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When BFFs Fight

The BSG and I are the best of friends. But even BFFs have fights sometimes. Ick. Like when Avery AND Katani were both running for president of the 7th grade class at Abigail Adams Junior High. Yeah, with the both of them planning their campaigns, lunch got a little… well, intense. And AWK-ward!

At one point, Avery and Katani wouldn’t even sit with each other! It was awful. But, the BSG stuck together—like we always do—and came out stronger than ever. (You can read alllll about Avery and Katani’s presidential duel in book #5 Promises, Promises.)

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Now, I want to hear from YOU. What are your friendship probs? Let's talk it out.

XOXO,



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Isabell33 writes:

Dear Maeve,
my three best friends have to go to camp they cant wait yay for then its called camp kitti but the closest one in age is Rebeka she is a year older than me and the other is my sis Holli and shes three years older than me and than my other cousin but one of my best friends Hannah she is three years older than me so what do i do wile there gone
 

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sparklepuppy writes:

There is this new girl on my street who likes playing with another girl on my street who's really mean. I don't think the new girl is mean but I don't like how she treats me when the other girl and I are at her house. Should I keep being friends with her or just forget about it?
-Confused
 

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Horselovergirl99 writes:

Dear Maeve,

I really do have a really though friend porblem, and I need some HELP! smilies/cry.gif Here's the deal- I have beat friend that has been acting like a totall SNOT! Me and my other 2 besties have been getting so mad! We where ready to tell her off, untill we heard, one of my friends mom. We sorta smilies/wink.gif overhread her saying that, well her parnents have been devorsed for years ( wich isn't a biggie) but that her mom won't live with her stepdad ( It wasn't her real dad) NE more. And that her mom is moveing them (her and her 3 sistas to a tiny appartment where they will all have to share a room. and she wouldn't even tell us this!
Help!
~cant be trusted, I guess.~


Dear Can't Be Trusted,

This sounds like a time when your friend needs her besties the most! People handle tough stuff in very different ways. Some are cool with talking about it and getting it out in the open. Others feel a little funny about discussing their problems -- even with BFFs.

So, you and your other friends should take telling her off out of the plan completely. That's the last thing your friend needs! Just respect that she doesn't want to talk about life at home right now (which doesn't mean she doesn't trust you!), and let her know that you'll be there for here if she feels ready to talk.

XOXO,

 

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charrox32 writes:

i have 4 best friends like you. but my 4 best friends hate each other. so i am always bouncing back and forth between them. and when i see one of them, all they do is bash the other 3 for an hour!

HELP!
 

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fayval writes:

well i have 2 best friends. We all three talk to the same guy...latley he asked me out...i said ok...but they like im a bit....so i dunno what to do and he asked them both out before but they said no....what shud i do???
 

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sparklepuppy writes:

Dear Maeve, right now I am lucky to have the best friends in the world. But if something goes wrong, I know who to contact.
Caroline
P.S. I just went to Brookline and met Ethel Weis.
 

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rainbowsrcool234 writes:

hey bsg fan! that happens 2 me, too. i take the bus and i never kno who 2 sit next 2. boys are weird. ignore them. but they can be really nice to u when girl troubles get icky. maybe they feel weird when they're both with you on the bus, and that's why they act mean to you. maybe you should talk to then one on one or something. hope that helps!!
 

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tapdancer95101 writes:

Ok well one of my friends wrote this really nasty email to another one of my friends saying I don't want to be friends with you anymore. It really bothered me. I don't know how to handle it. I mean I'm mad at her but I don't know how to talk to her about it. It's hard to talk to her about stuff cause she has a big mouth. smilies/angry.gif I don't know if I should still be mad at her. She really bothers me, it's like she cares more about other friends than she does about me.
 

