The BSG and I are the best of friends. But even BFFs have fights
sometimes. Ick. Like when Avery AND Katani were both running for
president of the 7th grade class at Abigail Adams Junior High. Yeah,
with the both of them planning their campaigns, lunch got a little…
well, intense. And AWK-ward!
At one point, Avery and Katani wouldn’t even sit with each other! It
was awful. But, the BSG stuck together—like we always do—and came out
stronger than ever. (You can read alllll about Avery and Katani’s
presidential duel in book #5 Promises, Promises.)
i do not have a lot of friends and i dont know if they think i am crazy or not or if they think i am ugly. i do not know what to do.
Dear dinyal,
Making friends isn't about being super pretty or perfectly nice all the time. TRUE friends love you for who you are. Try meeting people who have the same interests as you (like, in clubs and stuff) and can appreciate you for being YOU.
hey maeve. um i have a friend and she's my bff, kinda like u and the bsg, and she found some new friends who are really mean to me. I am really worried I'm losing my BFF and whenever I tell her how I feel about it she always reassures me that we will be BFFs no matter what. I know I should belive her, but I can't considering she now ignores me at school. can you help me? xoxoxo ~Rachel~
Dear marty2233,
Your BFF can't just tell you she'll be there for you no matter what. She needs to SHOW you. So, if she's saying one thing, and then doing another, it's a good idea to tell her the truth about how you're feeling.
Maeve, Well I have a Bff(she is 14 and I'm 13) and we have been Bffs for 10 years! We never fight and that is good right! Well that is not the prob. the prob. is She has this brother that is my age and He is realy nice and I think that he is cute! MY BFF tells me that her brother likes me and I know that me does! But we live like 3 hours away so we don't see eachother that much but when we do see eachother I can tell that he wants too tell me something but he never does! Should I tell him I like him or should I just wait till he comes to me? I don't know what to do!!!!! Help me!!!! P.S. This has been going on for years!!!!! P.P.S. Also I did not tell you that this is my first crush! ~ I have know idea what to do so help me!!! I don't know who else to talk!! signed Help me! Thanx!
Dear Help me!
Since you live so far away from each other, ask him for his email address. That way you two can chat in between visits and get more comfortable with one another. Word to the wise: give your friend a heads up about what you're doing. That way there are no surprises!
hey it's me again i really like guy and on haloween were hanging out and my friend told me he told her he was going to ask me out and i relly like him and he really likes me but how do i find out if i can trust him and were like bffs and i can trust him with like my secrets but how do i know if i can trust him being my boy friend?but pleaes get back to me i need your advise ~riley~
Dear spenceluv1,
You're right -- trust is SO important when you get into any kind of relationship (friends, more than friends, whatever). But, building trust in a you-like-him/he-likes-you kind of relationship takes time. And, there's no rush! If you can trust him as a friend, then spending more time with each other will feel like a natural, comfortable step. But, if you feel UNcomfortable with being more than friends, you have a great friendship to fall back on.
It's me again. I have a friend that right now is acting like she hates me. I was walking right next to her and she completely ignored me. She said goodbye at the end of the hall even though she knew I go that way too! I don't know what to do!! I feel like she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Then she talks about some of my friends and how much she hates them! What do I do??????
Hey!!! I once had a fight with my best friend. She came to school one day and accused me of stealing a Twix bar from the cafeteria a few days before. She waited a few days before telling me because she wanted to think about how she was going to tell me. We ended up going to the school guidance counselor and she said she only told me because if I really did steal it (which I didn't) she didn't want to go down that road with me. We are best friends again and we realized that fights can bring a stong friendship even closer.
I have a really good friend and we have been friends FOREVER. BUt now she hangs out with these other new girls and I kind of feel left out sometimes. SHe looks so happy so I don't want to keep them apart but I feel like she doesn't spend that much time as me as before. What should I do?
Dear BSG Fan,
It's natural for BFFs to grow apart sometimes, but being BFFs isn't something you just walk away from, is it? Talk to your friend about how you feel, and maybe suggest that you and her new friends can all hang out together. If not, there's no reason why you can't make some new friends, too!
ay first of all i think my friend is lying to me all the time and she is so unrelyable i cant tellher about herself last time i tried to explain to her very nicly and pleasent she got mad at me and didnt talk to me and she wont do nothin with me and its our last year in elementary and she is being lazy thats getting old what should i do?
Dear kekechi,
Trust is a BIG part of being friends with someone. Try talking to her again and give her more than one chance to get the message. If her behavior STILL doesn't improve, it might be time to move on and meet new people.
