would but just tell her if things dont work out between us then maybe you guys could go out or sometyhing like that. Hope that helps you a bit!
ThinkPink16 smilies/cheesy.gif

xoxo

Ha - great minds think alike! Good advice!

XOXO,

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teddybear916 writes:

i need alot of help! my BFF and i have a crush on the same guy but he seems more interested in me then her!! i feel so bad about it and i think he's going 2 ask me out...WHAT SHOULD I DO? smilies/shocked.gif

Hmmm... I think that if this boy asks you out, tell him you need some time to think before you get back to him. Talk to your friend about what happened, and ask how she would feel if you said yes (if that's what you want). You don't have to say no if she says she's uncomfortable with it, but asking her opinion shows that you respect your friendship and it gives you another perspective to think about. Good luck!

XOXO,

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mashgirlwillismyhotT writes:

	Okay I have liked a lot of people and OMG they are always like two feet shorter than me and I am not even TALL!!! My friends always make fun of the people I like. The last crush I had sat at the table opposite of me and my table had all my friends at it and it was full and I had to sit at his table though so it is kinda fun whne I get to do that

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Hollywood24 writes:

Maeve or any other BSG fan,
There is this boy that sits behind my friend in social. He recently told her that he liked me and she asks him everyday and he slways says yes! I kinda like him too and he's in the school play just like me! I try to casually strike up a conversation or "accedentally" sit next to him, but he always ignores me! I catch him staring at me but if he knows i'm looking he looks away. He's really good at pretending (i guess thats why he got a part in the play!) but I want him to just we straight forward and tell me! So he knows that I know! HOW?!

I bet a LOT of girls here have been in this situation, right? I feel like most boys have the same feelings as girls: you have a crush on someone... and yet you're TERRIFIED by him! If this boy likes you (like he says he does), then he must be having trouble showing it, which is normal. He could be afraid of messing up in front of you or afraid of showing his feelings. YOU can put him at ease by talking to him a little every day so that he can relax a bit. If he still ignores you, try not to take it personally. Ignoring you is just a way for him to protect HIMSELF.

XOXO,

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rentluver1996 writes:

in my schol their ar teams and you have math english science and social studies with our team but you have spanih/french/manirin chorus/bnad/orchestra computer sciences gym and all other things with people from other teams. so i liek this kid who is not on my team but we are in spanish, gym, computer science, chorus and all of our lunch together we are better friends by passing doodles. he gives me a sheet of his little doodle drawings iad i mess them up and change them around. it's really fun. a great way to get to know you crush is to have some kind of inside joke(don't exclude anyoe) o a special activitity thing.

That's a good point. A fun joke or activity that you guys do together is like automatic get-to-know you time.

XOXO,

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redsoxfreak24 writes:

	well he lives near me and we have 1 class with each other and i sit across from him!

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Starrie18 writes:

	maeve hes going out with me!!!

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chatterbox465 writes:

	All i know is not to show off your ipod, mp3 player, or any other cool gadget. They may get the feeling that you are somebody who likes to brag....Or some show-off chick. Trust me .... I've tried.

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beatlefan writes:

Maeve,
I'm in theatre in my town (I was recently in the production of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs). One of the dwarfs, the head dwarf actually, was really cute! One day I was in the house of the Drama Center and this guy whom I really didn't like at all! The guy I liked was looking for a seat, so I scooted over one seat and told him to seat between me and the other guy. He sat down and we started talking and we became good friends. Later on he became my first boyfriend! I had to break up with him though because our friendship was too strong and it was ockward!

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thinkpink16 writes:

i definitly get to know him as a friend before we do anything serious i think its great to get to know them and maybe you realize you like that person even more just being friends!!
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That's sooo true! When you have a crush on someone, it's like they seem like the greatest person EVER. But, once you get to know him as a friend, you'll see that he's only human and makes a mistake here and there -- just like us!

XOXO,

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samo121 writes:

	why didnt anyone send anything? ok well anyway, wat do u do if u like someone

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amy101 writes:

	Maeve u r so awesome i followed all of ur tips on how tget to know ur crush it worked we r going out now

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sidnee#8 writes:

	Well I get to know my crush by just being friends with him and if we are just friends I get to be my self and you don't have to worey because you can act like they are your best bud! So that is what I have to say! -Sidnee#8

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babymegan90 writes:

	Talk to him aobutr somthign you both like. Say yuo like Nik and Sam and he does to. That is a great way to start!

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babymegan90 writes:

	Soem of the ways i get to know my crush are like talk to him at lunch and talk abotu somthign we are both interested in. It works because then he thinks you are super cool!

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