Girls, I’m here to talk about those confusing creatures who can burp in your face one minute and be super nice to you the next—yup, this is about BOYS.
Some of us want attention from boys ... others don’t. Either way, getting attention from boys doesn’t have to be to see if they like you or not. Some boys are actually pretty cool just as friends.
But, exactly HOW do you get either kind of attention from boys? Well, let me share three things I’ve learned so far from having a brother, boy neighbors, and like 1,000 crushes.
Get positive attention: Positive attention from boys is actually a BONUS for doing the things that make YOU happy. Like, being the first in your school to score five goals in one game, or getting the highest grade on a math test—boys notice that. Achieving one of YOUR goals is the kind of thing that makes boys think, “Wow, she’s pretty cool.”
Avoid negative attention: Negative attention usually comes from doing things that are, quite simply, NOT you. Being known for wearing the shortest skirts or the highest heels doesn’t necessarily get you the kind of attention you want from boys. And if it does, those probably aren’t the boys who are interested in you as a person—and being liked for who you are inside, I think, is WAY more important.
Play it cool: Confession: I get all giggly and flustered around boys like Dillon sometimes, but being all flirty and intense can freak guys out a little. Casually talking to your crush about class or his soccer team will show him how cool and friendly you are. Then, if you’re too scared to let him know how you REALLY feel, you can have fun being friends and see where it takes you down the road.
Or, take a few minutes to answer our latest survey -- it's all about boys and dating and stuff!
Well,I am only in fourth grade so i really can't ask people to dances yet!Almost in high school!!!!!!!!Well i know boys who like me in my grade. He holds to door for me everyday!
Dear Thinkpink16, why wern't you allowed to ask people to dance? we'll I remember trying to ask someone to dance, and I was so scared, my legs were shaking, and I couldn't do it. but know I have a new method you before you go ask him to dance you say to yourself "I am cool, I am confident, I am pretty, I am smart, and i can do this!" it always gives me confindence! -fleur11
Dear Fleur11 Good Luck asking him to the dance! You r so lucky your allowed to ask people to dances because at out halloween dance we couldn't ask people! Also maybe can you give me some advice on asking boys to dances? i get so nervous about stuff like that but i can talk to him about random stuff a lot better! good luck! U go girl! ThinkPink16
Dear Sidnee#8 we'll I was actually really going to talk to him but when I tried to go over to him after class he was way ahead of me down the hall, I'll try it on Monday though. yes I'll ask you if there's anthor prob. thankyou! -Fleur11
Dear Spellbee12, If this was me i would tell my friends to knock it off. But first try to find out if he does like u , if that feels ocward because i would if i had to do that, try to get someone else to do it. and maybe its not the best idea to have the friends that were saying he liked you in the first place do it. I hope that helps you out girl! ThinkPink16
Thanks Sidnee#8 you rock!! That totally helps! Its kind of hard to ask him because he is always around his friends that will totally tell everyone i like him. but now i am definitly thinkin about havin the option of telling my friends about this. I will think it over and maybe ask him but i am not sure! TTYL ThinkPink16 P.S. If anyone needs my help i am open!
Ok Spellbee12, All you have to say to him is simply this...... Hay I am not your girl friend. I want you to know that I just don't feel right with the whole Girl Friend/Boy Friend thing. I want you to know that we can be friends still though. I don't want you to take it personal eather! It is not you ok! I am just not in to you K! But I would like to be your friend still is that ok................... Well just tell him that and did you ever think that maybe he was just trying to be funny because he was wearing a girly wig and was trying to act like a girl? And then just said bye later. Well I hope that helps tell me if it does K! -Sidnee#8
my bffs think this guy likes me now!!!!!!!!!!!!! we no each other from band & stuff,so i talk 2 him a little bit.on crazi hair day @ school,he had on this girly wig & came up 2 me aftr la & wuz all hey gf!then me & my friend were walkng out of the buildng 2gether & he said bye 2 me,& she wuz all ooooh he LIKES u!ive told them 2 stop,but they keep dong it!i dont want 2 hurt their feelngs,but its gettng soooooooooooo old.hes nice & all,but i dont like him.how do i tell him w/out him takng it personaly? & what if he DOES like me?what wud i tell him then????????????????????????????HELP
I gotta go with Sidnee#8 on this one. Joking around about being gf/bf is one thing, but if it's getting to the point where you're uncomfortable, you have to be clear and persistent about how you feel. That also goes for your friends. Don't let them get to you! When they say, "Ooooh! He liiiiikes you!" just be like, "Cool, but I'm not that into him and that's not going to change. Let's talk about something else."
You're being very considerate by not wanting him to take it personally, but you should never give in to something you're not comfortable with JUST to spare someone's feelings!
Fleur11, Well did you talk to him? I hope everything went well! K! And if there is anther prob. just say so K! That is what we girls are here for K! -Sidnee#8
Maeve, Thanx for the (book) advice back! LOL! I will do that you are the best and also thanx for saying that I have good advice I am here for anyone if you need me K! Thanx again -Sidnee#8
bluesisters12, Well I know that you like him now. But what is the prob. I mean you like him so go for it! Or is there something in the way? Like another girl? Are you afared to talk to him? Well you should not be if so read what I wrote to fleur11 date: Novermber 14 K! Well I hope that helps tell me if there is another prob. K! I Will answer k! -Sidnee#8
Thinkpink16, Hay Girl well I think that you should find out for your self if he likes you. I mean I bet that he does...... what is not to like! Right?!?! Well that can only sometimes be true. I know that you are getting jealous but don't let that get in your way K! It may only seem like that other girl likes him she may not! You should ask her if she likes him. K! If she says no then go for it! K! And if she says yes tell her that you do too. K! She might get out of your way and then again maybe not. But if she does like him ask him if he likes her. I know you are like what I have to ask him! Well you don't have to but I know that you want (deep down)to and that is a good way to start talking to a boy just come out and ask him if he likes you and if not that does not mean you can't be friends. K! Well it you need more help just tell me K! I hope that helps if not tell me and I will put something else down K! -Sidnee#8
Well I have a problem! Sidnee#8 and any other BSG members can u help me! Well i have liked this boy ever since i met him in the beggining of the year. and in art one day all of his friends come up and tell me he liked me i was really happy he liked me because i liked him! but now it seems like this other girl likes him and i am starting to get jealous and i have no idea if he likes me anymore. what should i do?? help me!!! ThinkPink16
That's great that his friends came UP to you to tell you he likes you! That's a good sign! And, remember that he probably likes you for many reasons... stuff about yourself that you might not think is all that special really IS special to him. So, even if this girl does like him, that does not mean he's forgetting about you! Crushes aren't like contests. If they are, then they're not real crushes! But, if a boy tells you he likes you, you should probably let him know either way asap! Just like us girls, boys need encouragement when they go out on a limb like that ;-)
Dear bluesisters12, Ok so you liked him as a friend and now you like him? Thats great if so! I would definitly tell your friends if it feels right. That actually happened to me i met this boy by having lunch groups and liked him ever since. so totally go for it! if you want to date him thats up to u i am not allowed to date so i couldn't date my crush yet. But i hope that helps!! ThinkPink16
bluesisters12- think about this: is this a boy that you want to hang out with, or go on dates with? are you going to tell him you like him? do your friends know you like him? does anyone else like him?