I have a really good friend, and we've known each other for years. But she has a boyfriend now, and he's a total jerk . I hate him so much, and the worst part is the way he treats me and our other friends. He's always 'talking trash' about us right to our faces, and my friend doesn't stand up for us at all! She just laughs along with him. When people are mean to her, we all stick up for her, and we feel like she should do the same! Any advice? I'd really appreciate it!
Dear niobee,
Ick! Try talking to your friend when it's just the girls -- aka, when her bf isn't around. Make it clear that you don't like how he treats you and your other friends. Explain that you still want to be friends with her, but if he continues to trash talk to your face, you'll be avoiding him whenever possible. You don't have to put up with that!
Maeve- My "bffs" and I are "fighting" again. YES THIS HAS HAPPENED BEFORE! I'm sick and tired of it because we are all almost 14 and we can't get along! It's like come on guys grow up. I'm the oldest out of the group and I feel like I should stand up and say something but I just can't because they're so hateful to every one an I'm not so sure that is the kind of people I want to be seen with. I hate to be this way because we have been together almost all our lives!!!! Yet weVe also had these "fights" all our live! I'm sick and tired of it how do I stop it with out hurting other friends? -sick of fighting-
Dear Sick of Fighting,
I think it IS time for one of you to stand up and say something. Fighting all the time isn't good for any of you, so why stay close friends if it's just too stressful? It's not like you're married to your friends -- you can still have great memories of when you were BFFs, but it might be time to move on and find a different crowd. Feelings might get a little hurt, but you'll feel a whole lot better when you're not playing referee every time you guys hang out!
I really like this guy in my class and when I'm alone with he him he's really funny and cool and acts like he likes me too. But when he's with his/my other friends he acts like I'm not there. What should I do?
Dear Maeve, My best friend and I are both atheletic, but she is naturally atheletic and I have to work at it. She is more consistent with her overhand serve in volleyball than I am and everyone thinks she is the better player. P.S. She is also the captain, and I was the runnerup (I lost by one vote!!!) P.P.S. The coach always favors her!!! Sincerely, Girl who wants justice
Dear Girl Who Wants Justice,
Being competitive with a BFF is a recipe for DRAMA to the max. And, yeah, it does hurt when your friend gets a ton of attention while you're feeling a little left out. But, as her BFF, the best thing to do is support her no matter what. If she's still supportive of you, then try not to let those jealous feelings take over your friendship. OK, she's good at volleyball -- but you're probably really good at something she struggles in. Focus on YOUR strengths and work at not comparing yourself to your friend. Doing the best that YOU can is something you BOTH can appreciate.
My friend and I are really close. We do a lot of things together. But one time, when we were eating lunch, and she didn't want to sit next to someone, she left. I didn't follow her because I wanted to eat lunch there. Then, when I came up to her, she asked me why I didn't follow her. I told her that I wanted to eat there. I'm considering telling her that just because she doesn't want to sit there, doesn't mean I do to. What should I do?
Sincerely, Considering new friends
Dear smiley624,
Good for you for staying put! You can go with the flow and follow your friends once in a while, but if it means going against something you feel strongly about, you should stand up for yourself!
You did just that by staying and eating with the person your friend didn't want to sit with. That doesn't mean you can't still be friends! Just make it clear that you have your own mind and you make your own decisions -- and that's soooo BSG.
theirs this girl thats really sweet but i don't want to be friends with her because she to diferent from me.
Dear innerstar2,
I bet if you get to know this girl, you'll find that you're not so different after all! Being different is what makes people cool and unique. Like me -- I've got red, curly hair! But, I love it because it's part of what makes me different from my friends!
If this girl is really nice and sweet -- give her a chance! You could be making a friend for life.
theres this girl in my class thats always trying to stael my very best friend even though my best doesn't even like her she still manages to be mean to me and my other best friend except for the one friend what should me and my bff do?
Well the other day my friend went up to my crush and said things like oh, she loves you! She wants to marry you, she wants to be your girlfriend. So I found out and I got really mad, so I confronted her. I told her that I was mad that she said that but she said it was only a joke, but a very mean joke. Then later I told my other friend that she likes a boy. But I guess my friend told about everybody. So she said I spread a rumor that she liked a kid but she told me she liked him and she did the same thing. so now she turned everyone against me and thinks I'm the bad person, but she doesn't tell both sides of the story and how she hurt me. So what do I do? I keep saying sorry for the past two days but she keeps saying she'll have to think about us being friends. I can't believe her!
Dear Maeve Girl970,
AWESOME name! It sounds like your friend should be the one apologizing to YOU, not the other way around! You might want to rethink being friends with HER. People make mistakes, and it's no reason to end a friendship, but what she did was pretty nasty!