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beaconlover writes:

hey maeve!
me and my friend are always getting into a fight. i don't want to keep fighing but shes always starting it! and i can't ignore her becuase she's an in-your-face kind of girl. also she never stops talking about her crush and it's driving me insane! i have no idea how to tell her to stop nicely! help!
:p beaconlover smilies/cool.gif


Dear Beaconlover,

Friendship should be a no-fighting zone, right? Unfortunately, even the best of friends fight sometimes. But, if she's the one starting all the fights, one thing you've gotta remember is that it takes TWO to fight!

If she starts bickering with you, I would say, "Look, I don't want to fight with you right now, so I'll talk to you later when things have cooled down."

Done.

XOXO,

 

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LGrox writes:

MY SISTA MOVED OUT & I MISS HER!!!
 

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LGrox writes:

my bff's r obsessed w/ boy's &i can't be cause my bff claimed the only cool boy....HELP!!!
 

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SweetPenguin_4 writes:

OK, I'm the same person, but I really mean our friendship. What do I do to keep it together?? smilies/cry.gif

~Confused and Worried kinda more
 

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SweetPenguin_4 writes:

My best friends are awesome! They understand when am upset, they are caring, and they are great friends! smilies/cool.gifBut, this year in third grade, we are not in the same class, and I hardly ever speak to one of my BFF! I have her phone # but it doesn't matter, I try to call her, but she doesn't call me back! What do I do to keep out friendship together??


~Confused and Worried


Dear Confused and Worried,

Sounds like you've got some great BFFs! But the truth is, you can't force someone to be friends. It's OK to check in with her from time to time to let her know that you'll always be there for her, but maybe you two are just growing apart naturally. No need to get nasty -- just move on and see where your friendship takes you down the road.

XOXO,

 

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Wicked writes:

Dear Maeve:
Mkay. First off, YOU TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY ROCK!
Second of all, one of my BFFL's has a mega prob. We'll call my BFFL Sandra. One of Sandra's closest friends is being a total snob! She's bashing Sandra's close bud, and is being totally uncool. Sandra wants to tell her its over, but she isn't sure how. Could you help her?
~Wicked
 

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troublebutler writes:

Oh and when I posted "hes totally coold around me" I meant cool. smilies/smiley.gif
 

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beaconbabe writes:

I really like his boy but he is dating my best friend. I want him for me but I don't want to hurt her feelings.
-HerOrHim smilies/sad.gif
 

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Pvrockstar writes:

Dear Maeve,
I just got a new friend she moved to Iowa from Ohio! Now she's turning against me!!!!!! Yesterday I saw her with my other friend arms draping over each other's shoulders!!! And they made plans to meet at the football game!! But she and I already had plans to meet at the football game!!
HELP ME PLEASe!!!
Pvrockstar
 

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dea.05 writes:

I just moved to a new school. I found a great new friend the first day. The first week, we were very close, and talked A LOT! But now the closeness has worn off. She has made other friends, and it's like I'm not even there. I just can't believe she would do that to me. smilies/sad.gif
 

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sockmonkey27 writes:

Dear Maeve,
I started a new school this year and I'm not making friends easily. There are about 9 other new girls and they all made friends immediately. I'm also in the homeroom with the snobbiest girls. There are some girls I like but they're in other homerooms and I never get to see them except at recess. I'm usually not shy, but I'm getting really shy here. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me!
~Sockmonkey27
P.S. You're my favorite BSG!


Dear Sockmonkey27,

Even I (Maeve-a-licious the Great!) tend to get shy around people I don't know. But, homeroom is actually a great place to meet new friends. Pick our some girls who you think are friendly, and try starting a conversation with different girls every day.

A good way to start a convo is to compliment her on something she's wearing. Like, "Wow! I love your bracelet! Where did you get it?" Then, she'll talk about where she got it, and you can take it from there: "Omigosh, I love that store... I got earrings from there last week."

Works for me!

XOXO,

 

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icecloud writes:

Hey Maeve,
I have these 4 really good friends. We all used to go to the same school, but one left. Now the other two are sometimes leaving me out. Not always, I mean, we still talk and have a good time together a lot, but they have this secret language in class and they keep telling me, "We'll tell you later." Some people might say I should find new friends, but I don't want to lose them! Help me!

