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When BFFs Fight

The BSG and I are the best of friends. But even BFFs have fights sometimes. Ick. Like when Avery AND Katani were both running for president of the 7th grade class at Abigail Adams Junior High. Yeah, with the both of them planning their campaigns, lunch got a little… well, intense. And AWK-ward!

At one point, Avery and Katani wouldn’t even sit with each other! It was awful. But, the BSG stuck together—like we always do—and came out stronger than ever. (You can read alllll about Avery and Katani’s presidential duel in book #5 Promises, Promises.)

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Now, I want to hear from YOU. What are your friendship probs? Let's talk it out.

XOXO,



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piggi writes:

Maeve! help i always USED to have fun with my BFF, we always had fun and laughed hard with each other.But theres a new girl and we both reallly like her but my BFF does not treat me the same and does not care about me any more!i cant be with the new girl or with my BFF!
 

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piggi writes:

Hi i am new
somtimes i get soo stressed when my friends dont let me have it my way like Kgirl in LUCKY CHARM!I storm off and have no body to play with
and i nmregret that! smilies/angry.gif ... smilies/sad.gif
 

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luvcats567 writes:

smilies/smiley.gifHey everyone!I haven't got on in a while! Thinkpink16-Thanks for the Advice!It's good! And Maeve-I wrote her a note and it's better,we talk more! smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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Happyluckythingylover writes:

Dear Cherry,
Well, I think that's really, plain, rude. I'd love to be your friend. Try not to stress out, OK? Trust me, things will change!!

Ur new friend,
Happyluckythingylover smilies/wink.gif
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear cherry,
First of all, that is mean what your first friend is doing. I mean, why is she jealous that you are hanging out with someone different. Why cant all of you be friends? I also want to ask you if you think those hand motions are her asking you to forgive her for being so mean. Do you want to be her friend again? Does she want to be your friend again? Just go and talk to a teacher and mention her name at recess. Ask her a question. Maybe it will work. It worked for me. I just really hope this works.
Your friend,
michellerocksout
 

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cherry writes:

Happyluckythingylover I don't have much friends either because i am so small and no one treats me like i can do anything! and i think me and u could be friends what do you say?
 

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cherry writes:

i had this friend and this other friend. I was playing with my other friend and the first friend got mad at me and now WHen i walk by her she does weird little hand motions. What to do
 

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66mileyfan66cutie writes:

dear averyisthebest,
u should try to get them to see all the other good times they did together and not about how there lunch looks lke,cause no bodys the same
 

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66mileyfan66cutie writes:

ok my bff is hanging out with the "stupid group" and she doesnt talk to meor my other friend, and wen we decided to meet her she said she had plans, and she told us to stop spreading rumors about her wen we arent even and its just like sad well its been going on since the 6 whole days
HELP!
wat can i do to get my friend back?? smilies/wink.gif smilies/wink.gif
 

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selina135 writes:

okay. me and my friend have only had one fight, and we have been friends for almost 2 years now. and then she started to ignore me, point at me rudely, and talk about me with her "new" friends! and i was totally confused. so i went up to her and asked if i could talk to her privitly. and then she said that she didn't want to be friends anymore, because she was going to middle school next semester, and i was staying in elemtary school that year, and that because we wouldn't see each other anymore as much,(barely, BTW), that we just shouldnt be friends anymore! and now i convinsed her that we can just stay friends, but not BFFs, but not arch enimies, if you know what i mean. and sooo.....yeah. i guess that we're fine, but....things are still kinda weird between us. wat now?

XOXO, Selina135
 

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razzberripuff_876 writes:

Dear Maeve,

My best friend is moving away and ever since she told me she's hardly said a word to me or anyone else. I didn't yell at her when she told me or say something like, "If you move I'll hate you forever!" Can you help me find out what's going on? I am so torn because I don't know which road to turn on! If you can, please give me some advice.
Thank you!
-Razzy
 

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cutecat8 writes:

I have this friend and sometimes she is mean but sometimes we laugh and have fun together. I also have these other awesome friends that I like a lot but I'm not sure they will get along together. One of them is friends with her but my other friend might not get along with her. Should I dump the mean/funny friend or should I take the challenge to bring them together? Someone please help!
-cutecat8
 

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Happyluckythingylover writes:

Thanks, BSGTheBest! I'm glad I'm not the only one with anxiety. I have Emetephobia. (Fear of vomit and vomiting) and it's really coming down hard on me! I'm super glad you didn't choke on that apple!

Your friend,
Happyluckythingylover
 

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chickflick101 writes:

i take acting lessons. when i told my friend that she said: thats because your bad at acting i don' need acting cause i am much better

 

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chickflick101 writes:

whenever i have a sleepover with my friend the next day shes like : you wasted all the minutes on my cell!
omg you snore so loud! i can not have another sleepover with you!!!
 

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BSGTheBest123 writes:

Happyluckythinkforever, I have the same thing you do! I have anxiety too, and almost chocked on an apple. MAJOR anxiety attack! I worry about my friends alot, and it really interfears with my school work! So I know what you are going through!

BSGTheBest123 smilies/cool.gif
 

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dani_gurl writes:

i have a prob. my friend is a bit to serious smilies/sad.gif but we do handle things though we do almost everything together. if we end up in a fight we talk it over. i also have other probs with my other friends. but in a second we are friends again! i love making friends. here's my motto: make new friends but keep the old ones! thanks for having time reading this
♥ dani_gurl
 

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Happyluckythingylover writes:

Dear Maeve,
Here is my prob, I don't really have any friends. smilies/sad.gif People sometimes treat me different because I have anxiety and get nervous sometimes. They treat me like a five year old, and I hate it! I have a really close friend, but she has SO many other best friends including me. That makes me feel bad because I feel like I'm just... well... not special in her friendship. Sometimes I just sit and cry and wish for friends. I'm SOOOOOOO glad for this website though, because I've made so many friends, and for once, I feel included and special! But please help me, Maeve! Thank you!

Happyluckythingylover
 

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BSGTheBest123 writes:

I need help, too! We keep fighting, and I'm SO SO SO, sick of it! My other friend keeps pouting, and ALWAYS has to get her way. Another friend acts like she is mad at me all the time, and she is my closest BFF! Another says stuff she didn't said. And I know it's not right, and I don't know if she is telling the truth or lying...
 

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socerluver96 writes:

my friendship probs? hmmmm.... i guess its that we dont spend enough time together cuz of our busy schedules. (and we both like the same guy)
 

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SugarSweetie101 writes:

Ok, I have this one friend who I absolutley adore! But, everytime I do something new, she copies me and then gets the cred for it! Like, we go to a special PE class, and I started this trend there where I would wear some CRAZY SOCKS that went up to my knee! The next night when I went to her house she said "I loved your socks, I have socks like those too!" and next week at PE, she had some crazy socks on too. And everyone's like " I love your socks" to her. And she just sits back and says thanks. And I'm like Hello.. I started that trend, and now her friend is wearing long socks too! I don't mind them wearing, but now she's telling everyone I'm copying off of her! smilies/sad.gif And I'm soo afraid to tell her how I feel because I know how she can be. Should I just froget about it and not tell her anything so she can't copy me? SHE COPIES ME WITH EVERYTHING!! AND THEN TAKES ALL THE CREDIT FOR IT! Help!
 

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Smartiegirl writes:

pelove,
My friend is like that too! I try to get her laughing, talk about positive stuff that she loves. Try talking about shopping, music, movies, or any hobbies she likes. Avoid talking about people, that can lead to her talking bad about them.
Tell me if this helps!
Luv,
smartiegirl
 

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muga123 writes:

Maeve I feel like my friend... never talks to me anymore. I really need help. It just feels like she thinks I am weird or something. She is hanging out with these other friends. They aren't nice to me. If they were nice to me then I would survive. But they aren't. I don't get it. I mean we talk by email but she never talks to me live. In person. What will I do? She was nice last year. I need help from u
 

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101 writes:

every time i get near my friends they r always mean then if i go to there house or talk to them on the phone they r always nice!!!!!!!!
 

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averyisthebest writes:

Sigh. My BFFs are mad at eachother, kind of like Katani and Avery. But not for that reason.
Okay, one day during lunch, we're all sitting together at a table with 3 other guys, **, ** and **. My one best friend, ** had brought her own lunch. It looked gross, but I didn't admit it. But (no offense, **!) my bigmouth friend ** did. "EW! **, how on earth can you eat that? It looks like...ew!" And ** got super mad. ** was so surprised, she was bewildered. "But-I didn't mean to make you upset..." and she kept looking at me. Finally, she was like to me, "Yeah, but Shae kept on looking at it like it was gross too!" and my bf, ** told them that I didn't, even though I did. But I didn't want to but my way in. Anyway, now my friends are mad at eachother and are just trying to make eachother madder. At recess, I avoid them. Not to make them mad but to keep out of it. I hang out with ** and his dudes. Any advice as what to do? I'm desperate, please!
Love, averyisthebest
 

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pelove writes:

my friend is bieng mean and being a hiprocrite and that bothers me i don't want to hurt her feeling but shes too mean
 

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pinkiemonkey6 writes:

well, a couple of my friends are kinda weird, and they can get a little annoying, and we get in fights sometimes because i feel like they dont listen to me. but i found out the best way to get over fights is to take a day or two to calm down then we talk it out.
 