Just keep your head held high, and try not to talk about the situation with people who are not your closest friends. It's none of their business, right? And, the people who aren't convinced that you're a bad person just because of this little mishap -- stick with them. They're what friendship is all about.
Dear Maeve, Me and my bff have just started a new school year and she has already found a new best friend.We don't have time for each other.We've been bffs since grade 1.Everytime I she's always on the other line with her new bff.HELP!
Okay I have this friend who keeps telling the guy I like that I like him. She tells him stuff like you need to ask her out and talk to her, but then she tells me that I have to make the first move, like writing him a love note. He has a girlfriend though and I don't want her to hate me. I also have his phone number, he gave it to me last year. I want my friend to quit telling him that. She's being really nosy and I want her to stop. How do I tell her to stop without hurting her feelings??
Dear tapdancer95101,
Sounds like YOUR feelings are the ones getting hurt here. You can say something like, "Listen, I know you're just trying to help, but I really want you to stop telling my crush I like him." Be direct -- that way she knows exactly how you feel.
And, don't let her pressure you into doing something you feel uncomfortable about. If you're not ready to write him a note or call him, that's OK! Wait until YOU want to make a move -- and tell your friend (nicely!) to back off in the meantime.
When I tell my friend a new nickname for the boy I like and she tells him even if she swears she won't.I'm starting not to trust her anymore.
Dear MaeveFan173,
Hey! You have a cool name, too! One of the major things about friendship is keeping each other's secrets. That's SUPER important! If you feel like your friend is telling people your secrets, it's time to sit down and have a long talk with her -- or time to find other friends to spill your secrets to.
my friend and me always fight and she is the one who starts it my mom does not like her because she likes to talk about boys alot when she is soppsoed to be concetrating on school work
dear meave, my friends and i use to love eachother. now these 2 girls are in a fight and want sides of there own. the only promblem is they both want to be m friend. i have been switching days with them but im sick of. i dont want to pick a side.
sincerly, sides......stink
Dear lolagirl,
Ugh... choosing sides is never easy or fair. So, you're doing the right thing by refusing to choose between your two friends! If your two friends put pressure on you to choose, try hanging out with other people for a little while -- hopefully your friends will mend THEIR friendship in the meantime.
i never have friend probblems but its my momshe treats me just like a baby
what should i do? signed, confused
Dear Confused,
You're not alone! My mom used to micro-manage my schedule and treat me like a little kid sometimes. That's just what moms do! So, I showed her how grown up I am by staying on top of my school work, keeping my room clean, and helping out around the house.
Prove to your mom how responsible and mature you are, and talk to her about how you feel. She might not even realize she's doing it!
I have the same problem as pinkpunk96. My bff is really nice, we can talk about anthing together, but sometimes she acts really mean and bossy, what should i do?
Hi, duckywucky36 again, i have another problem. There all these girls (the wispers) who are really mean. HATE me and my friends more then anyone else. How can i ignore them without them makeing some comment or spreading gossip?
Dear duckywucky36,
Ooooh, I've got the answer! There's a saying that goes: "Kill them with kindness." What that means is the best way to deal with bullies or Queens of Mean is not to go to their level by gossiping and saying mean things back. It sounds weird, but being KIND to them doesn't give them much to hate you for, does it?
So, if walking away doesn't work, try just smiling and letting whatever comment roll off your back and move on. Also, tell your mom or your teacher about their bullying, and they can help you with a solution.
I like this guy in my class he likes me back only he likes my bff better than me. What should i do? My BFF doesnt like him back that much, only as a friend. We are in a group together but when we are in the group he is hanging out with his friends-please help Meave!
Dear Maeve, i like this guy in my class. He's really nice and funny and when i'm alone with him he's really cool and acts like he likes me , but when he's with his other friends he acts like i don't exist. I' ve liked him for 2 years and i hurts when he ignores me. please answer, Maeve.
Dear catlover111,
Ouch. Being ignored like that hurts. Especially when you don't know why! Sometimes, boys act totally different when they're with their friends because a lot of boys like to act macho and tough around other guys.
Many boys are afraid to show their softer side (how he acts when you guys are alone) in front of their pals because they think they'll get teased. So, I'm bet that him ignoring you in front of his buds isn't about you -- it's about his own insecurities with his friends!
Hey Maeve, there is this really annoying girl in my grade. she thinks that me and my friends are HER friends. but no one likes her. She has 2 kno everthing, and makes us look uncool. what should i do? i want her to get the point that we don't wanna be friends with her!!!!!
Kay so sometimes i feel if i always hang with boys i mean i like it but it seems like i only hang with my friends that are girls on weekends what do i do?
