I know what you’re thinking: “I have a crush… should I tell him???” If you’re like me, you might spend hours, days, MONTHS agonizing over the pros, the cons, the consequences, and the risks. You’ve played out the scene in your head hundreds of times, but when it comes down to actually doing it, the right time never seems to come. Take my mini-quiz below and find out if you should take the plunge! Or, spend a few minutes answering the questions on our new survey; it's all about boys and dating and stuff!
1. I have a crush on…
(a) a guy friend. We tell each other everything!
(b) a boy in my class who I talk to sometimes.
(c) a guy I’ve never actually met before.
2. He is soooo cute! But, what I also like about him is that…
(a) he tries hard in school and he’s nice to me and other people.
(b) he’s kind of shy, so he’s a little mysterious and cool.
(c) he’s super smart and everyone loves him.
3. I feel like maybe he likes me, too, because…
(a) he really listens me and we always have fun together.
(b) he kind of looks at me funny sometimes and smiles.
(c) we had to hold hands at an assembly, and I think he squeezed my hand!
4. My crush’s friends…
(a) are kind of like my friends, too. We can hang out and it’s totally cool.
(b) are kind of loud, but I don’t really know them.
(c) are not my friends. I don’t even know who they are!
5. My BFFs don’t know I like him. If they found out, they’d probably be like…
(a) “I knew it! You guys are always hanging out together!”
(b) “Cool! Since you only kinda know him, want me to go talk to him for you?”
(c) “Wow… he doesn’t even know your name. How will you get him to notice you?”
If you answered mostly A’s: You and this boy have a great thing going as friends, which is awesome! But, keep in mind that even if you both like each other, it doesn’t mean you HAVE to be bf/gf. Like, if one of you isn’t ready to be more than friends, things COULD get awkward for a while. But, if that’s a risk you’re willing to take, I’d say go for it!
If you answered mostly B’s: Ladies, this might be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. lol! Think about sending out the good-friend vibe first, rather than the crush vibe. Give him some time to get to know you (and you him)—otherwise, he might feel overwhelmed and totally surprised knowing you like him. In this situation, go with your gut!
If you answered mostly C’s: These crushes are sometimes the best because you get to daydream all day long about what he’s probably like and how sweet he would be if he found out you like him. In your head, he’s the perfect boy. But, in reality, he might not be right for you! Definitely get to know him as a friend first to see if you guys are cool as friends. If you’re not, it might be time to notice OTHER boys!
Bottom Line: Many girls have crushes that they keep secret, and that’s totally OK. Some girls and guys even have crushes on each other and never really admit it. That’s also OK. Don’t feel pressure to try to make your feelings into a bf/gf relationship before you’re ready.
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