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Sparks101 writes:

Hi Maeve! BIG PROBLEM again. One girl who is half my friend i guess called the Queen of mean a mean name. In her face!!! Now everyone is mad at each other! Need help bad Maeve!!!
 

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shyanne writes:

This is for krm98,
Thanks for the advice. You are the best!! You are a really good advice teller!!!!
 

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craze4chocolate writes:

OMG!!! My grade is like a SOAP OPERA!!! Theres tears, anger, laughter, fun, EVERYTHING!!! Sometimes girls r mad @ eachother, sometimes there BFFS, and sometimes theyre like"ya whatev"
 

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Sparks101 writes:

I need help! There is this really mean girl in my class. She always asks to play with us. I have 2 BFF's. One is a leader and one is a follower. So she does whatever the leader does. She sorta just follows her around. Well the leader doesnt want to play with the Queen of Mean and so we all got in a fight because I tried to be nice to the Queen of Mean. It's like she wants us to get in a fight! No matter what we do we always end up hurting someones feelings! HELP!!!!!
 

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diduno11 writes:

Books369(By the way luv the username!) I think that maybe you should sit down with this girl from third grade and talk to her about it. Maybe you can tell her that, you like her and you want to be friends, but she can't stop you from having other friends. Like that old song, Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold. LOL
 

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diduno11 writes:

Hey 'yall! Here's my problem. I have these two friends(they're twins) and they are really cool sometimes, but sometimes they're really clingy and it gets kinda annoying. They don't like when you hang out with other people or you talk to other people besides them. I mean, I'm still their friends, but aren't I allowed to have other friends too? Me and my other friend share the same feelings about the twins but we don't know how to approached them. Should we tell our feelings or just keep it to ourselves? Please write back!
 

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Ailita writes:

hi i hope no body is going to fight me my new friend ones she told me your mouth stincks infront of every body and i hated that so much becouse it was rude
 

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Mette writes:

dear michellerocksout,
oh-my-god, that is really a tough situation. i can understand both you and your friend. you wanted to help and made everything worse. maybe you should have realised beforehand that telling her secrets was not right, but your friend should understand too that you wanted to help. and your other friend did something wrong too by telling your friend you had told her her secrets, even though you asked her not to. so all three of you did something that wasn't right. maybe you should all meet somewhere privat and talk about the situation. the others can't be comfortable with it either.

Mette
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear everyone,
I feel sad right now. My friend and i had a huge fight. I played a little prank on her. All i said is that she could not sit down next to me or she would get in trouble with the teacher. She started to cry her eyes out. The prob is I told my other bff tweo of her big secrets. I thought that would help my friend understand my other friend more. I told her not to tell my friend that i told her her secrets. Well, she did. I just thought that would help. It made it worse. Now that I became friends with my friend again, she does not trust me anymore like she used to. I do notknow what to do. Another problem is that my friend comes on BSG too ( I mean who does not! ). If she sees this, she probably will not be my friend again. I mean, this is so hard. I just really want gain my friends trust again. Should I lie to to my bff that what i told her was not true? But my other friend would still know I told her secret. I really need advice. Maeve, this might be a big job but I really need help. Ty.
A girl who really needs help
michellerocksout
 

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gutierrez3 writes:

when my friends and I fight we fight over stupid things
 

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luvcats567 writes:

wr1tecut1ecathy13-That is not good what your "friend" is doing to you.If she is a good friend she would not critsize you and she wouldn't let others be mean to you.Does she ask you to hang out with her and the popular girls? One of my friends did something similar to me.Now we are not friends but it was for the best.You need to talk to her.Do you think she might just be being that way to be popular or something.How much are ya'll hanging out???I wish I could give you real advice but I'm not to good at that.But I can tell you that if you want to stay friends then you have to know if that is what she wants.But if I were you,and she completly stops talking to you just ask her why.
 

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dancerqtpie24 writes:

me and my bffs have been fighting all year its been miserable!!!!
do u hav any advice on how to make up??
 

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books369 writes:

There was a girl I met in third grade and she was fun.This year one of my BFFs are in my class and the girl from third grade never lets me sit with my BFF at lunch.It's like she wants to tear us apart. The girl from third grade wants to take my BFF away from me.I don't know what to do.HELP ME!
 

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booklover41597 writes:

YOUTUBE I GOT THE DATE WRONG. SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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booklover41597 writes:

YOUTUBE
Commet from 1-9-08

Thar's happend to me too. One day I asked her to talk to me. I said that I was sorry and she said that she was sorry. My school conlouler came to our class to talk about fights. She said you have two days to get yourself together. The third day you talk about it. If you end up waiting a week or two they are not your friend anymore. It sounds harsh but I've had to do it two or three times this year.
 

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wr1tecut1ecathy13 writes:

Dear Maeve,
My best friend, let's call her S. S has a friend named "L" and L is in the popular group. Now my best bud S is starting to hang out with her more and the popular group. And whenever me and S do hang together, I feel like I am being critized every single time. I feel like she's out to get me, because when we're together(which is very few now), she insults me in some way. We've been friends for seven years, since kindergarten, and I don't want it to end. I worry that we are growing apart, so what do I do now?
Signed,
A GIRL'S WHO FEELS BETRAYED AND ABANDONED
 

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sweetgirl96 writes:

You are almost like me I have a group of best friends, and we are called the CATS but even if we fight alot we still stick togther and we always solve the problem. -erbird
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to chowcow143. Shyanne's advice just might work. Here is a little extra in case it doesn't. BFFs should be there for eachother not tearing eachother down. Maybe she isn't best friend material. Tell her that you really need to talk to her alone. Pick an after school hour and not at recess. First because at recess people might be able to hear you. And second there is a time restriction at recess and not after school hours. Make sure that if you need more than one day to talk it out, you are really considering what you have to say. If you want to write her a letter that might be a good idea. Make her remember all the good times. Maybe it will make her want to get back to having fun together. It isn't good to keep your feelings bottled up inside. This goes for everyone. If any of you out there need this advice take it. Anyone should be able to speak their mind without being afraid you will be over-ruled. Chowcow143, Your friend might just be going through a rough patch. Walk a mile in her shoes. See what it feels like to be her. Maybe there is something wrong at home or with another friend. Maybe she just wants to cheer herself up. This has happened to me before and it turned out that there was a problem with another friend and she wanted to cheer herself up. I feel your pain. When Bffs fight...it is not a good thing... or is it? Sometimes fighting can bring out thtet best in people. Give her your heart. Show her that you care and want to be her friend. Don't break her heart if you tell her that you don't want to be her friend. That is another option. If you really don't want to be her friend anymore let it off easily. Again, don't break her heart. I would try to work things out before you cut the string. If you like math then you will know that 2 wrongs don't make 1 right. If she is being mean to you and doing what he is doing than that is one wrong. If you tell her that you don't want to be her friend without trying to work things out that is a second wrong. If you put those two together well lets see that equals... a broken friendship. Not a right, just another wrong. That's sad. I really hope my advice works if you choose to take it. If I was to make a good guess Shyanne's and my advice put together, your friend will actually be your friend again. Have fun, hope you are friends again, and good luck! smilies/smiley.gif

P.S. Write to Shyanne and I and tell us if our advice works! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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booklover41597 writes:

This girl in my class is the most popular girl in my class and 5th grade. People pretty much get on their knee's and beg to be her friend. I was 1 of her friends so I became cool. Then the first week of school she got mad at my BFF's who were her friends about them not hanging out with her.( I wonder why) They went back to her but I didn't. Now she's telling lies about me to the whole school. What should I do?
 

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krm98 writes:

Shyanne,
If you like him, you probably like him for who he is right or wrong? Who he is, is rude, crazy, and maybe even a little obnoxious. Try going out with him one time maybe it will work. He might just have the first date preface (a little nervous). Maybe you do, too. I suggest you take the ride while you can! Have fun and good luck! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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shyanne writes:

I am replying to Chowchow123,
You should talk to them in private and tell them how you feel! Friends are to be nice and caring! Just tell them how you really feel!
(I hope my advice works!)
 

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shyanne writes:

Hi! It's me again! This is about a boy! Well I asked this boy out and he said yes! But he said to my friend that he only said yes because he don't bugged with stuff like that! He tells me mean stuff and kicks me! I really like him.. But what should I do?????
 

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Chowchow143 writes:

Dear Maeve,
I am beginning not to not like My BFFS **, because she is getting really really bossy **, because she is being really horrible to me and not sticking up for me and she is not listening what I have to say and least ** because she is being really really mean to me and today she stole my chair when I was sitting on it and she is the one that makes me want to quit our club.

Please reply back Maeve.

From Chowchow143.
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

one of my bffs(lets call her A) is mad at me and i don't really know why she won't even say hi to me in homeroom then she is like my bffl 5 minutes later, and one of my other bffs ( lets call her B) is also really good friends with A. so like, today at lunch i promised to sit with a and b and my other friend C but then i realized i had promised D a few days ago. so i sat with D who was sitting at a table right next to A, b and c and other friends. so during science, c tells me that A said behind my back i was betraying her by sitting with d and how i ONLY want to hang out with d (btw, i like, never get to talk to d and i see a and b all the time) So i was really mad. thn in computer science we had a sub so it was a study hall, and a and b were working on their spanish homework and i was trying to help and they were like ignoring me! and then they are like i thought u were doing ur math homework!! so then today after school over IM i got in this fight with b and now she won't talk to me and i am really sorry but she got mad at me for like exploding on her because she was being selfish and only siding with A!!! so now like my bff4e won't even talk to me what do i do! i tried calling but no one picked up and she isn't on IM.


help me!!
rentluver1996
 

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abz writes:

I have 'friends' who left me out a ton so i just dropped them, and i went off and made new and better friends who are not like them at all.they don't leave me out and i try to be still nice to them., but this one girl in the group is like totally always out to get me for nothing, like if i drop my lunch box(over her locker wise, plus lite lunch box) she will like scream, or she never lets me in to get to my locker she puts all her stuff all over the floor and elbows me if i try to get to my locker even if i got there first.
 