Hay Beezy, Thanks for answering to me! So I am answering to you too well I know that it is hard to see a boy you like flirting with other girls. But you remember that he will like you if you are just being your self! K! I know that seems cheesy like a pizza but being your self is the best you can do! K! And when he flirts with you take that time to flirt back! K! He might be flirting with you to make you jealous! K! So when her flirts with you just flirt back! K! And if things don't work out just remember out there some where there is a guy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! K! Sidnee#8
Thinkpink16- thanks for the advice you are the best! Give me a question and I will try to answer! K! Also I love your name thinkpink16 that is so awesome! YOU ROCK! Sidnee#8
hi maeve do u remember what i wrote to u? well if u dont here it is again: Hi Maeve, I have a friend who's a guy and i really like him as a friend but also he's cute. He asked me out a ton of times last year, but i said let's just be friends. Then he started liking my best friend and asking me about her intersts to get her to like him back. I got really jealous but my friend didn't even like him at all! What should i do?
well what my real problem was was he won't even talk to me and i still just want to be friends like we were before! wat do i do? i mean we say hi but its not the same.
luv, rentluver1996
I bet he's probably embarrassed and doesn't know what to say! He might not know how to get back to being friends, so you can start taking baby steps by talking to him -- that'll show him that just because you said "no" last year, it doesn't mean you think he's a bad friend. It'll take time, but if you work at it, I bet he'll come around :-)
Deae Beezy, That totally stinks that ur crush is not in ur class this year!If that was me i would so get upset! But if he is flirting with other girls try to ignore it! I totally know how you feel by seeing him flirting with other girls trust me i have been there and i feel like green steam is going to come out of my ears because i am so jealous! But the best advice i would give is if you still like him dont let the jealousy get to you and who cares if he is not in ur class! Just follow your heart. those are the words i usually think of! I hope things all work out! ThinkPink16
Sidnee#8- Wow no one has ever told me i should start an advice colmn that is so cool!! I am the one who usually needs the advice! Hope things will go well for you and ur brothers friend! Remember always follow ur heart! Thinkpink16
sidnee#8- If you really like your brother's friend, go for it. If you are concerned about how your brother might feel, ask him how he would feel about it. If he's fine with it, make a move! But if he's not, try and come up with a compromise or try to get him around to your way of thinking. Remember, its your thoughts and feelings that matter most. Good Luck!
I like this boy who was in my class last year, but this year he isnt. All my friends say he likes me, but he flirts with a lot of other girls, too. I don't know what to do, cause i like him alot, and sometimes he flirts with me, but not often. HELP!!!
Hmmm... sometimes boys will flirt with lots of girls to see what kind of reaction they get, you know? We girls do it, too ;-) And that's totally fine because it's not like you HAVE to pick one person to, like, settle down with or anything! If you're not telling him that you like him, and he's not telling you that he likes you, then one of you needs to break the ice somehow! In the meantime, have fun flirting and try not to stress about the other girls. Good luck!
Fleur11, Well I think that the best thing to do is to just go and just like make him as a good friend I know it is hard to talk to boys but that is the thing........ You have to remember that he is haveing a hard time comming up to you too. So remember all you girls that we have to face are fear and just talk to boys and if you say something stupid just laugh and go on because they would have said something stupid too so if you are yourself you will be just fine! K! Love your self K! I know that you rock!
Thinkpink 16, You and the best! I think that you and be should start are own idvice for girls! That would be so cool! Well I hope your heart tells you what is the right thing to do! And tell me if you tell them K! I would love to know! I will try to answer you if you have a prob. K! And I think I will go for it with my Brothers friend but the only prob. is that he went on vacation and won't be back till new years! Lucky duck he gets to skip out on all that school! LOL! Well write back if you have a prob. and I might be able to help! K! Sidnee#8
Dear HipHopHoney018, if you really like your crush he doesn't need to ask you out you could try and ask him out or if there a dance ask him do dance, that's usually the first.
I really like this guy in my math class and I know he likes me we always are smiling and looking at each other, and today when I was walking by his friends nudged him and he looked back and saw me and smiled. and now dance is coming up in December, and I'm going to ask him to ask unless he will ask me first but we havn't even talked to each other yet. How could I talk to him?
Yikes! Talking to him for the first time is going to take some planning... and a few pep talks! But, you will be so glad you did once it's over. You guys have math together, so that's a good subject to start out with. When the bell rings, try to walk out with him and say something like, "Ugh... these equations are super hard," or something like that. And then, you can just take a deep breath and say something like, "So... you know that dance coming up? Well, I was wondering if you would like to go with me." If you don't want to put him on the spot (which could be super awkward), add that he can think about it and tell you later. Good luck!
Dear Sidnee#8 thanks for the advice! i am not sure if i am going to tell them or not yet but i will think about it! That was really sweet of you to write back because not many people answer back to me!! Also i am not sure about you and ur problem because me and my bro are like 5 years so big diference. but i am not sure if you like him then go for it! but there can also be a down side to that if it doesnt go well because he probably would always come over. plus i dont think he would hate your bro because if he was a good friend he would totally understand! Hope that helps a little! Good luck! ThinkPink16
Well, I feel like no boy likes me... I mean I have a lot of friends that are boys but I also have a crush... How do I get one to ask me out?
Feeling like no boys LIKE you is hard -- especially when your friends are getting asked out. But, try to change that thought to say, "No boys like me... that I know of!" Boys keep crushes secret just like girls do. And asking a girl out can take a LOT of courage.
At the risk of sounding like my mom, just remember that when the time is right you WILL get asked out. Maybe not by your current crush, but hopefully a boy that YOU like, too. You don't want just any old boy to ask you out -- wait for when you BOTH feel like the time is right.
Hay thinkpink 16, well I think that you should only tell if it feels right I mean if it does not feel right then you don't have too! K! If it feels weird then don't! It is as simple as that! If they ask you later why did you not tell me you liked him? Just tell them how you feel real friends well be ok with that! K! And if they are all mad at you just remember it was some how the way it was sopost to happen! K! I hope that helped some K!