Hey Maeve, Martyis2cute here!!! Here's the deal. My bff is totally obsessed with this guy. She keeps everything he gives her(even a rock he gave her.) And i kinda told him about this secret box thing she has about him in art. He said he wanted to talk 2 her but then i learned she wanted it to be a secret!!! It was on a thursday and he told me to tell my bff to call him but i never did. And i was out of school on friday so i don't know what happened. Now i'm afraid of what will happen on Monday!! Plz plz plz plz plz help me!!!!! With all the respect u get, Martyis2cute
Dear Maeve, My friend isn't in many of my classes and now she doesn't hang out with me anymore and she just does things with another girl. I am not really happy with her. What do i do???
Dear monkey202,
The best thing you can do is be honest with your friend. Tell her that you're feeling left out right now and that you still want to be her friend. And, you know what? The more the merrier! Try to get to know the girl your friend is hanging out with -- you might find that you can all have a blast TOGETHER.
My friend Victoria and I have always been best friends for as long as I can remember but this year I am not in any of her classes.The real big problem is the friendship stealers are.As long as they have been doing all of their nasty tricks sometimes they can really...well trick you and you never know!!!
my friend and i were kidding and pushin each other when she pushed me into a guy i like and i said something and she said in front of him, "your the one who likes him!" and pointed at my crush and laughed now even an obnoxios guy whom i hate knows it too~~ i dont no if i should pretend i dont like him or what!! and i get hit and made fun of at school another kid tripped me in the hall and then called me a dork and my family wont help me what do i do?
Dear hollywood102,
This kind of treatment needs to stop! Tell your teacher or another adult you trust about what is happening to you. He or she can help stop the bullying you're experiencing -- and that's what is most important here. It's one thing to be embarrassed in front of your crush, but it's time for an adult to get involved if you're being hit or tripped or called names. Good luck!
Dear Maeve, I am so mad! I sit with this girl at lunch named Betsy.I sit with her because my friends are friends are friends with her. Yesterday she was talking about who was invited to her slumber party (i wasn't invited) right in front of my face. My other friend Riley was invited but she is going to chicago. We told our other friend Devin but she just shrugged her shoulders. I know Devin shouldn't get involved but she's only one that could talk to her. My mom told me to ignore Betsy but so far it isn't working. What should i do Maeve? ~Confused~
Dear Confused,
This sounds almost EXACTLY like what happened to the BSG in Book #7, Freaked Out. This girl, Julie Faber, was having this super fun Hawaiian-themed birthday party, and she invited all of the BSG -- except Avery! How rude!
Your mom is right, ignore Betsy, and start planning a super fun night of your own on the night of the slumber party. Being excluded hurts, so you can change that by INCLUDING many girls in your fun night together. Have a blast!
HELP!!! i'm in a tangle web and i don't think i can get myself out! i'm so confused,remeber i told you abotu my friend who's a boy and his girlfriend, well i saw him again and the weirdest thing happened as me, him, and the girlfriend were talking he said he wants me and his girlfriend 2 become BESTFRIENDS!! i dont know how i can do this and all the girlfriend said was 4 him 2 shut up. i dont know what 2 do and i dont want 2 c him sad or hurt cause i kind like him but 4 now we're just friends and i need advice! HELP!
dear maeve, my best friend is so bossy and acts like she is 16 when she is only 11! she is so horrible sometimes and i don't know weather to be her friend any more!
One of my freinds gets mad at us all the time and then she thinks we are the best of freinds later on.While i am starting to get a little mad that she does that all the time
Hey Maeve, I moved away from my 2 BFFLs when I was in grade 2. We have managed to stay BFFLs for the last 5 years, but now it feels like we are all so busy we never have time for each other. I really don't want to loose them. I don't know what I would do without them. Do you think that I should tell them my fear of growing apart or do you think that that would make it sound like I have no faith in our friendship? Please send you advice! ~~ Erin4
First of all, it's soooo great that you guys have been able to stay friends! I would definitely let your friends know that you're feeling a little shaky about the friendship. True friends are there to support you through thick and thin.
My friend Brea is always being mean to me. She just moved to out school and started hanging out with me and my other friend Katrina. I feel like shes taking her away from me. She even told both of us that she liked Katrina more! She just sent out a bunch of emails about me and i really need some help.. please!