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BSGfan12 writes:

i am replying to susie156789. I had the exact same problem so i know how u feel. what i did is just talked to her. she didn't even realize that she was leaving me out and now we r all best friends. i think u should just try talking 2 her. hope my advice helps!! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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BSGfan12 writes:

well what if 2 of your bff's r in a fight and both of them want u 2 b on their side but u like them equally and don't want 2 b on anyones side???? that happens to me all the time!
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to suzie156789. If she is leaving you out she probably isn't your BFF. If a lot of people like you because you are pretty she is probably just using you for looks so people will like her. Tell her not to take advantage of you because she WILL regret it. If you don't want to be her friend anymore just leave her down. just say "you are really nice but I don't think I want to be your friend anymore. You are taking me forgranted just so you get more friends and I don't like that." Leave the friendship with some dignity. Good luck! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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froggylover writes:

Well I have someone who thinks she is my friend but I really don't like her. She trie to be like me and is getting really annoying. What should I do?
 

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susie156789 writes:

i have a ?. my bff just started haning out with this new group and is leaving me out. wat do i do plz answer me
 

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bsgfriend writes:

Well I have a friend that is really annoying and she thinks she knows everything.
And she is pretending to be Italian just to get my cousin to like her even more>
What should I do?
 

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bookworm614 writes:

Dear Maeve,
I have two groups of friends, and they don't exactly like each other. Well, one group doesn't like the other, but the group that is not liked, doesn't mind to be around the other. I am kind of caught in the middle. What should I say to the group that doesn't like the other that I would like to hang out more with the other group?

-Bookworm614
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to shyanne. The best thing you could do is tell them to come talk to you in private. Then you ask them what is wrong. When they tell you what is wrong ask them what you can do to help. If you really love your friends do as much as you can to help their friendship get better. If they say that there is nothing you can do leave it at that. If they want to continue on fighting, that is their choice. If it hurts your feelings when they start to fight, then just walk away. Hope my advice helped. Good luck! smilies/smiley.gif

 

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krm98 writes:

I hope Maeve writes to you too!
 

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krm98 writes:

I am glad you like my advice mette. Glad I could help!
 

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Mette writes:

dear krm98,
thanks for the advice. i don't have a lock, but i'll probably just try saying "i don't want to pick sides".

thanks,
Mette
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to shyanne. I have not been put in this position but my friend has. If you wish you hadn't even liked the guy in the first place AND he acts disguisting my best bet is to break up with him. If you don't mind your friends looking at you like you are crazy and you like disguisting boys just keep on going. My friend just broke up with him right away. I am not the one to control you. If you take this advice and use it here is what you say.

"Well I like you, (say the boy's name here), but I don't think this is working out. Maybe we should take a break"

That should do it. Good Luck! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to hearts8. If she isn't letting you play with other people than she probably doesn't have very many friends like you do. She needs you to play with. She is probably giving you stuff to soften you up and make you want to be her friend. Ask her if she has any other friends she could play play with for one day. If she says no ask her if she would be interested in meeting other people. If you wouldn't mind bring some of your BFF's over to her and introduce them to her. Make sure they get along well or else this will just make more controversy between all of you guys. Try to stay friends with her if you like her. This is just some tiny advice. If you take it and use it, that is your choice. All of the letters I reply to I have had personal experience with. Well maybe not all of them but most of them. Like this one. She was giving me a littlest pet shop toy and a perfume. She said that she gave me the most special valentine for valentine's day. Soon I found out that I was the only friend she had. Then I introduced her to my friends and now we all hang out together and she is comfortable introducing herself to other people. Try my advice. It worked with me hopefully it will work with you. If you need to know what to say or something I come here everyday and I will reply ASAP. Good Luck!

 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to mimiandjo. If your friend keeps saying bad things about you to a guy that you like here is some steps you can take.

1. Tell the guy that the stuff isn't true even if it is. (sometimes you are allowed to bened the truthsmilies/smiley.gif
2. Tell your friend to stop telling him bad things.
3. Make jokes out of it with the guy.
4. Ask your friend and the guy if you can talk to both of them together at recess or sometime and somewhere private. Tell them that you don't want any controversy going on.
5. Ask the guy if it is okay to have those traits.
6. Ask your friend why she is telling him bad things.
7. Ask your friend if she likes him, too and that is why she is trying to get him not to like you.
8. Tell the guy that you like him and maybe he will like you, too and not believe your friend if you get to know eachother.
9. Put a stop to it by telling the guy and your friend you don't want any contact between the two of them.
10. Believe your friend and take her word for what she is saying.
 

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krm98 writes:

Just in case my friend is on this page or site i am not going to say her name. my BFF and i have known eachother since first grade now we are in fourth. we have always been nice to eachother. One day I wanted to sit with my other friend at lunch and she got sooo mad. I think I have a right to be friends with other people. She is selfish and wants me all to herself. I don't know if I should be friends with her anymore. HELP! somebody write me. I need advice.
 

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krm98 writes:

I am replying to mette. It is okay that your mum and aunt fight a lot. When they do just try to stay out of it. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you. I mean they both love you a lot. Sometimes I am put in that position with my friends where they want me to pick a side. It is your choice what you want to do. you can say "I am 50 on mum's side and 50 on aunt's" or you could say "I don't want to be in the middle of this" and just walk away. Lock your door if you have a lock if you really want to. My advice to you is just to stay out of it. Be yourself. It is just a little bump in the road for them. They will get over it sooner or later. Again just stay out of it and walk away. They will always love you the same way.
 

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millymillymillyme writes:

well, my friend megan shows off and she thinks she is the best.
 

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mimiandjo writes:

Dear Maeve:
I know You have to go over alot of questions and alot of people you want to help but theres to MANY. But this is sorta important to me, I like this guy but my friend keeps on saying bad things about me behind my back to the guy I like. Then I tell her to stop, but she says she's just doing that so he can think about me more often. Do you think this will help me, or is she trying to get him for herself? PLEASSSSE HELP!
-Super BSG fan, mimiandjo
 

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hsm009 writes:

Me and my friends fight all the time but we know that everything will be alright in the end ...they get anooying sometimes like one day i was at lunch and had extra money when my friend was like oh can i have a $1 and i said i had to give it back to my mom or dad and she got mad at me. Stupid right i know. Yeesh! lol
 

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surgar012 writes:

me and my friend gets a little mad some time when she does not tell the truth or i dont but this one time when the teacher needs me she said no dont do it it is just a prank so like i left but my brother was there he is so cool his name is jason i am not going to say his last name.
 

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hearts8 writes:

Dear Maeve,
my bff gets mad over such little thing and always thinks she is right . like once i asked her if i could play with one of my other friends . then she got really mad and said no. then for the rest of the day she didnt talk to me. once i was about to break up with her but then she gave me a glass ball that was passed on down from her family a generation ago. it is so hard to break up with her because she is always giving me stuff.How should i break up with her without breaking her heart? HELP!!!

 

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sydneyshop writes:

me and my BFF were at the mall togehter both haveing a great time thewn suddenly she started acting weird and rude well it got really bad that we had to go home early well we dident talk for 4 weeks then she called me and said sorry over and over well i forgave her and were even better friends now!!
i love my BFF!

 

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shyanne writes:

Dear Maeve,
I like this boy but whenever I tell people I'm going out with him they just look at me? Should I break-up with him or what should I do? He does act disgusting when I'm around him! Sometimes I wish I never did like him? What should I do?????
 

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shyanne writes:

Hey it's me again well 2 of my BFF's always fight. I try to break it up but they never do stop!! They call each other names and do everything to hurt each others feelings!!It is getting so annoying! Got advice?
 

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BSGfanfever writes:

me and one of my frends we argue alot and end up breakin up so....
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

Me and 2 bffs we are all good friends we made a pact on valentine's day that no boy would EVER come between us! Boyfriends come and go but BFFS are forever! Keep that in mind! It's ok to be jealous but don't turn into a nasty ice queen just because your crush likes ur friend. Remember that if your crush liked you and not ur friend that you may be thinking "Why is she being so mad at me? It's not my fault he likes me?" So keep in mind being empathetic. Hope this helps everyone

 

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joshluver9 writes:

well i like this boy and my friend knows it but yet she flirts with him and hangs out with this other girl that likes him omg!!! i hate it and i know i i shouldn't get over it but i do and i hate that too help should i hang out with her or should we not be friends??

xoxo
joshluver9

PS. this is another boy i like
 

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Qatar Girl writes:

Sometimes my friedns being meen and i dont like them that way what can i do to make them fine??
 

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Qatar Girl writes:

When i fight with my BFF i just sit ang she sit at the same place then we see each other then we laugh and we talk to each other and like nothing happend..
 