-Ems
 

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hm91126562615684 writes:

smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/tongue.gif smilies/kiss.gif smilies/cry.gif
Above are a variety of emotions. All can be experienced with friends.
 

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balletbabe9 writes:

Dear Maeve~
My friend (Sarah) is totally friends with another girl in my class, her name is Samantha. Me and my other friend Lexy get aggrivated because they always spend they're reccess, and mine and Lexy's, reccess talking about things that they have alike. Me and Lexy are really sad. What should we do?

Love Balletbabe9 smilies/cry.gif


Dear Balletbabe,

You know what? Samantha sounds pretty cool. I mean, if you're friends with Sarah, and Sarah is friends with Samantha, then why can't you all be friends together?

Like, when Isabel first moved to Brookline, she was my friend, and Katani didn't like that AT ALL! She thought Isabel was trying to steal me away from her and the other BSG. But, once Katani spent some time with Isabel and realized how cool she is, she became friends with her, too! And, well, you know the rest -- now Isabel is one of the BSG, and I can't imagine life without her!

So, give Samantha a chance. You might not only get an old friend back, but also a new friend, too.

XOXO,

 

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troublebutler writes:

Dear Maeve,
I have this guy friend, and hes totally coold around me and we're like best buds! But when he gets around cooler girls then I, or his "boy buds" he just acts like i'm not there! What do I do?
-Confused
 

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mikgirl101 writes:

Hi Maeve,
Let me just say your my fav out of The Beacon Street Girls. I also have red hair. Anyway theres this guy i really like and he likes me. My friend(ex. name-De-de)De-de always says hes flirting with her. But i know shes lying because she is always following him like a dog and he talks to me but she thinks hes talking to her. smilies/angry.gif It makes me mad! I dont want to be mean but i really wish she would steep off a bit. PLEASE HELP!
 

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baby0841 writes:

I am am purfect with my bff's! I have 2. We were all in the same class last year but now one is in a different class! I am so mad. We can't do stuff together! What should I do? smilies/shocked.gif
-Stuck!
 

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martyrockssocute writes:

I have this friend who I really want to be friends with but I'm not sure about. She was a great pal until she became totally boy-crazy! She was always playing with them and ignored my friends and I! They boys she likes are always really mean to me and my BFF and this friend takes no notice that her crushes treat her friends like dirt! She wouldn't even play with us. I try super hard to be friends with her but I don't think she makes any effort! I'm not sure if she wants to be my friend or not - HELP!
-Friend-Torn


Dear martyrockssocute,

First, LOVE the screen name! I totally agree. Marty has GOT to be the most adorable dog on the planet.

Second, I think it's time for a heart-to-heart with your friend. Let her know that you want to stay friends, but something has to change. Then listen to what she has to say. Maybe she has no idea how you feel!

Hope that helps! Hugs!

xoxo,
 

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BSG Fan writes:

Dear Maeve,
I gossip a lot with my friends about what other friends tell me. But those friends never told me that I shouldn't tell anyone else. Should I stop gossiping?

-Queen Gossip
 

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BSG Fan writes:

Dear Maeve,

I have this friend that I don't want to be friends with anymore, but I don't know how to tell her. See, we've been friends for a long time, but we've outgrown each other. She has friends that I don’t like and always used to make fun of me. Whenever we hang out with each other, I feel like an outsider. Sometimes we go weeks without talking because I can't figure out what to say.

Please Help!
 

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BSG Fan writes:

Dear Maeve,

I'm the only girl in my grade on my bus. There are two boys in my grade on my bus. One boy, I'll call him Jeremy, is my friend. But, when the other boy, I'll call him John, is there, Jeremy acts as if he hates me. And at school (I sit next to John), he is really nice to me. They are so STUPID on the bus, and I can't stand it anymore.

-BSG Fan

P.S. Last night, I was at a boy scout thing, and John tried steal my balloon.
 

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