OK maeve, I have a big prob. I am 15 and my brother is 14 he has this friend that is so cute and nice when he comes over he always speends time with me and I know that he likes me and I like him but he is my BROTHERS FRIEND so what do I do? I don't want it to be weird! I mean I have asked my brother if it is ok that I like his friend and he said that if fine I am glad you asked. But Is it weird that I like not only some one younger then me but is my brothers friend? I mean what do I do I like him and he asked me out for some hot coco and I went. I liked him but what if something goes wrong and we hate each other! I don't want him to hate my brother too! So what do I do? I mean I will see him all the time because he is my brothers friend and he comes over all the time so I don't want him to hate my brother. That is if something goes wrong! Well please answer! Thanx you are the best!!!!!!! Love ya
That's so cool that things are working out for you guys! I can see how you're nervous, though. First of all, it doesn't matter whether your crush is a year older or younger. Age isn't something you can help and neither is liking someone (usually!). So, that whole "older" thing is really old fashioned -- forget about it!
As for your bro's friend, it's cool that your brother is cool with it, you know? That's a big plus. You're being a great sister by thinking about the friendship between this guy and your brother, but you don't want to give up on a nice thing JUST because you're afraid of causing trouble between those two. After all, it's THEIR friendship to maintain, not yours!
Just continue to be honest with this kid and tell him that you want to take things super slowly for everyone's sake. That way, the weirdness won't be so sudden. Like, try not to impose on their Guy Time, you know? Say hi and stuff when he's over and hang out sometimes, but keep the flirting and relationship-y stuff to when you guys aren't around your bro.
Also... keep in mind that I know from the movies that not ALL relationships end with two people hating each other. You guys can have fun without all the drama that you're afraid of. Whew! I just wrote a book!
Maeve, Are you doing ok girl? You have to answered to anyone sence the 5!!!!!!!! Are you doing ok if not please tell us that is what we are here for! K!
Thanks for your concern! I'm fine, just super busy with stuff, you know? I'll be answering... don't worry!
I don't know if any of my crushes like me.All of them know me and we're all friends.I don't know whether to ask them do they like me or let them tell me. What do I do?
Well, it's not like you KNOW that they'll tell you if you don't ask. That's taking a chance on your part, girl. But, I wouldn't go down the line and ask if you know what I mean. Crushes are special, and if you have many crushes, the one who likes you back might not feel special at all! In other words, think about who you REALLY want to ask, and then focus on whether you're ready to ask HIM.
My best advice on advice is to not just tell people what they want to hear! Be honest, and that's what people will come to appreciate about your advice! Ya know?
If anyone could help me that would be great! I can give advice yo other people but sometimes not my self! Ok well I like this boy and i am not sure if I should tell my friends because they are HUGE BLABBER MOUTHS!!! They all have other friends so they would probably tell them and some of those other friends i do not like! So help me if you can!
Dear doubletrouble, Your welcome! I have been in that situation a lot of times where my friends want me to do something that i cant do. So I hope it all works out!! ThinkPink16
i luvvvvvv this boy and he likes me but all his friends keep on tellin him to go ask her out and that puts pressure on him. how can i stop this?
Unfortunately, you can't stop his friends from pressuring him. He has to make his own decision about whether he's going to ask you out (which doesn't mean he's just doing it because he feels pressure). In the meantime, make sure that YOU'RE not pressuring him in any way. Good luck!
Maeve, i am Desprate 4 ur advice. (Oh and babymegan,advice 2 plz.)So look, I took flikchic's advice and it all worked out. He asked me 2 our Winter Dance & he started smiling@ me. But babymegan& Maeve, tell me if me & my BFFs should start a mission 2 get him away from the other girl. TTYL, lovealexluv
Uh oh, missions are usually baaaaad ideas. I mean, they seem good at the time, but they go horribly wrong more often than not. Even if your mission was accomplished, someone is going to get hurt because of it, and that's not cool. Plus, if you try to MAKE this guy get away from another girl, he's not going to like it too much. He has to make his own decisions, and even if he likes you, who he hangs out with isn't something you can change. Good luck and have fun at the dance!!!
Dear Maeve, I used to hang out with some not very nice people and so did this other boy. The boy and me just liked eachother as friends. I really liked being friends with him and I didn't have any "feelings" for him at all! Well, the not very nice girls always told him that I LIKED him and I think that freaked him out and then he didn't hang out with me anymore and was wierd around me. Sometimes I would say "hi" to him or whatever at band or if I saw him around but he would always be kinda mean. We don't go to the same school anymore, but I just wish we could still be buds, ya know? I really think he liked hanging out with me but the QOMs convinced him that I "loved" him! Any advice? P.S. Just to let you know, I don't hang out with the QOMs anymore. I ended up being BFFS with this really nice girl and we hang out together and talk all the time!
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your friend. But, I am glad to hear that you're hanging out with much nicer people! This boy might be afraid to talk to you because he doesn't know what to expect. If he believes your ex-friends, then he's probably afraid that you'll get all flirty on him all of a sudden. To show him that's not the case, you have to do it slowly. Over time, show him that you're not changing how you act around him. Hopefully, he'll come to believe YOU and not your ex-friends. But, don't give up! Don't let those girls take away a good friend for no reason!
I like a guy and he likes me, but we are friends too!! Liking each other is ok but you can be friends at the same time. Just treat each other the same as anyone else (although sometimes you can be a little different you don't need to be all romantic at our age!
i'm usually into my school work and preparing for high school or into sports most of the time so i don't thinks guys real see me as more than a independed tom-boy. i don't really know any boys out side of my school and i'm only kinda close to thse who are in my Algebra class with is only 3. i want to meet guys that would just be my friends and to be there to do sports and joke around with. any ideas?!?!?!?
What's wrong with being an independent tomboy?! Boys are attracted to all different kinds of girls. No matter what people say, ALL boys do not ALWAYS go for popular girly girls. I mean, some do, but many others don't. So, don't sell yourself short! Be proud of who you are and your confidence is something they'll notice.
For boys as friends, try getting in on a game at recess (if you still have recess) and show that you're not there to flirt. You're there for game time!
i like this boy but one problem my friends are HUGE blabber mouths! how should i tell them??? Anyone HELP ME!!! Thinkpink16
If you decide to tell your friends (and that's totally optional) make sure it's clear that this is NOT something that you want blabbed. Explain that this is YOUR secret that is not for them to tell. That's totally not BFF-like!
Dear doubletrouble, I think if you cant talk to her crush she should. If both of your classes go out to recess, or are in the same cafeteria she should go up to him. And if she gets mad at you for not finding out just know that its not your problem! Good Luck! ThinkPink16
My friends want me to tell my crush I like him- I'm tempted but get freaked out whenever I try. If I don't say anything he will like one of my best friends. What should I say???
There's really no rule that says this guy will go on to like your friend if you don't do anything about it! But, if that's the way you feel, then you have to think about whether asking him out is worth taking that risk. You don't want any regrets if he does move on to your friend (and if he does, that's totally NOT cool!), but you also don't want to push yourself into something you're not ready for.