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brianna320007 writes:

When I fight with my friend we like not talk for like 1 day but then we like work it out and get back to being friends the next day
 

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diezel writes:

when we fight,we usually don't talk to eachother for like five days!but then we work it out!!!!!!then,it's all good!!!!!
 

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diezel writes:

thanks for the advice,next time we get into a fight i'll think of the website.
 

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Mette writes:

i have a problem, but not with a friend: my mum and my aunt fought over one year ago. now they behave really immature. as i'm the oldest of us kids, everyone wants me to take sides. but i don't want to. i mean, i really love my mum, but i can't approve her actions, but she expects me to. now i don't say anything about that fight anymore, even if she directly adresses me about it. but that only solves half the problem. my mother now thinks the whole affair doesn't matter to me. it really does, though. what should i do? please someone answer, i really need advice!

 

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michellerocksout writes:

I am just here to help!
- michellerocksout
 

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laxrox12 writes:

dear mcihellerocksout
thtanks for the advice but ehres the thing i really do like ehr and i want to be her freind in fact she was my bestf reind once but things are wierd now what should i do
 

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eriberri417 writes:

dear michellerocksout,
thnx for ur advice it really helps to know that someone is willing 2 help! ur the best!
~eriberri417
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear eriberri417,
I have a couple things to say.
1. Do not pick up the phone anymore.
2. Do not let the nasty emails get to you.
3. Do not look at her.
4. STAY AWAY!
I hope this helps you. You should also stay with your friends as much as possible so when she walks down the hall and she gives you bad signs, you will still feel happy knowing thatyour friends are with you.
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear laxrox12,
If she thinks your friends are losers, that makes you a loser for hanging out with them. If you really do not like to hang out with her anymore, just tell her how you feel. If that does not work, then do not hang out with her anymore.
 

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eriberri417 writes:

HELP! this girl who was not my friend and not my enemy and i are in a fight. Now when this girl gets into a fight, she is MEAN! like sending nasty emails full of cuss words, calling you and screaming into the reciever, and givng you really evil looks when you walk down the hall, she also will make sure you are miserable and when you smile or try to be nice to she will give you a rude hand gesture, and the worst part is is that i wasn't doing anything but trying to help her through a tough time! plz help me!!!
~smilies/sad.gif
 

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laxrox12 writes:

if anyone needs advice i am avalible
 

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laxrox12 writes:

my frineds being a big jerk shes ahnging otuw ith all theese popular girlsa who all they talk about is clothes she wanted me to sit at their table for a day so id di and they were having a discusion about burberry scarves for the whole lunch period and i had no idea what a burberry scarf was. Seh also doesnt like my friends and says there losers wut do i do
 

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monkeysandhorses writes:

sparkleprincess is my buddie!-monkeysandhorses
 

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roxygirl writes:

good job
 

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taydotz333 writes:

hey thinkpink16 you are like bff even if i dont even no you it feels like i do tomarrow i am going to disney i do not want to drive 14 hour to get there thnks al yall for your comments to me i just do not like typing much so bye
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Hey,
I wanted to tell you that i am new here and i just wanted to tell you that i am alway here when you need me!
 

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michellerocksout writes:

Dear Tea House Moon,
Look, that is normal.What you have to do is try to make your new friends to become friends with you old friend.Ask your new friends if they will try talking to her and tell her that they do not think that there is anything wrong with her. just do not make them become enemies.

 

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michellerocksout writes:

One time, when I was at the library, my friend and i were looking for books. i found this book i really liked, so i started to read it. Then my friend did to. So i told her i just wanted to finish the page. She got really mad at me. When it was recess that day,she would still play with me, but when we played monkey in the middle, she really wanted me to be in the middle. We fought for like three months. finally, i told my other BFFLED about it, she talked to my otherBFFLED i had been fighting with. We talked about it on the phone for a long time and finally we worked it out.
 

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Tea_House_Moon writes:

Okay, so I have this BFF that I have know since we were like, five. She went to a different school than me for the longest time and now we finally go to the same school. We only have one class together, which is theater, and since that is the only class we have together she only wants to hang out with me. There are these two other girls in my theater class that I have grown to be friends with, and whenever I talk to them during theater, my BFF gets really moody and won't talk to me. She recently told me that she is jealous of me for having them as friends and that she thinks that the two girls don't like her. I have never gotten any bad vibes from them when my BFF is around. So what should I do? I want to still be close with my BFF but I don't want to give up to new friends!!
 

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YOUTUBE writes:

Dear Maeve,
I have this group called "the cool group".
Thats what everyone calls us.And there is 3 people in my group.But two got in a fight over a stupid boy that no one every gone out with cause he cepted a promis to this girl that he would never go out with anyone else but her but she didn't keep it so anyways,know they don't want to be closeto each other and now we don't have a group.Know they call us the losers.How do I get them back together and stop fighting with eachother?And how do I get everyone to stop calling us the losers.

I NEED HELP MAEVE!!!!!

BSG fans can help too.

Please write back fast please.

love YOUTUBE
 

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born2dance writes:

My friend has known me since 1st grade (i'm in 6th grade, now!). We both have a lot in common- both really creative, funny, and we love acting and dancing and junk. But, what's happening, is, like. . .ok, she tries to hang out with these 3 girls, who ACT nice to her- but I sit with 2/3 of them, and I've heard them talk about her rudely. It's weird, because, she's trying to get them to notice her- and her REAL friends are trying to get HER to notice us. At recess, we try to get her to come with us- she always says at the half-bell she'll come, and she's always so hesitant, like she doesn't like us. I've even asked her if she still wants to be friends, but she just goes:
"OMG! Are you crazy? I love you guys!"
But I don't know if that's true. . .
What should I do Maeve? I don't want to give up on her. She's a BFF!

please help!!!
thankyou. . . .

born2dance
 

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thinkpink16 writes:

hey Maddypie8,
If you dont like being bossed around by your bff then thats what u have to tell her just say ya know I dont like being bossed around by u so can you stop. Hope that helps!
ThinkPink16
 

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12miley writes:

at school im stuck between my friends they dont like each other,when i talk to 1 of them my other friend takes me away the same with the other one !! i dont know what to do!
please help me!!!!
 

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maddypie8 writes:

I do not like being bossed around by my BFF
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

dear taydotz333,

you need to take some control here. this girl sounds like she is ruining your life! next time she tells you and your friends what to do, come up with another suggestion or have a vote or something. but if you really don't want to be friends with her do the "silent drift-away" as i call it. get together with her less, don't call her as often, and slowly (not meanly, though) breakoff this odd friendship with the bossy stuck up girl. hope this helps! please reply!!

luv,
rentluver1996
 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Hi LuvCats567!!
Its ThinkPink16 here! I will definitly give you some advice so here it is.Ok well uh popular girls are so annoying even when you used to be friends with them. What I would say to do is try not to pay attention to them because chances are when he sees you having a lot of fun and that it will remind him of how great you are and another reasn why he is only dating this girl is because he sees something in her that could make his life more better. I know taht really doesnt make a lot of sence but what i am thinking is that this boy is only dating her for the popularity
for his own use. I think you should just ignore it because most likely this girl is going to realize that this boy is liking you and paying attention to you more then her. trust me by the looks of this realationship it will probably end sooner than you think! Hope that helps! I am always here if you need me!
TTYL
ThinkPink16 xoxo
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

dear rentlover1996! i saw ur comment on do ur own thing but i still think this is sooo creepy about our usernames! omg!! about your problem, FORGET HER!! you don't need obnoxious popular friends to keep you going, let her do her own stupid thing and you go live your awesome life! don't let the populars bring u down!
 

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taydotz333 writes:

dear rentluver1996
what do i do if my friend gts mad at only me when my friends do the same she is so controlling it getts really old she tells everybody wat 2 do but i am sik of listnig she is a pain WAT DO I DO.


SINCERLY,TAYDOTZ333

PS. WRITE ME BACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!
 

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luvcats567 writes:

thinkpink16-I hear u have good advice I need some!!! Here ti is- My current crush is dating the most popular and most mean girl in the schoolsmilies/sad.gif!!!We used to be friends but now we hate eachother!!! She forgot his name once I had to tell her!!!! he pays more attention to me!!! What do I do to get him to break up with her?! She ttly deserves it!!! Please answer me!!!=)
 

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luvcats567 writes:

MY old BEST friend and me got in a huge fight a while back!!! I want her to know I'm sorry and Ive told her a 100 times but she hates me!!! ADVICE PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes, saying "I'm sorry" doesn't always do the trick. Even if you say it sincerely, it might not be enough for her. I mean, it's pretty easy to say the words "I'm sorry," but you have to SHOW her you mean it in other ways. Explain that you've learned a lot since your fight, and that whatever the problem was, it won't happen again. Explain to her that you really miss being BFFs and that you'd like to try again. Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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BSG Fan writes:

Sometimes she will not talk so I do not know whats wrong. Then when I ask her she gets mad and I have no idea what to do???? Help please.

Hmmm... well, you can't fix the problem if she won't talk to you! Explain to her that when she gets upset, the only way you can solve things is to talk it out!

XOXO,

 

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rentlover1996 writes:

Hey!!! Can someone please help me?? two years ago, i had this super nice bff and now.... she turned all mean and popular she ignores me and doesn't think I exist. WHat do I do? Please help me!!!!!

Ughhh... it's hard when people change, but sometimes, they just DO. Your friend probably starting acting this way for another reason totally separate from you, but you can talk to her and say that you miss how you guys used to hang out and do fun things. If she's not willing to re-examine that attitude of hers, it might be time to focus on other friends.