My friend tells me she wopnt tell my secrets but she does. She tells me she diddent but then everybody is tlaking about it the next day at school. She always tells her boy friends and then they tell. signed, cant trust her alot
Well, my friend lies alot. She says things like: "Oh, I went ona cruise last week." When I hug out with her all week! or "Yeah, I'm getting one of those." And then she never does. And when we both got into riding she said that she owned a horse before, and she rode somtimes, so she knew how to do a walk and control the horse, but then she got on the horse, and I knew more then her! It really hurts me how she can't tell me the truth about her life. I want to confront her but how?
ok here is the deal. me and my friend are 13. but one of my friends is losing it. She ha a 17 (yes i said 17) year old boyfriend, is only 80 pounds, always mean, always crys over everything like if you give her a complimant she thinks your really saying the oppsite. Her boyfriend Alex, want to go to the next level with her. this is a level u shouldnt go to till your at least 21. She doesnt want to. So he harrasses her. We tell her to tell someone but she says everything is fine. Her grades are like all Fs too. Alex is very rude and gross. should we tell or not. HELP! ~ Cant let her get hurt~
Dearest Kaitlin, Tell, tell, tell. You need to talk to a grown-up! I would totally tell my mom or another adult I trust.
i've liked this boy since third grade and i think about him all the time hes got these eyes i get lost in and he flirts with me everyday since third grade and he is just so HHHHOOOTTT!!!! HELP ME I'M DESPRET
i need some help...i got a "friend" who likes to say to me that she can do more stuff that i, and she's always like if we were in a competition, and it's really mean !! cuz she doesn't say to me directly, she just start doing a mean "like just saying" comment, that makes me feel bad, and if i say somethin, stops like if she were controlling her mouth. she can be a good friend sometimes, but with friends like that...what i can do to fix my situation??
Me again. (totally drama-full life right?) Well, there is this girl at school that says she wants to beat me up, but i'm too afraid to tell a teacher. I go the other way everytime i see her, but i just want this to stop. Everyone in my family knows already. What should i do?
xoxo, Spunkypunk
Whoa again girlfriend, That's called bullying! You need to talk to a grown-up. If you're afraid to tell a teacher, ask your parents to, or another trusted adult. Our teacher would absolutely want us to talk to her, the principal or someone at school.
well two of my closest friends don't like each other and i feel like I'm forcing them to be with each other and I like them both equal. I don't want to loose aether of them, but i also want them to be happy. I don't know what to do. HELP ME, PLEASE!
Ok i really like this guy. he says he doesn't like me and he likes my friend. he constantly flirts with me! he is also my bff. i'm tottally confused what do i do!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
allstar, If you and this boy are just friends, then his girlfriend needs to understand that. If she seems to be getting really annoyed, tell her that you and him are JUST FRIENDS, that there is nothing going on between you two, and he just enjoys hearing you sing. She shouldn't have any problem with that ot be jealous or anything. This boy will most likely back u up. MAybe you and his girlfriend could hang out and you can show her that you are totally trustworthy so she won't be upset anymore.
fayval, If u like this guy, and ur bffs do too but they said no before, then they have no right to be mad at you! An dyou have no reason to worry! If they said no, then why shouldn't u go out with hime, right?
2beautiful2b4goten, Does the fact that ur friend is not acting like herself ahve to do with her trying to fit in? You should talk to her and ask her about what is going on. Tell her that you just want her to be herself and you wish she would just act normal again. Even say that you miss the real her. Hope thus helps!!!: )
maeverocks21- Yikes! This doesn't sound good at all, but you have to think about it from your friend's point of view. What did you say to upset her? If it was really mean and hurtful, can you really blame her for giving you the silent treatment? Give it some time, maybe she will forgive you soon. If I were you, I would probably just leave her alone for a couple weeks. If in a couple weeks, she is still angry, you can try talking to her again and explain that you can understand why she is angry, but you really just want to be friends. My friends and I have gotten in to arguments like this, and we eventually end up making uo and laughing about it later. One time, my bff and I didn't talk for a couple of months!
thinkpink- That sounds awful! No one wants to be in a friendship with someone who is gross and mean! I understand that you don't want anyone to have their feelings hurt, but you also have to do what's right 4 u. I think you should talk with this girl in private, (a.k.a. not in the school cafeteria) and explain how you feel. You don't need to come right out and say that she is gross and mean, but you can say those things in a nicer way. For example, you could say, "I don't really like how you have been acting lately. Like the time you..." That way you are saying it in the nicest way possible and trying not to hurt her feelings. As far as ending the friendship, you could say that you don't feel like you guys are actually conducting a real friendship. A nice way to say "I don't think we should be friends" is to say "I think we should take a break from eachother for a while." Hopefully she will understand where you are coming from. You probably have other firends to hang with, so spend more time woth them. If you want to meet new friends, join some clubs or groups that you are interested in. That way there will be other people there that share your interests. Just remember that you can't expect to make a BFF right away. This type of thing takes time and just sort of happens, just like Katani's grandma said in Lake Recue. Hope this helps! -BroadwayGal
dear allstar tell him. have him figure out if your right.aviod her if your right. if she tries to tell you that you cant be friends with him tellyour friend
dear dea.05 make more friends so that you dont have to be alone.Tell her how you feel.ive switched schools before so i know how you feel she may just want to be with old friends
BSG Fan, Of course! Gossip hurts even when it's not meant to! I know everyone gossips once in a while but try REALLY hard not to. One of these days it will hurt. psthe best way not to spread gossip is not to listen to it)
Dear jjbooklvr,
Right on! Gossip does hurt, and sometimes it is SOOOO tempting to spread it. So, you're right. AVOID it like the plague!