Hi Maeve i really had a huge crush on this boy he is so cute i was trying to get his attention but he already notice that i had a crush on him! so i try to say in my mind that were just friends but i wish he is my bestfriend becuase were both new kids in the school.
my friend likes this guy in a different class so she wants me to see if he likes her. when i talk to him for her he just walks away.i supposed to ask him if he likes my friend? please answer soon.
You know what? Boys can be cute and nice, but that doesn't mean they're ready to do the whole crush thing! So, take his behavior as a hint that he's probably not ready to deal with the situation. Your friend might be disappointed, but no one should be force him into something he's not ready for.
Dear spellbee12,I think a good place to tell a boy you like them is definitly private. so it is away from there friends. i would usually think that if you have recess that is a good place or the cafeteria.Best of luck! ThinkPink16
my bff has a crush on this guy.SHE LIKES HIM SO MUCH,SHES BUYNG HIM A 70.00DOLLAR JACKET 4 XMAS!!!!!!!! even though shes dong that,i think he dosnt suspect she likes him bcuz i talked 2 him in science,& he said when his 'rents ask him where he got it,he'll say its from a FRIEND!!!! she also snuck into the band room & put an annonomus note in his backpack tellng him 2 call a cell # that isnt hers.how can i tell her she needs 2 chill w/out hurtng her feelngs? i feel like shakng him & sayng "dont u get it? she likes u!"shud i tell him anithng hintng 2 the fact that she does like him,or shud i just let her deal w/it?
Ohhhh... you should totally let her deal with it. It sounds like she's taking this VERY seriously, and if you get in the middle and things don't go as planned, YOUR friendship could be in danger. I would say to bow out of this drama, but talk to someone you trust if you feel like your friend is getting out of hand.
Heya Maeve!! i have a huge crush on this boy nextdoor to me and i think he has a kinda crush on me all my friends are saying ask him out and i really want to what is your advice? please email me back love sweetiepiexxxxxxx
Cool! In this situation, you have to block out what your friends are saying and focus on how YOU feel. Asking him out is only half the battle. Then, you're suddenly in a bfgf situation and you have to decide whether you're ready for THAT, too. I mean, a relationship only has to be what you make of it, but if you really feel like asking him out, make sure you're BOTH honest about how you feel :-)
I didnt mean to tell himn that i liked him but i did now he is acting normal but i feel wierd when i talk to him what do i do?!
Yeah, weirdness does strike sometimes! Don't panic, though. Chances are that he's just getting used to the idea, and what he decides to do about it is all on him. Give it some time, and I bet the weirdness will fade away.
i think this guy might already know that i really like him,not just what my bffs said.im already friends w/ him,but i cant tell him how i really feel(im going 2 do it eventually)aniwhere @ school! band is 2 loud,i cant catch up 2 him in pe,we have no core classes 2gether,gossip gets around show choir w/in the 1st day of the week(i dont like being talked about like that)& my dad said i cant call ani boys on my cell. my friend called me 1 time asking me 2 call this guy's bff who she has a HUGE crush on)!where is a good place 2 tell a boy that u like him?????????????????????
It's all about place and time, isn't it?! Keep thinking about your schedule and where/when you run into him. If you want to do it in person, take advantage of any opportunity you have when you're semi-alone with him. If you don't want to do it in person and you can't call him, ask your dad if you can IM or email him. Whatever you (and your dad!) are more comfortable with!
There is this boy that I really like and I want to find out if he likes me. He is super cute and sweet but he sort of acts like he dosen't like me but he smiles at me tons and tons. Please write back
Really, girls. What ARE we going to do with these boys?! Sometimes, when boys have a crush, I feel like they send mixed messages. You know? Like, he'll smile at you from far away, but then up close, he'll act like he totally doesn't like you! Believe it or not, but I know some girls who do the same thing. I think it means that he's not fully ready to do the whole bfgf thing, and he's afraid of taking that next step. If you like him, just focus on showing him that you're cool and easy to talk to and that might ease his fears a bit -- even about just being friends!
dear mannie, That happened to me too! he started getting flirty with my friend also but then i realized that he does still like me so hurray!! thinkpink16 p.s. even if he does like ur friend just try being friends and dont let the jealousy get to u!
dear meave, r u supposed to have ur 1st kiss in middle school? just wondering???
Believe it or not, stuff like kissing and dating and all that happens when the time is RIGHT. It's not about deadlines! In other words, you don't have to have your first kiss in middle school. Some girls do and others don't. But, it's important to remember that NEITHER is more normal than the other.
ok i really like this guy in my class i thought he liked me too but i guess i was wrong so how do i found out if he still likes me or is moved on to my friend?
mannie
Oh no! I'm sorry. We all know that crushes just don't work out sometimes. Which is fine, right? What is meant to be will be. Despite what other people say, HE is the only one who can tell you whether he's moved on. To get a clue, notice his ACTIONS and see if you can get a feel for what's going on in that boy-brain of his!
dear meave, isabel, katani, charlotte, and avery, my boyfriend keeps saying that i like this other guy and i kinda do but he won't let me say i'm sorry. can you help me get to talk to him? thanks. doubletrouble p.s.i tried talking 2 him2day but he still didn't listen.
help, i have bf issues. he barely ever talks to me and he has other friends that are girls that i think he likes. please help me try 2 talk 2 him. dt
OK, so I don't know that much about boyfriends because, technically, I've never had one. BUT, I do know that boyfriends should be EASY to talk to. You might have a crush on him, but if you don't feel like he's easy to talk to, then maybe he's not the guy for you.
dear kota 18, ok, first, before u find out if he likes you, make him like you! evryday for the next week or two, do something extra special with your hair, smile at him alot, and do funny and outrageous things! it totally works for me (i hope, and i think!) and then, at the end of the week (or two) ask your friend, or his friends to ask him if he does! good luck! -angel124
i really like this cute guy in my class but how do i tell if he likes me back??
please answer asap, kota 18
A lot of BSG fans have asked me this question! There are no defined clues or hints that boys use to let girls know that they have a crush. Every boy is different, so it's hard to say. And, on top of everything else, many boys might not be sure about how they themselves feel! But, many boys will smile a lot or talk to you whenever possible or do favors for you. At the very LEAST, that shows he thinks you're cool and wants to get to know you better ;-)
When I like a boy i don't tell a soul! Usually that boy is nice and acts like he likes me! But the problem is I can't tell if he means it or not! HELP!!!!!!
If a boy acts like he likes you, then that's a compliment! Whether he actually LIKE likes you, I don't know. But, it does show that he thinks you're pretty cool. Nothing wrong with that!
omg I sooooo know what you mean maeve.........I have this bff thats a boy, he's sweet, nice, funny, and I can tell him anything!!! But a few months ago, we were bfgf, since we were forst to.........and still, I sota have a crush on him!!! Its sooooooo hard!!! oh and im a performer too!! ive been in 8 broadway plays, 2 movies and 5 commercails and i have dyslexia too!!!! bffl's 4-eva superstar78
Hey! You ARE a superstar!!! I totally want to be on Broadway someday. And movies?! That's totally cool! But, about your crush, remember that NO ONE should be forcing you into anything! Relationships only work if both people are willing to work at it in order to be together. Ohhhhh, romance. Someday!