XOXO,

 

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katie72450 writes:

Yah i now what happens.One time me and my bff got into a fight over a stupid boy. That day i found out that a bff is better than a stupid boy.

You are so right!!!

XOXO,

 

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feb1998 writes:

yestercay me and my freinds were palying a game its called lock and key then i put times that means i can take rest and than i can run than my freind said that you can't put times and run and than i said that i put times not lock and all my other freinds gathered around and asked what happened
 

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supersomething writes:

my friends fight with me
 

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taydotz333 writes:

MI FRIEND IS SO STUCK UP IT IS SO EASI TO FIGHT WITH HER I TELL HER SHE IS SO CONTROLLING AND SHE GOES U R MEAN WY U MI FRIEND I TELL WHEN SHE HAS NOT ENOUGH MAKE UP ON AND EVERY THING MY B/F THINKS WE SHOULD NOT B FRIENDS IT IS SOO AGRAVATEING WAT DO I DO

Maybe your friend is taking offense to what you say. Sometimes, stuff sounds good in our heads, but then when we speak them, it comes out really badly! Like, telling your friend she's not wearing enough makeup probably hurt her feelings -- even if she is "stuck up." No matter how she acts (stuck up, obnoxious) being mean to her isn't going to solve anything!

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

thinkpink16,

thanks! i am glad to help with anything so just ask if u need me!

aeroangel86, tell me how things worked out!

rentluver1996
 

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Mette writes:

dear purplewriter,
i think your friend should stay friends with the other four girls, but should try to find other friends too, with who she can hang out, if this girl picks on her.

Mette
 

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contry girl writes:

Well me and my bff get in fight's.so i think what do we do to each other?SO she or I go over one or the other house and say:i'm sorry and then she tell's me she is sorry back.Some times we don't axtp them! so each of us have a sertent kind of look her look is called:the tikerbell look.mine's is called:the tink look.And we usealy go for it.and this year we arn't geting in fights (well not yet)!
 

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purplewriter writes:

One of my friends, who lives in another state than I do, is having serious problems with one girl. She's in a group of five, but one girl keeps picking on her because she's the most sensitive. What should she do?

She should stick up for herself! No one has the right to pick on you for being quiet and sensitive. Sometimes, bullies target girls who are sensitive because they know they'll get a reaction. Tell your friend to focus on defending herself and sticking up for herself in these situations. If she doesn't do it, no one will!

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Rentluver1996,
great advice to aeroangel86!You are so right to not let the populars get in your way! And if the populars feel better to put people down then thats just mean and yo should stick with your friends! Great advice again!
ThinkPink16
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

dear aeroangel86,
don't let them get in your way! they try too hard to be cool and to keep up their image but really, whats the point? you should stick with your true friends, and forget about the populars. And even though its hard, when the populars make fun of someone, stick up for yourselves and others, because (and this is the same rule with older brothers, all of you) they are really just looking for a reaction. If you stand up to them and show them they aren't impressing anyone, they will probavly stop or at elast tone down a lil bit. Hope this helps!

luv,
rentluver1996

p.s. i am here if anyone needs advice!
 

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aeroangel86 writes:

hey maeve,there is some friend probs in my school. there is something called the populars and they think they can make fun of people all the time! its kinda like joline and anna. wat should i do???

love,
aeroangel86 smilies/smiley.gif

Every school has them -- Queens of Mean. Popular girls aren't always mean, and mean girls aren't always popular. But, if the popular girls in your school are mean and make fun of other people, just keep telling yourself that no matter what they say, they are not BETTER than you. So, whatever they say is just their opinion... NOT the truth. And, mean girls like to get reactions out of people (which is usually whey they're mean in the first place). So, if they say something to you, just be all "whatever" and walk away. Once they see they won't get a reaction out of you, they'll probably leave you alone!

XOXO,

 

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dezshanee writes:

don't fight it wroug
 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear ilove2shop,
you should talk to your friend because you both are being mean to each other and yourself because of everything that is happing . You should aproach your friend and say i really dont like the way your treating me and just because your happy about moving doesnt meen you can leave your best friend behind. Say that i am really sad that your moving and i would really apreciate it if i could spend a little more time with you because you are gonna be leaving soon. tell her that and i hope she will understand!
ThinkPink16 xoxo
 

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ilove2shop writes:

my fried and i are fighting because shes moving and shes happy so she doesnt have to see me. so now shes tryin to make me joulis by this other girl in my class.at gym she was tryin to talk to me but i did not listen because what she said to me so im really mad and now i do not have a bff. im really sad!!! please help me!!!!!!!!!! smilies/sad.gif

Your friend is moving? That's so sad! Maybe she acts like she's happy, but she's really scared of losing you as a friend. Maybe that's why she's trying to make you jealous. But, you don't have to play games with her. Try to get to the bottom of how she's really feeling to figure out how you can keep your friendship going after she moves.

XOXO,

 

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lil lexus writes:

hey maeve
i kow how u feel sometimes me and mi bestie do the same we fight and argue but u know something we always got eachother backs when something goes down..and i dont even know why we fight and argue when we know we is going 2 be bestfriends 4ever i dont care what no body do or say that will always be mii bestie till the end and till this day we will never ever brake up friends.....you r a good and special bestie ...luv ya
 

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lil lexus writes:

hey maeve
whats up girl how you been.yea me and my best friend argue and fight but that dont mean we are not bestfriend nomore we dont let no one get in our friendship so yea but if we fight and argue that will always be my best friend and my sister i love her
 

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YOUTUBE writes:

Dear Meave,
The egvice you gave me worked.Thanks once agin.Now we get alone and talk to eachother.

I'm so glad! I'm here if you need me!

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

hi sunshinedancer!

awesome that u two are working out again! i hope she isn't too sad about her breakup but ya know guys can be jerks. good luck with your tests! i just had two also! and about you other problem, i totally know what that is like. you should definitely try to be nices, but make sure she doesn't pull you into a close friendship you will regret. be friendly, but not friends. but don't exclude her, if you knw what i mean. hope this helps!

luv,
rentluver1996

p.s. if any1 needs advice i am here 4 u!
 

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raytay writes:

hey maeve
wat is up girl how you been. i know how you feel sometimes me and my friends argue and i really do hate it when we do. it feels like the whole world falls apart.sometimes when we fight i try to be the peacemaker and sometimes it is really hard cause you don't want to be on everybodies side cause if you do and one of the people find out then they get really mad at you then it is just a whole mess. sometimes i don't even understand why we get in fights when we could just stop it by looking at the other person's point of view well it is time for me to go peace out maeve (you are sssooooo awesome) from your good friend raytay
 

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sunshinedancer writes:

hey rentluver1996!
All is going well with my friend. Im helpin her cuz she broke up with her bf, and you know how that feels. So, im just tryin 2 be ther 4 her now. And we wer like cracking up @ dance last nite over sometin and it waz rly nice to be friends and not fightin anymmore. Well, gotta study 4 some major tests 2morra!!! Thank you!!!
But.. 1 Q:There is this one grl i know that is really annoying and is always getting on my nerves. I try to be nice, but its hard. What should i do?
- sunshinedancer101
 

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lillybelle writes:

Well,my friend calls me fat but im skinner then her she always says that she will beat me up but i can beat her cause we acually did get in a fist fight.She isn't really my friend.

Fist fight? Whoa! I think it's time you two took a few steps back. Name-calling and fighting isn't part of being BFFs!

XOXO,

 

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YOUTUBE writes:

Thanks for the egvice Meave.
 

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wheelz4eva writes:

dear maeve
there is a girl in my class and she really wants to be my bff but she is a bit weirdand really annoying. i had her over to my house once and she kept asking me if we were like bff now and i kept saying we were friends not bff's coz i had a bff that i have had since grade 3 (we r in grade 5now) and one of my friends came and said that it made her upset and i don't no why smilies/sad.gif

plz maeve i no you will help
from wheelz4eva smilies/cool.gif

Hmmm... I see what you're saying. BFF friendships really aren't forced, and that's what it sounds like this girl is trying to do. But, no need to hurt her feelings. Tell her that you like hanging out with her, but that you also have other friends you like to hang out with, too. Good luck!

XOXO,


 

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writinggal425 writes:

Dear Maive,
Last year several of my friends and I didn't like each other. This all happened in 1 day. I think I will tell you the whole story. During lunch time Ka dropped a nilla wafer down Ky's back. Ka was over at H's house for a sleepover. H had told Ka that R and M were using her. Ka belived in H and Ka chose 1 day in May to believe in her. R got really mad at Ka this is where I come in. I was supposed to play kickball with them. So I just stayed with them. Then we saw Ka and J. I walked up to them and they didn't move. Then R and M walked up them and they ran away. That's when we saw S and A talking to them. We followed them to the kickball field benches. We squeezed the truth out of them by catching them with a hoola-hoop. R made S tell us the truth. Luckily she didn't hurt her fisicly or treaten her. Then we went and found H and asked her if it was true that she had told Ka that we were using Ka. I tell you the rest later.
From,
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YOUTUBE writes:

BSG fans,please help me!Me and my bff got in a big fight and I tryed to talk to her but it woulden't work.What should I do!!!!!!I really want to be her frind again but she really won't listen.Meave can you help me too?