Dear charrox32, tell them to deal with their problem and keep you out of it because it's really tough being friends with them when they fight. Try using Katani's idea in the 1st book too.
Dear allstar, Don't sweat it. If she doesn't like you then WHO CARES? not everyone is going to like you. If he's a good friend then he wont leave you because of her.
Dear maeverocks21, try haveing another of your friends tell her you really mean it and then keep insisting to her yourself that your really sorry. She might just need time to cool off. If she still doesn't forgive you then she probably isn't the greatest friend and you should probably let it go.
My bff is so nice but she messes up sometimes.My parents say she's a bad influence on me and they keep limiting our time together and they always try to get me to hang-out with other girls.
Dear jesus128,
You know something? This might be one of those situations where your parents are totally right. Sometimes, it's very easy to give in to peer pressure and start doing things you never thought you'd do when there's a bad influence around.
Maybe your parents would be cool with you talking to her once in a while or sitting with her at lunch, but try hanging out with some other people in the meantime. It's a win-win situation: you get to make more friends, and you'll be sticking with a crowd that won't get YOU in trouble.
You should probably talk to your mom. and if you dont feel comfortable doing that, and your friend doesnt believe you, then maybe you need to find new friends
Meave, my best friend says she hates one of my other friends. shes always talking about her and saying how mean she is. But at school, she acts like she couldnt live without her. she plays with her all the time, compliments her, and hangs out with her. How do I kno that she doesnt talk about me????
My best friend is dating this 15 year old boy, and she's 11! I keep telling her that i don't think it's right but she just ignores me. When i'm around the two of them together, i'm not comfortable. He even called me fat! I told her this but she denied it. How can i solve this one?!
xoxo, Spunkypunk
Dear Spunkypunk,
Whoa! First off, let me just say that it is NEVER OK to (a) date a 15-year-old when you're 11, and (b) call another person fat! I think you're totally right when you say that you don't feel comfortable around the two of them. Stick to that, sister!
Since your friend won't listen to you, politely explain that you don't feel comfortable around her boyfriend, and you don't like the way he treats you.
Then, tell her up front that you will avoid hanging out with him in the future. You have to be true to yourself and your feelings -- even if it means not hanging out with your friend for a while.
And, going back to (a) -- I would totally tell my mom or another adult I trust about your friend dating a 15-year-old, regardless of whether she might get in trouble. You'll be helping your friend get away from a relationship that could get sketchy!
Hey Maeve!!! Some of my BFFs just tell me things I don't want to hear then I get in the middle of it all! I also easily get mad, so that doesn't help. But in the end we work it out!
my xbestfriend is really anoying me. shes really gross, and mean. i just want to end our friend ship, but i dont know how to.i dont want to hurt anyones feelings.help!
My friend (who name am not going to say)she always say like if you say her name she'll say ...what and everytime my other friend say or do something she does the same thing my friend give the nickname "drama queen" beacause of those things she does.Even we talk to her a couple of times and she says "I know that the way i am to people" what should we do cut her lose out of our lives or keep the drama around or we tell her and have her say the same things P.S. please answer Maeve
I said some mean things to my two bff's.One forgave me.The other is giving me the silence treatment!Now, whenever I try to apologize,she says,Don't try and kiss up to me,and I'm not trying!HEEEEEELP!!!!!!!!!
Dear Maeve, i'm in a pickle. theris this boy in my class who loves to hear me sing and we're pretty close friends. The only thing is that he has this girlfriend who is like a track superstar and my friend is too. So when ever i'm around both of them at the same time he asks me to sing right but i think that the girlfriend is getting a little annoyed and doesn't like me and my friend being around together and i don't want to cause a fight between them. what should i do? -Diamond girl
my friendship prob is that i had this friend (lauren) and she got a little crazy. shes just not for me. she really doesn't have any other friends because shes really tough. i don't want to be friends. but i don't want her to feel lonely. i know its the right thing to do- not being her friend but i don't know what the best way is to tell her... or distance myself. i don't know, what do you think? i need help... ANYONE!