Dear Sidnee#8, you should just drop a few clues. Obv ones. Or you could jsut ask him out .If he dossent like you dont stress! Just tell him youed still like to be friends with him if it is ok wiht him. I like one of my friends and we still get along well amd he knows! Advice Chica
Maeve, Well I took Isables advise and I got to know this boy just as a friend. But how do I tell him that I like him we just hang out a lot! And I know that I like him but how do I tell him that I like him? Or should I just wait for him to ask me if I like him? I realy don't know and I need your help!!!!!!! Bad!!!!! Thank you for answering to so many people!!!!!!! You rockm/ Thanks again!
Thanks! Here's the thing -- I feel like waiting almost never gives you the results you want. If this boy likes you, he might be waiting for you to make the first move! So, it's like the both of you are just stuck! If you're fine with that sitch, I say leave it the way it is. If you feel like you HAVE to be completely honest about your feelings, I'd say not to wait for him to bring it up. You could be waiting for a looooong time!
I like this guy in math class, and I'm pretty sure he likes me, I want to talk to him but I don't know how, he sits to rows from me, so I just can't talk to him in class. what should i do, and how should I approach him?
Hmmm... this is sometimes the WORST part about crushes. How DO you talk to them?!?! Girls and guys get nervous talking to each other all the time, but it's always easier to talk about something that you're BOTH familiar with -- like class or sports or friends you both have. You can break the ice by asking for a pencil (even if you totally have one) or maybe asking him a question about class ("Hey, I didn't catch that last thing Ms. Rodriguez said. Can you tell me?")
If you strike up a convo outside of class, think of some questions you want to ask him beforehand to avoid those awkward silences. Many boys and girls LOVE to talk about themselves (moi included!), so think of ways you can get him to open up about his hobbies and stuff. Hopefully, he'll do the same to you!
Dear Maeve, There is this boy in my class, and well... I'm not sure if I don't like him and I'm not sure if I do like him. PLEASE PLEASE HELP!! From, Ms. Fashionista
No sweat! Have fun getting to know him as a friend. That way, if you DO like him, you know it's for good reasons (aka, who he REALLY is instead of what you think he's like based on daydreams!). If you decide you don't like him, then you've just made a good friend :-)
Dear Nikkioli, You should ask him in private. You liek hi mand that is all that matters. Your friends dont like him so why should they care? Thas just being mean to you.
Dear Darcimarci900, what grade are you in? if you are in elem.school go 4 it! Who cares if the yare younger or older you like them and thats all that matters but if you want an older guy go 4 1 of them. Advice Chica
Dear Maeve, I like this boy on my bus he's in 8th grade and i'm in 7th. My friends think he is ugly and tease me about him all the time and they won't stop. I asked him out and he said no because one of his friends which is popular told him to say no. the same guy that told him to tell me no stood my cousin up. what should i do i'm sooooooo desprate for help and answers. -nikkioli
Dear nikkioli,
First of all, props for asking your crush out! That takes guts! It's totally not cool that this boy said no JUST because his friend told him to. This might mean that he's not into the whole girl thing yet and isn't sure of how he feels. All you gotta do is respect that and move on. As for your friends, tell them that BFFs should ALWAYS support each other's crushes -- if the boy is a good person and is nice to you, then what's not to like?
Dear Maeve, I like this guy and we also play soccer together.I think he likes one of my friends. How do I get him to notice me? Please write back! I seriously need help with this.
Dear dancergirl9,
Uh oh... beeee careful! If this boy likes your friend, and you feel like you're falling for him, realize that it'll probably affect your friendship in a not-so-good way. Read the stuff above about positive and negative attention -- I've got some good tips on getting boys to notice you! Good luck!
hey maeve I like these guys in 4th grade. should i go for one of them or an older guy???????????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
! Darcimarci900
dear gugulover, don't worry about it. take it slow. next time you see him, start up a little conversation. even if it's just- "i like your shoes" or something! lol
Dear bsg members, my friends think i like this boy, but i don't! i can't convince them, what should i do?
Dear angel124,
All you can do is what you're already doing! Just keep telling them that you don't LIKE like him and make sure that's how you really feel. They're your BFFs and they'll probably know if you're trying to cover something up!
Dear thinkpink16, i'm not allowed to date either! if he asks you out, don't say 'no' cause then he'll think your not interested, so just tell him the truth- 'sorry, I'm not allowed to date yet, but maybe when we're a little older, we could go out. we can still be friends though!' i bet it would work! all my friends are allowed to date, and i'm not, so it's good to find out that there is someone out there who isn't either! ~angel124
Both my BFFs like the same guy. Hes on my bus and i see him and talk to him all the time. Cuz of that both of them want me to find out who he likes. they are BFFs too but now they have been fighting all the time. What should i do? PS thanks Babymegan90
Dear stagelover1234890,
This is tough because if you do find out who he likes, it's pretty much guaranteed that at least ONE of your BFFs is not going to like his answer! If you feel like you're stuck in the middle, do what feels right. If you want to talk to him about it (and be prepared to tell your friends what he said), make sure he KNOWS that's what you're doing. Otherwise, he might feel like you totally blabbed his secret. If you don't want to ask him, be honest with your friends. Tell them to talk to his friend to find out who he likes -- you don't have to use YOUR friendship with him to do it. Good luck!
Dear Thinkpink16, This is a tuffy. Well you could set up a date that your mom could go on wiht you. Like say a pinic at the park or on a beach.I would if i were you go to the park. Advice Chica
ok well i dont know how to put it but maeve i really need ur help or any other beaconb street girls members. Ok well i like this boy and i think he likes me but i am not sure what to do if he asks me out because i am not allowed to date!!!
Dear thinkpink16,
Well, if you're not allowed to date, then that's what you've gotta tell him. He'll have to understand. But, just because you're not allowed to date yet, that doesn't mean you can't be friends and talk to each other! Just keep it friendly, and that should be a win-win for everyone!
I used to like this boy, but he didn't like me, then i stopped liking him, and now my friend thinks he likes me, but the problem is, he's going out with that friend (that i told you about) i don't want him to like me, cz im too young to start dating anyway! should i try to make him like my friend again?
Dear angel124,
Unfortunately, you can't MAKE someone like anyone. That stuff just happens. So, if he does like you, and you feel too young to start dating, just let it be! If a boy likes you, that doesn't mean you HAVE to go out with him. But, make sure you talk to your friend and make sure this doesn't cause drama between the two of you!
Your totally right about the 'negative attention'! some of my friends at school try to get negative attention! it's annying for me, because, i wanna tell them that they are just making fools of them sleves, but i don't know how to tell them without getting in a fight! waht should i do?