BSG fans please help me!
love,
YOUTUBE smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif

Sometimes, people need time to get over stuff. So, if your friend isn't ready to talk to you after a big fight, don't get frustrated. If she's giving you the silent treatment, that probably won't last much longer either. Make sure you apologize sincerely, and explain that you just want to move forward and put the past in the past!

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

hey sunshinedancer!

sooooo glad i could help!! i am so happy for you that you emailed your friend and i hope things work out between you and her! if you ever need anyone to spill to i am here!!! tell me what happens!

luv,
rentluver1996

if anybody ever needs advice i am here!
 

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sunshinedancer writes:

movieactress,
wat happend??!!
-sunshinedancer
hope i can help!
 

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mollygal82 writes:

me and my friend fight all the time.! i want to be friends with her but she doesnt want to be friends with me. help me Maeve!

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movieactress writes:

there is a group of girls in my grade who fight for attention,and they try to drag others into it! help! i was a victim. smilies/angry.gif

I only have a few words of advice: stay away. Stay FAR away! Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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sunshinedancer writes:

rentlover1996,
thanx 4 your advice!! actually, i did kind of know wy she was sometimes snappy, and i helped her with it. Then i emailed her and told her that i rly hope we dont fight any mor cuz we r so tight and that we should spend some friend time 2gether to update each other and help each other with our problems. Shes going throu sort of a tough time right now, well, we kind of both are, but Ur advice rly worked thanx soooooooooooo much!!! need any advice on anything? I hope I can help!!
-sunshinedancer smilies/smiley.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/grin.gif
 

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Mette writes:

my best friend and i only fought twice, but that was in 3rd grade (now we're in 9th grade). i don't always agree with her, but i'm not exactly the kind of person who says things like that directly into another person's face. For example we don't have many things that interest both of us. I love to read, she does not. she likes rock music, i do not. and so on. we had the same interests once, but that's over. i don't know how to tell her and somehow i don't want to.

It's totally normal for friends to grow apart as everyone gets older and starts getting into different things. It is possible to be friends with someone who does not have the same interests as you do. Sometimes, friends just drift apart naturally. There usually is no need to official "end" a friendship and never speak to one another again. Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

hi sunshinedancer,

i kind of know what your problem is about. this happens with one of my bffs sometmes too. i mean people can be really moody sometimes over nothing too. she might be acting strange and snappy because something is bothering her at home. i know that sounds cheesy, but really. if she is an open person ask her whats up and why is she all snappy. if YOU are the one starting the fights though give yourself a reality check. why are you two fighting over nothing! as soon as a fight starts just say, can we change the subject? also, try to hang out in a bigger group of friends than just you two because there is probably a less chance of getting in a fight and if u do get in a fight there are ore people to like stop it. hope this helps and tell me what happens!

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muga123 writes:

Thanks Maeve! I still get to see her in book club and I have play dates with her. Maybe I was being a drama queen or something. smilies/grin.gif
 

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tanesha writes:

me and my friend like the same boy but we dont no who he like most but when i try to talk to him my friend run up to him be for i can i dont no what to do i hope he like me best but when my friend talk to him he all ways smiles at me i think he likes me do you think he like me smilies/sad.gif

Uh oh! I don't know! I wish I had a crystal ball to find out. There's really no way to know for sure whether he likes you or your friend unless he makes it perfectly clear. (And boys tend not to do that!) In the meantime, just make sure that things are cool between you and your friend. You don't want to lose a BFF over a boy!

XOXO,

 

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sunshinedancer writes:

me and my best friend never fight. She's not really the catty type, and neither am i. Lately, though, we have been getting mad @ each other over stupid stuff and just kind of snapping at each other. All in all, we are always there for each other and i know we r realy tight..but i just wish we wouldnt fihgt anymore. I know I can tell her evrything 2.
iTS Kind of con-fusing but idk wat is up w/her sometimes..
Help Plz!!
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I've found that as we get older, friendships get harder. But, keep in mind that for both of you to get along better, at least one has to start making an effort. Tell her that you're going to try hard not to snap at her and pick fights. Once you do that, I bet she'll do the same thing.

XOXO,

 

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amatomboy writes:

i hav alot of friends. but 1 dosnt like another and 1 of my friends gets jelus if i hang out with the other one and she ha sa lot of freinds that i dont like and she always expects me to play with them and invite tthem ovr 2 my house shes bcoming anot-friend but she used 2 b my bff and i want it to stay that way but its imposibl Plese help!!!!!!ps maeve, u rock!

 

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cap_angel writes:

i have a friend who likes to, or rather it's a habit, ignore a friend for one month all the time
i have been the 'victim' many times, and i can't put up w/ her anymore
wat should i do?

Whoa! Whatever with that. Friends don't ignore friends for no reason. When she decides that it's your month to be ignored, don't wait patiently for her to give it up! Hang out with other girls and keep busy with other things! Hopefully, she'll realize that the whole thing is pointless!

XOXO,

 

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ilovegp writes:

Sometimes my friend and I have fights on who gets to serve her volleyball in our game. smilies/sad.gif
 

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rascal writes:

Daer Maeve,
i was raeding a BSG book it was Charlotte in Paris. i live in Belgium so it was cool to have book like that. it was the last day of school intill CHRISTMAS and by mistake i left it so i am wandering what happens
 

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rascal writes:

dear maeve,
the group is big is it to big i think it is. this is good but more may mess us up smilies/grin.gif
 

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rascal writes:

i love your idea smilies/kiss.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/tongue.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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BSGfan12 writes:

Dear Maeve,
There used 2 b 1 big group of all of us, but now there's groups splitting into smaller groups. And the hard thing is now I'm like, not allowed 2 hang out w/ girls in other groups becuz my bff's will get mad. What should I do???

Well, I think you guys should talk about the ROOT of the problem. It's OK to hang out with different people -- no need to get upset. It doesn't mean you don't like your other friends. But, really, you don't need their permission to hang out with who you want to hang out with!

XOXO,

 

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peaceout89 writes:

MY FRIENDSHIP PROBLEMS ARE EITHER KIDDING FIGHTING ABOUT NICK JONAS. WE SAY SOMETHING LIKE ONE PERSON SAYS I'M CUTTING MY HAIR SHORT AND ANOTHER PERSON SAYS I DON'T THINK IT LOOKS GOOD THAT WAY AFTER THAT WE GET IN A HUGE FIGHT OVER NOTHING. WE JUST HAVE TO LEARN NOT TO SAY SOMETHING THAT WE KNOW WILL MAKE THE OTHER PERSON MAD. THE ONE THING IN THE FIGHT IS WE WON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER IF WE FIGHT. BUT THEN ONE OF US SAYS SOMETHING SWEET AND THEN EVERYONE FORGIVES EACH OTHER BUT SOMETIMES IT DOESN'T WORK OUT BECAUSE THERE ARE FIVE GIRLS IN ONE HUGE MESSY FIGHT AND NON OF US KNOW WHAT TO DO AT OUR AGE. STAY MAD AT EACHOTHER OR FORGIVE EACHOTHER OVER NOTHING.

I think you're right. I think learning how to "filter" (which means thinking carefully about what you say before you say it) what you say can make a huge difference in this case. Even "kidding fighting" -- sometimes, like in BSG book #10 Just Kidding, it's really not funny. The best thing is to try and resolve your problems, forgive and forget, as soon as possible.

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear rentluver1996,
Thanx and I am here for u also! Happy 2008!!
luv Ya!
ThinkPink16
 

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rentluver1996 writes:

dear thinkpink16,

glad i could help! if you ever need any more advice just ask i'm here 4 u! go sixth grade! happy new year anyone! i hope all your problems work out!
 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Rockstar545,
Soemtimes me and my friends go to the guidence counceler too at my school and I also think that is a great way to solve problems!
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rockstar545 writes:

me n my bffs were in a ton of ridiculous fights, but we got through it by going to the guidance counselor at school. she helped us talk them out. it was fun to fix the problems cuz it was like solving a mystery. how do u like to solve ur friendship problems?
 

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trisha writes:

i got a frind she one of my bff we some times fight then we become freinds again. and i dont know how to stop the fighting. please help me so i can tell my freind how to stop the fighting wich is going for long time smilies/wink.gif i hope you can make it stop sees ya smilies/shocked.gif

Keep in mind that it takes TWO people to have a fight, so next time you feel a fight coming on, take a few deep breaths and calm down. At that point, you can talk things out and try to stop the fight before it starts.

XOXO,

 

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Miley_Ramsey writes:

At school, I have lots of friends... but they all seem to leave me alone, I feel.. invisible, I just moved here in August, plus I started school 3 days late! I think they hate me...

Oh, they don't hate you! Sometimes, you face a tough crowd when you start a new school, but if you give it time, keep smiling, and be friendly to everyone, I bet they'll come around :-)

XOXO,

 

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AveryBubbleGum writes:

Dear Maeve,
My bff and I had a big fight over a stupid toy.She said:Oh come on!I was the one who found it first (which by the way is not true)then i was shocked!I never thought she would ever lie to me.Then at the end of the day we made a deal that one at a time one of us will play with it one day then bring it back so the other one can play with it.(and this is way back when we were just 10)Well...we weren't supposed to start until tomorrow but the she took it with her and then the next day i was gonna start,but she didn't bring it back.Well i got mad at her so i told her If shes not going to give it back its better not to be bff.The next day she absent,then her mom gave my mom a call and my mom was so mad at me she ground me for 4 weeks....I explained it to her why i told it to my bff.So her mom and my mom talked it out and we were able to be best friends again...but well now i moved.So we got separate but we still are best friends and talk in the cell phone.My mom said later in my life i'll be able to see her again.Wow,this is the first time i have ever told anyone this before so i kinda feel relieved..Thanks Maeve,I think you will be a great friend to me if i was to meet you in real life smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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saddlegaltex writes:

One of my problems last year was, my BF ditched me.She hung out with the QOM's and would make fun of me.Then I asked her why she was being so mean,she told me,we were friends again and we promised not to ditch each other.
GOOD IDEA MAEVE? smilies/wink.gif

GREAT idea!