Dear Maeve, my three best friends have to go to camp they cant wait yay for then its called camp kitti but the closest one in age is Rebeka she is a year older than me and the other is my sis Holli and shes three years older than me and than my other cousin but one of my best friends Hannah she is three years older than me so what do i do wile there gone
There is this new girl on my street who likes playing with another girl on my street who's really mean. I don't think the new girl is mean but I don't like how she treats me when the other girl and I are at her house. Should I keep being friends with her or just forget about it? -Confused
I really do have a really though friend porblem, and I need some HELP! Here's the deal- I have beat friend that has been acting like a totall SNOT! Me and my other 2 besties have been getting so mad! We where ready to tell her off, untill we heard, one of my friends mom. We sorta overhread her saying that, well her parnents have been devorsed for years ( wich isn't a biggie) but that her mom won't live with her stepdad ( It wasn't her real dad) NE more. And that her mom is moveing them (her and her 3 sistas to a tiny appartment where they will all have to share a room. and she wouldn't even tell us this! Help! ~cant be trusted, I guess.~
Dear Can't Be Trusted,
This sounds like a time when your friend needs her besties the most! People handle tough stuff in very different ways. Some are cool with talking about it and getting it out in the open. Others feel a little funny about discussing their problems -- even with BFFs.
So, you and your other friends should take telling her off out of the plan completely. That's the last thing your friend needs! Just respect that she doesn't want to talk about life at home right now (which doesn't mean she doesn't trust you!), and let her know that you'll be there for here if she feels ready to talk.
i have 4 best friends like you. but my 4 best friends hate each other. so i am always bouncing back and forth between them. and when i see one of them, all they do is bash the other 3 for an hour!
well i have 2 best friends. We all three talk to the same guy...latley he asked me out...i said ok...but they like im a bit....so i dunno what to do and he asked them both out before but they said no....what shud i do???
Dear Maeve, right now I am lucky to have the best friends in the world. But if something goes wrong, I know who to contact. Caroline P.S. I just went to Brookline and met Ethel Weis.
hey bsg fan! that happens 2 me, too. i take the bus and i never kno who 2 sit next 2. boys are weird. ignore them. but they can be really nice to u when girl troubles get icky. maybe they feel weird when they're both with you on the bus, and that's why they act mean to you. maybe you should talk to then one on one or something. hope that helps!!
Ok well one of my friends wrote this really nasty email to another one of my friends saying I don't want to be friends with you anymore. It really bothered me. I don't know how to handle it. I mean I'm mad at her but I don't know how to talk to her about it. It's hard to talk to her about stuff cause she has a big mouth. I don't know if I should still be mad at her. She really bothers me, it's like she cares more about other friends than she does about me.
hey maeve! me and my friend are always getting into a fight. i don't want to keep fighing but shes always starting it! and i can't ignore her becuase she's an in-your-face kind of girl. also she never stops talking about her crush and it's driving me insane! i have no idea how to tell her to stop nicely! help! :p beaconlover
Dear Beaconlover,
Friendship should be a no-fighting zone, right? Unfortunately, even the best of friends fight sometimes. But, if she's the one starting all the fights, one thing you've gotta remember is that it takes TWO to fight!
If she starts bickering with you, I would say, "Look, I don't want to fight with you right now, so I'll talk to you later when things have cooled down."
My best friends are awesome! They understand when am upset, they are caring, and they are great friends! But, this year in third grade, we are not in the same class, and I hardly ever speak to one of my BFF! I have her phone # but it doesn't matter, I try to call her, but she doesn't call me back! What do I do to keep out friendship together??
~Confused and Worried
Dear Confused and Worried,
Sounds like you've got some great BFFs! But the truth is, you can't force someone to be friends. It's OK to check in with her from time to time to let her know that you'll always be there for her, but maybe you two are just growing apart naturally. No need to get nasty -- just move on and see where your friendship takes you down the road.
Dear Maeve: Mkay. First off, YOU TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY ROCK! Second of all, one of my BFFL's has a mega prob. We'll call my BFFL Sandra. One of Sandra's closest friends is being a total snob! She's bashing Sandra's close bud, and is being totally uncool. Sandra wants to tell her its over, but she isn't sure how. Could you help her? ~Wicked
Dear Maeve, I just got a new friend she moved to Iowa from Ohio! Now she's turning against me!!!!!! Yesterday I saw her with my other friend arms draping over each other's shoulders!!! And they made plans to meet at the football game!! But she and I already had plans to meet at the football game!! HELP ME PLEASe!!! Pvrockstar
I just moved to a new school. I found a great new friend the first day. The first week, we were very close, and talked A LOT! But now the closeness has worn off. She has made other friends, and it's like I'm not even there. I just can't believe she would do that to me.