Dear angel124,
I know it's tempting to tell your friends that they're making fools of themselves, but many girls have to figure it out for themselves. You can just keep being you, and show them through example that POSITIVE attention is always better than NEGATIVE attention.
Dear gugulover, I think you should get to know the guy and try talking to him about things you might have in common And I think if you get to know him you can see if he likes you or not but i am sort of in that situation too so I can relate
I have a problem. I have a crush on this boy, but, I'm not sure what to do because he acts like he doesn't notice. I watch him everyday playing basketball. When he laughs I do. What should I do? HELP NEEDED!
Dear Kgirl_Katani,
Hmmm... boys who act like they don't notice either (a) really DON'T notice or (b) they're not ready to do the whole crush thing. He might just want to chill as friends, so maybe only watch him play basketball a few times and send him the friend vibe and not the crush vibe. Good luck!
Dear Stagelover1234890, If you like this guy more well then so be it. Just tell the other guy that you are sorry and you liek the other guy better. If he is really your friend or really likes you he will unserstand. Advice Chica
i'm sort of shy. the boy i have a crush on kind of looks like he likes me. i'm not sure. what should i do.
-un-noticible
Dear gugulover,
EVERYone is noticeable! If this boy you have a crush on is looking at you, look back! Having confidence in yourself is especially noticeable, so remind yourself how cool and interesting you are every time you look in his direction.
There is this guy that I liked and he really likes me back and we talk to eachother and wave but really didnt really go to the next step. BUT there is this new kid that moved from Virginia and he is SO cute. ALL the girls are like obsessed with him. Hes in some of my classes and he is SO nice. I know I dont have a chance with him ( the most popular girl likes him and shes a model so...) But I think I like him more then the guy who really likes me!! I dont want to break That guys heart!! HELP!!
Dear stagelover1234890,
Think about whether you like this new boy BECAUSE he's new and BECAUSE everyone else seems to like him. Then, think about what you like about this other boy. New kids are exciting and interesting, but eventually, they become just like everybody else. So, think about whose personality you like better and who you'd like to spend more time with.
And, who cares if the most popular girl in school likes him? And, moreover, who cares if she's a model? Ha! Being a model is great, but keep telling yourself that what SHE does and who SHE likes should have NO effect on you whatsoever. Good luck!
OK I like this boy a lot! He is nice to me and says hi to me in the mornings! My bff's boyfriend knows I like him because he is a little bit my friend! Well he and the guy I like are best friends! He always says he is going to tell him I know he isn't but what if he does and the guy I like doesn't like me back it will be soooo embarrsing!!!
Dear 7lilgill7,
Yeah, crushes who don't crush on you back -- that's tough. But, think about what a crush REALLY is. You think he's cool and cute and nice. Those are all great things! So, if your BFF's BF tells his friend that you like him, it's totally a compliment. If he doesn't have a crush on you, it'll be embarrassing for a little while. But, to get over it, the best thing to do is just move on full steam ahead. Say to yourself, "Okay, whatev. He doesn't like me back," and then don't dwell on it. There are soooooo many more boys out there!
dear maeve,u no the boy i rote u about on oct20?I REALIZED THAT I LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of course,i didnt tell ANY1.then 2day,my bffs were running ahead of me by him in pe,& THEY TOLD HIM THAT I LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!so,@ lunch annyssa was all like "I told Tanner[thats his name]ur secret".& i was all what "secret?'that u like him.were not paired 2gether,but when theres a soloist in the song were doing,im really close 2 him[so close i can feel myself blushing!]i dont no if he nos if i like him,but im 2 scared 2 tell him how i feel!should itell him & if i do,what do i do if he likes me back???????????????????[or not]
Dear spellbee12,
Cool! So, now you've got that straight! When you realize you like a boy, take a breather and figure out what the game plan is. You can tell him you like him right away -- but sometimes that freaks boys out when they don't know you that well. So, it's a gamble. Another option is to get to know him as a friend and try to figure out if you guys have a lot in common. Then, if you still feel like you want to tell him, he'll already know how cool and friendly you are.
If your friend has already spilled the beans, play it cool until you decide what you want to do. He probably won't come up to you and talk to you about it -- if he doesn't know you that well, it could be kind of embarrassing. But, if he makes it clear that he doesn't like you back, your heart might be breaking for a while. Hold your head up high and say something like, "Okay, cool. Let's just be friends, then," and do just that!
I have a crush on a boy named Jay, he is really nice but he just says we are friends plus hes dating katelyn, and she doesn't even like him, she's only dating him for gifts!!!!!
Dear martlover123,
Yikes! Going out with someone just for the gifts is so not girlfriend-like. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. You can tell this boy your opinion, and that's about it. Trying to break them up or spreading rumors about her or anything like that will just make things worse. He has to figure out on his own that his current girlfriend isn't good for him!
I love how you write back 2 everyone! Plz write back 2 me... Ok so this boy I've liked since the 1st day of school asked me out *YAY* and know I don't know what to tell my mom..I know for SURE shes ok with the boy thing but im afriad my family will make fun of me like "Mabye you should get that for himmmmmm" I know for sure my dad will!!!! PLZ HELP P.S. Also Im kinda nervous about telling my mom
Dear luv2dance4u,
Okay, let's see if we can figure this out! It's pretty much a dad's job to tease and embarrass his daughters from time to time. And, yeah, when your fam first finds out about this, they probably will take MANY opportunities to give you a hard time. But, that's kind of a family's way of showing support -- in a weird way, I guess. Like, your dad isn't freaking out about you going out with this boy. Instead, he's joking around and teasing you about it. That's a good sign!
You should totally tell your mom. Just lay it all out: "Mom, there's this boy at school, and I guess he likes me because he asked me out." Done! Then, you can talk to her about how the both of you feel about going out and other boy stuff. It's important to get all those things out in the open before you start feeling like you have to sneak around. That's totally not cool!
i really like this guy and hes like one of my best friends. i can tell that he likes me by the way hes always nice to me and how he acts around me. but other girls like him and sometimes i feel akward around him because hes so cute.i really like him. What should i do Maeve??
Dear BabyK,
Keep in mind that this guy might be afraid to make the first move with a girl and is waiting for you to do it! If you're also afraid, it might not be the right time to be more than friends.
Try -- and you'll have to work at this -- to lessen the pressure you feel to be all cool and confident around him. Yeah, his good looks might be distracting, but remember that on the inside, he's probably feeling just as awkward around you, too. Rather than working on being more than friends, I'd say to work on being totally comfortable around each other before taking that next step.
The boy i like is sooo mean to me and i think there is no chance we could go to a dance or something together.