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Rentluver1996,
Thanx so so much for the advice because if I saw all that writing with friend 1 and friend 2 i would be wicked confused! So ya i really think friend 1 is going through a phase because she hurt freiend 2's feelings a lot in the past month by not believing her and it makes me sad for both of them because of this new freindis wrecking there friendship. What I think I am going to do is talk to tyhe new friend and ask her a few questions what I want to ask her is WHY ARE U BREAKING MY FRIENDS UP!! But I really cant ask that but so i will just try to get all of us together to talk this out. Thanx for the advice again!!

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Emzy writes:

well i just started a new school and a new year (im yr7 now)i was friends with this girl and i did this tiny joke and i mean tiny. it was that that this boy said yes to come to her b-day party and i only said it once and from then on she's being bullying me bad so Maeve what should i do?

Uh oh... doesn't look like she thought your joke was very funny. And, almost NO ONE likes to have tricks played on her. I would apologize sincerely, and explain that it won't happen again. Then say that you hope you can put all the meanness behind you!

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

dear thinkpink16,

eeek!! this is confusing! The first thin to do is talk to friend two. Ask her the whole story on what happened. Try to figure out what your friend 1 is going through. If you three were really close friends for awhile, then friend 1 might just be going through a phase. But if she is being mean, or if her fiends are being mean then you really have a problem. Friend 1's "new best friends" are also probably jealous that you and friend 2 were great friends with friend 1 before, so she is trying to keep friend 1 all to herself. I think you, friend 1 and friend 2 should TALK IT OUT! because otherwise, there are gonna be rumors and nasty lies and ignoring each other and everything!! so get together with you, friend 1 nad friend 2 and find out what is going on.

hope this helps,

luv,
rentluver1996
 

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Richiya Francis writes:

my friendship probs is we get mad over nothin sometimes thats my friendship probs!!!! smilies/shocked.gif
 

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star94! writes:

my friend thinks that i have'nt been spending
enough time with her because i've been hanging with my boyfriend what souhld i do ?
xoxo
nachrgirl

I bet your friend is feeling a little left out now that you've got a bf. Make sure you set aside special girl-time for the two of you without the bf. Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Maeve and any other BSG members,
I have a problem. I have these two best friends and last year we were all really tight. But this year things are different. Me and one of my friends are in another class and the other is in another class . So this is hard because friend #1 is in her own class and she is getting to know these 3 girls that are like 3 new bestfriends for her. So my other friend friend #2 was talking to friend #1's new best friend and that new best friend keeps lieing to my other friend friend #2 and saying that friend #1 is mad at her so this so called best friend to friend #1 is trying to break up my 2 bffs. Friend #2 went home crying and could hardly talk to me and i was so so sad and this wont stop happening friend #1 keeps believing her new best friend that she has only known for and couple of months and she is believing the new bestfriend over friend #2 that friend #1 has known for a long time. I really need help because I am stuck in the middle!!!
Thanx!
ThinkPink16 smilies/cheesy.gif
P.S. I am really sorry that the friend numbers are a little confusing because I would use names if i could!!

Drama! I'm so sorry that you're stuck in the middle like this. If this new best friend is trying to break up your two BFFs, that's wrong. Those two BFFs should have a conversation WITHOUT the new BFF to make sure everything is straight. "Go-betweens" like the new best friend almost always cause trouble. Keep in mind that if all the drama is going on between your two BFFs, you have every reason to stay out of it. Taking sides or telling one what another said and so on will only create unnecessary trouble for YOU.

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear BSG Fan,
You should tell your friend the only reason why I went and told my other friends is that what you did was wrong and I just felt like I couldnt hold it in. But then again you can apolidgise that you told on her and if you dont want to that is totally ok but you can say like I should have talked to you first and asked you why you did it and that maybe be hard to say but I think you can get this friend back by apologising. Hope that Helps!!!
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BSG Fan writes:

Dear Maeve,
I was at school when I saw one of friends using a calculator on a Math test. I told a few friends, but then the friend cheating got really mad and called me a backstabber, the worst friend ever, and said she hated me. I really want this friend back! HELP ME MAEVE! smilies/sad.gif

Well, clearly your friend is upset. Even though it was wrong for her to cheat, when you see something like that happen, it's best to tell a teacher or your parents. Telling other kids can make it into gossip, and it could get you and your friend in trouble. I'd apologize to your friend and explain that you don't agree with her cheating, but you're sorry for turning it into a bit of gossip. Good luck!

XOXO,



 

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Klicious writes:

Well one time me and dis gurl were fighting she got mad because I waz palyin wit my other friend,I know dats stupid rite!Anywayz so then she waz hangin out wit my other friend jus to make me jelous but dat didn't work.So then she jus started staring at me What should I do?

Oh no! Hopefully, this will all blow over and you'll be back to BFF again very soon. If not, do your best to stop the whole jealousy thing before it becomes a cycle!

XOXO,

 

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alidiva9 writes:

oh this is too hard to explain!!!!!! ok.... one day in our Christmas party at school I was wearing a blouse. She came up to me, and said that she thought it was a dress and said " That dress is way to small 4 u!!!"
I got so mad!!!! But I don't wanna tell her that I got mad. What do i do now?????

Well, if you feel very strongly about what she said and feel like it's still bothering you after some time, think about talking to her and explaining how she hurt your feelings. That way, you won't have that happen again.

XOXO,



 

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nikkioli writes:

well me and this girl has been friends for 8years when we were in kindergarten we met and we have been friends but... we fight but not like we mean it then she runs home and tells her mom so her mom said we can't be friends i think that should be our choice not her moms her mom needs to mind her on business

Well, I mean, her mom and your mom just want you guys to be happy. That's what my mom says, even when she's grounding me! So, even though you may not mean it, you and your friend need to stop fighting and show BOTH your moms that it's good for both of you to be friends.

XOXO,

 

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rentluver1996 writes:

ok so this obnoxious girl was acting all nice at the beginning of the year, but now she is all obnoxious. ok so, in social studies, she was talking and said, this other girls is so mean to me!(which by the way she is not) i just hate her and all her airhead friends." and by the way, the girl she was talking about is a really good friend of mine, and this girl was saying this to me and my other friend. oh, and also this obnoxious girl thinks she is my friend. so anyways back to the story. i said to the obnoxious girl, " well you know,I am one of those "stupid airhead friends", an i am proud of it. so don't say anything mean, because she s my friend and you wouldn't want her to say mean things about you" i felt really good about that.

~rentluver1996

As Avery would say, ROCK ON! Now, that's standing up for yourself!

XOXO,

 

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veronicas_rock writes:

well theres girl and shes talking behind my bak like when i sing i look funny smilies/sad.gif

Hey, that's just one girl's opinion. It doesn't mean it's true!

XOXO,

 

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violetglow writes:

Babymegan90,
Thanks for the advice! smilies/grin.gif I'll be sure to use it. If I need anything else, I hope you'll read those. Like my boy problem. Any way, more bad friend news. There's a girl that's friends with two of my best friends, but she doesn't like me because I hang out with them more than she does. What's her deal?!?
Violetglow

I'll take a stab at this one. I'm getting the sense that she's probably jealous of you, and a lot of times that happens because people are unfamiliar with one another -- so they assume the worst! Show this girl how friendly you are and try your best to get to know her better. The more familiar she becomes with you, her jealousness might just fade away.

XOXO,

 

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babymegan90 writes:

Violetglow,
If your friend likes it when you fight she justs wants you to be her fruiend and no one elses! Just try to get that friend to become friends with your othere ones! If she dosent like then just talk to her about how you feel.
Hope this helps you
Babymegan90
 

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violetglow writes:

Dear Maeve,
My friends fight way to much! In fact, they just got through with a fight this afternoon. The sad thing is, one of my friends likes it when we fight. No idea why she's my friend, but.....
Any way, she enjoys making us choose sides and saying bad things about the others behind their backs. HEEEEEEELLLLLLLLP!!!!!!!!

You know what? I think some girls are literally ADDICTED to drama. Like, life isn't interesting enough unless there's some kind of chaos going on. But, remember that you DON'T have to play by her rules. If she tries to start a fight, remind her that it takes TWO to fight and that you're not going to do it. Tell her that you REFUSE to choose sides between your friends. And, if she says something mean about someone behind her back, simply say, "OK, whatever... gotta go!" Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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babymegan90 writes:

My bff is really popular. Dont get me wrong i have alot of friends that are cool or whatever. I just am sick of being her follower and i need advice!!

Sick of being her follower? All you have to do is STOP. Sometimes, we get into a rut where we just keep doing what we're doing just because we've always done it. But that "follower" feeling is not going to go away unless YOU do something about it. And, that doesn't mean not being friends with her. Just take every opportunity to make your own decisions whenever you feel strongly about it and LEAD, girl!