Dear Maeve, I started a new school this year and I'm not making friends easily. There are about 9 other new girls and they all made friends immediately. I'm also in the homeroom with the snobbiest girls. There are some girls I like but they're in other homerooms and I never get to see them except at recess. I'm usually not shy, but I'm getting really shy here. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me! ~Sockmonkey27 P.S. You're my favorite BSG!
Dear Sockmonkey27,
Even I (Maeve-a-licious the Great!) tend to get shy around people I don't know. But, homeroom is actually a great place to meet new friends. Pick our some girls who you think are friendly, and try starting a conversation with different girls every day.
A good way to start a convo is to compliment her on something she's wearing. Like, "Wow! I love your bracelet! Where did you get it?" Then, she'll talk about where she got it, and you can take it from there: "Omigosh, I love that store... I got earrings from there last week."
Hey Maeve, I have these 4 really good friends. We all used to go to the same school, but one left. Now the other two are sometimes leaving me out. Not always, I mean, we still talk and have a good time together a lot, but they have this secret language in class and they keep telling me, "We'll tell you later." Some people might say I should find new friends, but I don't want to lose them! Help me!
Dear Maeve~ My friend (Sarah) is totally friends with another girl in my class, her name is Samantha. Me and my other friend Lexy get aggrivated because they always spend they're reccess, and mine and Lexy's, reccess talking about things that they have alike. Me and Lexy are really sad. What should we do?
Love Balletbabe9
Dear Balletbabe,
You know what? Samantha sounds pretty cool. I mean, if you're friends with Sarah, and Sarah is friends with Samantha, then why can't you all be friends together?
Like, when Isabel first moved to Brookline, she was my friend, and Katani didn't like that AT ALL! She thought Isabel was trying to steal me away from her and the other BSG. But, once Katani spent some time with Isabel and realized how cool she is, she became friends with her, too! And, well, you know the rest -- now Isabel is one of the BSG, and I can't imagine life without her!
So, give Samantha a chance. You might not only get an old friend back, but also a new friend, too.
Dear Maeve, I have this guy friend, and hes totally coold around me and we're like best buds! But when he gets around cooler girls then I, or his "boy buds" he just acts like i'm not there! What do I do? -Confused
Hi Maeve, Let me just say your my fav out of The Beacon Street Girls. I also have red hair. Anyway theres this guy i really like and he likes me. My friend(ex. name-De-de)De-de always says hes flirting with her. But i know shes lying because she is always following him like a dog and he talks to me but she thinks hes talking to her. It makes me mad! I dont want to be mean but i really wish she would steep off a bit. PLEASE HELP!
I am am purfect with my bff's! I have 2. We were all in the same class last year but now one is in a different class! I am so mad. We can't do stuff together! What should I do? -Stuck!
I have this friend who I really want to be friends with but I'm not sure about. She was a great pal until she became totally boy-crazy! She was always playing with them and ignored my friends and I! They boys she likes are always really mean to me and my BFF and this friend takes no notice that her crushes treat her friends like dirt! She wouldn't even play with us. I try super hard to be friends with her but I don't think she makes any effort! I'm not sure if she wants to be my friend or not - HELP! -Friend-Torn
Dear martyrockssocute,
First, LOVE the screen name! I totally agree. Marty has GOT to be the most adorable dog on the planet.
Second, I think it's time for a heart-to-heart with your friend. Let her know that you want to stay friends, but something has to change. Then listen to what she has to say. Maybe she has no idea how you feel!
Dear Maeve, I gossip a lot with my friends about what other friends tell me. But those friends never told me that I shouldn't tell anyone else. Should I stop gossiping?
I have this friend that I don't want to be friends with anymore, but I don't know how to tell her. See, we've been friends for a long time, but we've outgrown each other. She has friends that I don’t like and always used to make fun of me. Whenever we hang out with each other, I feel like an outsider. Sometimes we go weeks without talking because I can't figure out what to say.
I'm the only girl in my grade on my bus. There are two boys in my grade on my bus. One boy, I'll call him Jeremy, is my friend. But, when the other boy, I'll call him John, is there, Jeremy acts as if he hates me. And at school (I sit next to John), he is really nice to me. They are so STUPID on the bus, and I can't stand it anymore.
-BSG Fan
P.S. Last night, I was at a boy scout thing, and John tried steal my balloon.
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I don't know what to do!! I feel like she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Then she talks about some of my friends and how much she hates them! What do I do?????? 
he likes me back only he likes my bff better than me. What should i do? My BFF doesnt like him back that much, only as a friend. We are in a group together but when we are in the group he is hanging out with his friends-please help Meave! 