Dear dramastar,
If your crush is mean to you, why would you WANT to go to a dance with him?! Look for someone who treats you with respect, and I guarantee you'll have a better time.
it's this boy who i think is following me around and sitting next to me all the time and every time i move away and i told him i don't like him after that i thought he would get the message but does'nt help me please
Dear peppercorn13,
I'm sure you've had a crush before, right? Me? Obvi. So, you probably know that you can't just snap your fingers and stop crushing on someone. That might be the case with this boy. Maybe he thinks that if he sticks around a little while longer, you'll get a crush on him, too.
If that's not going to happen, you'll have to be persistent -- but VERY sensitive to his feelings. Tell him that you're not into him in that way and that following you around makes you think he isn't getting the message. Good luck!
Okay, there's this boy i really like. we have always been friends then we became best friends around last year and this year. but lately i been thinking it was a little bit more than that. i think he like me more than a best friend but i'm not that sure he likes me that way. there's this other boy he's been saying that (the boy i like) likes me. he use to say that i did too but he stopped that because i told to. anyways i think he likes me because the way he cares for me, if some boy is teasing me he'll get them to stop. he also flirts with me. i am scared he doesn't like me that way and thinks of me as a friend. i am so confused!! PLEASE HELP! thanks Maeve!
-confused and loves him!
Dear queenaff,
Sounds like you've got a big brother type on your side! You said it -- he CARES for you, which is nice. If you care for him in the same way, then why not just leave things the way they are and see what happens down the road? Good luck!
hey maeve! i already left you a message on 'ask maeve' about guys, cause i didnt know about this. anyway, i dont think any guys like me, just cause i dont have a chest. all the other girls in my grade have a chest though, im just a bit of a late bloomer. im kinda upset that no one likes me. i think that if anyone oes like me, they should like me for who i am, not what i look like. i think that i am pretty good-looking, except for the chest thing. what do you think
~almost desperate~
Dear I_Like_cows_52,
You're absolutely right -- crushes should be about liking people for who they are on the INSIDE. It's true, though, that some girls believe what they have on the OUTSIDE is the only way to attract boys. But, a girl who values her body as something that's HERS-- not just something for boys to look at -- will avoid the guys who only see ONE thing and attract the ones who are more interested in her mind and soul.
So, take pride in being YOU and valuing YOUR body, because chests are not the only thing that attracts boys. If you're cool being who you are and it shows -- THAT'S super attractive.
Dear Maeve, there is this boy I like but I don't think he likes girls yet worst of all 3 weard boys like me I DON'T like them HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Zoey101222902,
It's totally normal if this boy is a little freaked out by the thought of going out with girls. He might feel nervous around us and not know what to say. This is where you come in -- show him that girls aren't that scary by having totally casual conversations and by giving off the friend vibe, not the I-want-to-go-out-with-you vibe. Good luck!
Dear Maeve, I am friends with this really cute guy he is sweet too. We both like each other and I missed the chance he asked me out. The I over heard him wanting me to ask him but I don't know how and I am always a little nervous.
Dear SummerRead34,
Asking a boy out can be super scary! But, you're in a good place because you know he wants you to ask him. So, the chances of him saying no are pretty slim.
But, remember that you don't have to be going out to like each other. Or, to hang out as friends. You can both have crushes on each other and talk on the phone and stuff without actually going out. So, if you don't feel ready to be going out with someone, take the pressure off and just hang out as friends. Good luck!
hey meave i like this really popular guy but he doesnt act mean he kinda likes me back but hes afraid becaus i am the TOTAL!!! oposite of popular he tells me that we shouldnt go out now and he has this popular blonde blue eyed girly girl as his girlfriend and he PRETENDS to like her and she ONLY LIKES him he even PRETENDED to cry when she was ABOUT to break up with him it is so hard to KNOW THAT I COULD BR WITH HIM but i cant!!!............HELP
Dear aurorell,
Who says you can't go out with him? Popularity contests are totally lame. What's REALLY cool is knowing that even if popularity exists in your grade, it shouldn't STOP you from doing anything you have your mind set on. This blonde, blue-eyed girl -- so what if she's popular? That shouldn't stop YOU from doing what you want. And this boy -- make sure he appreciates you for YOU, and isn't caught up in that whole lame popularity contest thing.
There's this guy Alex- oh so cute! He's kinda a bad guy, he hangs out with Ben- worst bully ever- woude'nt wanna like him cuz 1. He chases my BFFS Valerie, Sophie, and Kaitlyn All the time. And, i never get a chance 2 talk Alex cuz Ben has him all the time! Maeve, what should I do?
Dear Starrie18,
Hmmm... warning bells are going off in my head! Forming your OWN conclusions about people is important (rather than just believing what everyone else says), but if Alex really is a "bad" guy, I think you should steer clear, my dear. Plus, he hangs out with a bully, which is almost always bad news. That's def not something you want to get involved in. If you feel like crushing on someone, think about the "good" guys in your class!
Well,If you dont like those boys you dont need to. You should ask this guy chris out and if it dosent work out just be friends. And maybe you could give one of those boys a chance. Advice Chica
Hey i have a boy problom! well i like this kid Chris and there is like what 6 boys that like me 3 at church and 2 at school and 1 at P.E. but i like Chris. Please help me Please!
Laura
Dear loachell95,
Wow! That's a lot of boys! But, remember, even if a ton of boys like you, that doesn't mean you have to be more than friends with ANY of them. And, keep in mind that they all have feelings that can easily get hurt. So, whatever you do, be kind to all those boys and aim to be friends with ALL of them.
I have a boyfriend. Kinda. He already knows that im gonna break up with him. I don't want to make him feel bad when we work everything out. He is really sensative and i like another guy. he knows that 2. What do i say to him?
Dear lollypop3,
This is tough. You don't want to hurt your BF's feelings, but you've got to be honest. You don't have to come out and say: "I'm dumping you for someone else." Just say something like, "We've had a ton of fun together, and I totally like that about you, but I'm just not feeling it as a more-than-friends deal right now." Expect his feelings to be hurt for a while, but if you're honest AND sensitive, he'll respect that more and hopefully come around eventually.
Hi Maeve, I have a friend who's a guy and i really like him as a friend but also he's cute. He asked me out a ton of times last year, but i said let's just be friends. Then he started liking my best friend and asking me about her intersts to get her to like him back. I got really jealous but my friend didn't even like him at all! What should i do?
Luv, Rentluver1996
Dear rentluver1996,
It sounds like you sent the message pretty loud and clear that you didn't want to date this boy, so now he's crushing on someone else. And, you're jealous. Totally normal. Think about the reasons WHY you were turning him down last year. Is it because you didn't feel ready to go out with him? Is it because you don't have a crush on him (even though he's cute)? Try to block out your feelings of jealousy and figure out whether you've really had a change of heart -- or you just miss him crushing on YOU!
Thanks Maeve your the best!!!! I went to my BFF's house and i told her and "she said thats ok because i like this other boy". and i was sooo happy that she wasn't mad at me.. Thanks!!!!