XOXO,

 

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thinkpink16 writes:

Dear Soccerrocks115,
You should totally talk to your friend and say i really dont like the way your lieing to me all the time and say i know you are lieing and i really need to talk. You can kind of put it in a way like we have been fiends sence second grade and if you were my friend you wouldnt be lieing to me to get attention and you could say like can we work this out. I hope that helps u! Trust me i know the feeling becuase i used to be friends with someone and now they are a total snob!
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leah512 writes:

i FINISHED READING THE BOOK A COUPLE OF NIGHTS AGO! I WAS WONDERING WHAT WAS YOUR SECRET YOU WERE GOING TO AT LUNCH!IT MADE ME MORE INTERESTED WHEN MRS.WEISS ASKED YOU HOW YOU SPECIAL PROJECT WAS GOING!

Oooh! I can't spoil the book for the other readers... :-)

XOXO,

 

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icy.bookworm writes:

Dear sockerrocks155,
Talk to your friend. Talk. Talk. I know it's what everyone says all the time, but it does help. If she lies about telling lies, try to take a break and cool things down a bit. Maybe keep your distance for a day or two. It might help!

Hope that helps,
icy.bookworm
 

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soccerrocks155 writes:

My friend and I have been friends sence second grade but she lies to me all the time I know she only wants attencion.What should I do?

You're right, sometimes people lie just to get attention. Explain to her that because she lies all the time, people will have difficulty trusting her -- even when she's telling the truth. And, remember that just because SHE'S lying does not mean you have to go along with it, too.

XOXO,

 

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soccerrocks155 writes:

When I started 5th grade my best friend started hagging out with a girl. After a while she just ignored me. When she got in a fight with her, she went to me then when they make up she doesn't want to be my friend any more. pleas help! smilies/sad.gif

Sooo... when she wasn't getting along with this new girl, she was your BFF and now that they're talking again, she's history? That's not a very BFF-ish thing to do. I'd say to let it go for now and focus on a new group of friends. If you notice that she's hanging around again after a fight with this other girl, definitely tell her how you feel and how you DON'T want to be treated that way.

XOXO,

 

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gubgub151 writes:

Me and one of my best friends have known each other forever. and we fight all of the time. But sometimes she just makes me so mad beacause she can sometimes lie or twist around storys so they r not true.we see each other
almosteveryday so its not like i cant just not be her friend(ive tried) but what else can I do?

thnx for listening

gubgub151 smilies/smiley.gif

Hmmm... you're right. It's hard not to be friends with someone who you see every day. But, you can limit the time you talk to her by not bringing up subjects that will get her going off on a rant. Just keep things simple, and try to accept her for who she is. And, like my parents say, it could just be a phase.

XOXO,

 

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gubgub151 writes:

Ok so my Friendship deal is that me and my friends all a greed we wouldnt have one best friends, we would have alot of them. But now we are all split up at diff. schools but now i have new friends to and just one of my closest ones. I have been hanging alot with my new friends and i think my other friend is jelous. I dont now what to do because i dont think my new buds like her. Any advice?

thnx
gubgub151

It is really hard to stay in touch with old friends when you live in different neighborhoods, go to different schools, and get involved in different activities. And, it's normal for your friend to be jealous of your new friend. But, she has to understand that you can't go through the year without making any new friends! Be honest with your friend and explain that no matter how many new friends you make, you still value her friendship. And, set a good example by asking if you can meet HER new friends, too.

XOXO,

 

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muga123 writes:

Please I beg of you remember my last problem Maeve? Well please reply. I am desperate. smilies/tongue.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif
 

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IcePrincess223 writes:

Mine? Mine are that my friends are friends with other people. I wish I could be friends with them! What should I do????
~Not Able to Make Extra

People tend to make friends with people who are friendly, kind, laid back, and have a good sense of humor. Try to bring out those qualities in yourself when you're with these other people. Good luck!

XOXO,

 

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muga123 writes:

Maeve please reply to my last message. I want advice. smilies/sad.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/shocked.gif

You got it! Anytime.

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teenqueen writes:

Me and my BFF's had a masive fight few weeks ago about who will be the lead singer in the school talent show.For the next 2 day we did't practis or talk to each oter.Just 1 day before the show we were told to meet in the park we did not know that we were going to meet each other we thoth that we will meat our boyfriends but the set us up so from that moment we are friends and I've got to sing the lead.We prictise nearly all night and we did we did win the talent chompisino! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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redsoxfreak24 writes:

ok now i have more to the problem in social studies we were talking about plagorizing and then forging and i asked what happens if u forge ur mom's signature on ur reading log he said that u would get suspended if u did that he said u could turn that person in without them knowing who turned them in and now today we had a test and she asked me a question she didn't know that we knew was going to be on the test(but this was before we had the test) and she was writing everything down on her hand! now i feel i have to turn her in but i have a feeling she will know it was me that turned her in plz help me!!!!!

This sounds so difficult -- I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! You are right, she will probably suspect that it is you who turned her in if you witnessed her cheating. SO, to avoid that, talk to your teacher and just tell him to keep an eye on your friend. It will only be a matter of time until he catches her himself, and the burden is off of you.

XOXO,

 

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coconut1010070 writes:

Hollywood24 knows what i mean but my friends pass notes in class saying stuff and they start giggling and use the binders to block thier faces from me and then they say something giggle look at me and then again its just a revolving circle but i don't want to tell the teacher or else they'll get mad at me! HELP!!!!!

This whole situation sounds like it is hurting YOU! So, I would say to let go of being afraid of making them mad. I feel like part of being a teenager is learning how to stand up for yourself and doing what you believe is right. The only way to stop what's going on is to tell them how you feel. If they get mad, then it might be time to hang with a different group for a while.

XOXO,

 

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muga123 writes:

Maeve this is a problem. So this girl was a really good friend in First Grade but in Second she was a little bit mean. Then in Third Grade she moved on to a new popular girl. She never played with me at recess. In Fourth Grade she was like really nice to me and hanging out with me! Then I am in Fifth Grade now and she was never nice to me and laughing with her new friends. Then one day she said " Nice outfit!" She said it in a nice way. I mean I still have visits with her but they are not the same. What should I do Maeve?
Sometimes I wonder if I am weird or if I am doing something wrong. Now I feel like I have no friends. Want to be friends?
Hopefully BFF,
Muga123
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Of course we're friends! And, let me tell you, you are not being weird. It's very normal for girls to try out different groups of friends in elementary school. So, if you feel like that's what your friend is doing, think about doing the same! It doesn't mean that you two can't be friends whenever the time is right. :-)

XOXO,

 

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redsoxfreak24 writes:

well one of my friends is in all of my academic classes(math science social studies and english) and in english i check in the homework every monday u have to bring in a reading log and the people who don't bring it in on monday have to bring it in the next day. well my freind didn't bring it in today and so she said let me find it come back to me and she calls me over and says my mom did her initials again and i said ok but then i see a red colored pencil in her hand and on the reading log was red colored pencil which was supposed to be her mom initials. i know she forged it beacuse on all the other times the signing was different.it had the initials on some of the newer reading logs too. what should i do? i was tempted to tell the teacher but then i no my friend would hate me forever cuz in our school the worst thing u can do is forge a signature or cheat on soemthing and just to let u no i have seen her do her math homework by just writing down the answers on what we correct i no that she will probably get suspened for that so i don't know what to do plz help me someone!!!!!!! smilies/sad.gif

This is a toughie. I wonder why your friend feels like she has to cheat -- it's a much better feeling to accomplish schoolwork yourself and get a "good job!" from the teacher.

If your friend ever involves YOU in cheating (like pressuring you to lie for her or letting her copy your homework), you should tell a parent or your teacher right away. That's taking advantage of a friend, which is total BFF no-no.

If she is not involving you, and you feel strongly about making her stop, talk to your teacher about it or leave an anonymous note on her desk. But, keep in mind that unless the teacher SEES evidence of this going on, she probably won't get your friend in trouble.

XOXO,

 

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mimiandjo writes:

Thanks Maeve, hopefully this will solve my problem! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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redsoxfreak24 writes:

my bff thinks she is sooooo popular cuz she is friends with one of the popular cuz she is really nice and everything but now my bff thinks oh i am so popular cuz i am hanging out with her but she's really not and the popular girl doesn't even really like her so i just ditch her for my other friends and she doesn't care cuz she id hangign out with her"new bff" and she is one of my friends too(the popular girl)
 

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mimiandjo writes:

Dear Maeve: Me and my friend have been fighting for a month. Heres why: My bff and I have been friends for life! But now she's making new friends. I tried talking to her but all she said was that I was just jealous! What do you think I should try doing now? I don't want to put her in peer preasure over deciding to choose wether me or her other friends. Please help me and my friend have NO clue in what to do.

This is totally normal for BFFs to go through! Asking your BFF to make a choice (you or her other friends) is not the best way to solve the issue. This will make her feel upset and trapped -- and peer-pressured, like you said. Instead, have an open mind about her new friends. Hang out with them and try to get to know them better. You might find that you all like hanging out together! Remember that you can still have a special relationship with your friend even when she is spending time with other people. It's not all or nothing :-)

XOXO,

 

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GiantPandaK writes:

Hollywood24 just know WE are here for you.We'll cry and giggle at all of your stories smilies/cry.gif smilies/grin.gif
 

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