Hi you guys rock i two boys like me and they a... fight over me what shoud i do. love bloom28
Dear bloom28,
Whoa! Drama alert! Drama alert! If I were you, I would just stay out of it. I mean, I know it's you who these guys are fighting over, but the actual fighting is going on between those two boys and you shouldn't feel like you have to get involved!
Tell them you dont like those boys. If it keeps on going like it tell someone about it. Tell them you are sick of it and you dont liek it and then they can handle it and it will stop. Advice Chica
hey maeve.first of all, i wanna say u r totally awesome. probably cuz u n i r both actresses. but neways, as a tomboy, i hang n joke with the guys a lot, n i mean a lot. not in a flirty way but in like a dude-ish kinda way. my friends keep tellin me that im flirtin with these 2 guys in my class, who actually i dont really like. we're not really much of friends but we like 2 tease each other n joke around.i keep tellin them i dont like them, but 1 of my friends keep tellin me i do. awkward since i think she said she liked them both. but neways,i kno 4 sure i dont like them n they dont like me. what do i do from a confused M-SIT Stephanie
Dear destinyhope555,
Thanks! Joking around can sometimes LOOK like flirting because it's you (a girl) having fun, laughing, and playing with boys. But, you're right -- that doesn't mean you like, LIKE them. And, the only person who knows how you TRULY feel is you, so even if your friend is telling you that you like these boys, it's only true if you agree. Good luck!
Dont sweat it. Maybe if you set up a date thats good for you and your parents to go to together. They will see you are mature anough and that your boy friend is responible and kind to you and your family. Advice Chica
I have a MAJOR problem. Well, I like these 2 guys and i am friends with both of them. 1 of them sit across me and 1 sits behind me. I like both of them alot but i dont know which 1 i like more and would like go to a dance with. HELP ME.
Dear babymegan90,
Oooh! A dance?! That's great. Why not just go to the dance with a group of BFFs? Then you can dance with both boys. There's no law that says you HAVE to go with one of them, but if one asks you, take him up on it and see if you guys vibe as friends!
well i like this kid and all my friends think he sorta likes me back! and i REALLY like him but im not allowed 2 date yet but im 13 so im really mad my mom doesnt think i should date until im 16 what should i do?
Dear varejaoQT17,
I know it's soooo tempting to want to step into the world of dating, but you know what? I think dating can get complicated -- which is drama that you don't need! Your mom only wants what is best for you, and she's probably trying to protect you from all this complicated-ness. But, that doesn't mean you can't be in-school friends with this boy!
there is a guy i liked since 3rd grade but i went out with him in third grade. I really like him again. I really like him. He is soo nice and a little cute. i think really want him to be my boyfriend again. His friend is my friend but I don't want to go ask him to ask his friend out for me! HELP ME! PLEASE
Dear heartlessangel,
Nice boys who are a little cute can be really fun friends, too! If his friend is your friend, maybe take a few steps back and ask the friend to invite you BOTH to do something. Then, you two can hang out as friends and see where it takes you down the road.
I am totally upset. There's this boy in my class is really mean. He called me fat and a bunch of other rude names. I used to like him but now I hate him and he brought my self esteem down. Do you think I should belive his rude comments
Dear chickadee,
Absolutely NOT! You should not believe these mean-spirited comments. If this boy's insults are lowering your self-esteem, then you should tell a trusted adult, like your teacher, about what is going on. In the meantime, try to avoid him whenever possible!
ok so im like so jealous! im kinda higher then the middle in the popularity chart so i thought a lot of boys would ask me out. (But i kno a lot of boys like me) so in health class this boy wrote down all the girls that the guys wanted 2 date. my name wans't on it! i was so upset! and my crush is popular and im pretty sure he likes me but why would he date me if im not totally popular?i think being popular these days is important and only popular people go out with other popular people!!
Dear Martyis2cute,
Charts? Lists? Whaaat? Why should you care about a list made up by some boy? It's not like it's the law or something! In reality, there is no popular chart, and there are no popularity rules for who can date who. So, why even give this list a second thought? Be the girl who's totally above all the charts and lists, and that's what boys will notice -- your SELF-CONFIDENCE!
Hey BSG My BFF likes the same boy i do his name is Chris and he likes me and i dont want to hurt my BFF's felins so how would i tell her please write back
Dear loachell95,
This one is tough. I think you should be honest with your friend, because lying or sneaking around is ALWAYS worse. But, consider her feelings. If the situation were the other way around, how would you like to be treated? Be sensitive to your BFF's feelings, and think about what you might do if Chris causes a major fight between you. Good luck!
Well i like this boy and im not sure if he likes me and i dont want to tell him that i like him because im afrade that he would lol at me if i asked him. please help me!!!!!!
i like this guy a whole lot but this girl in my school told him and he thinks i am all over him but i am not i don't think he'll ever talk to me again what should i do? should i just forget about him? or try telling him i did not mean to make him feel bad? please write back i am in definat need of help
Dear skywrighter,
You shouldn't feel embarrassed or bad about having a crush on someone. Those are your personal feelings, and it was totally uncool of that girl to spill the beans. If he's going around saying that you're all over him, then give him some space -- a LOT of space since it sounds like he's not treating you with the respect that you deserve.
help me i think i like this boy but i dont knoe if to take a move because people say he likes me help please write back
Dear cutie2themax,
If you only THINK you like this boy, and you're not sure if you should make a move, then you should probably sit tight for a while. Just because you like a boy, and people think he likes you, doesn't mean that either one of you have to make a move. Get to know him as a friend -- that should feel way more natural than making a move.
yea what happens if ur in love with a guy but there's no chance with him? cuz well yea... and guys, they make great friends maybe cuz they don't think the same as girls but if u hav a friend (a guy friend) who u trust then just ask his advice on stuff u kno? cuz they see things different... but that's just my opinion...
my problems rthat i dont know if i like this boy named alex in my class but he is all boyfriend material all my friends say he likes i got proof because he told 1 of my friends and i dont know what to do maybe we should just be friends can you give me some advice please it will help me a lot your my favorite in the book even if u have boy problems so do i Help
Dear cutie2themax,
Just because a boy has a crush on you does NOT mean that you have to feel the same way about him. If you're just noticing him for the first time, get to know him as a friend and see if you have a crush on him, too. Being boyfriend material is great, but if you're not ready for a boyfriend (which is more than okay!), stick to liking his FRIEND qualities and go from there.
why happens if the the boy domps you and than you get bake together and the same things happen agin and agin and agin
Dear summergirl2233,
Oooh, this one's easy! You find a new boy! Hahaha! Seriously, this kind of cycle is not healthy or fun for either of you. It's pretty clear that you have your differences, so think about ending your more-than-friends relationship for good. This doesn't mean you need to go out and get a new bf (despite what I said above -- I was just kidding), either. Take all that time you spent fighting and try something new!
hi maeve u r lik such a boy expert see there is this guy at my school and he is really hott and he likes me but at my old school there was another guy that i still talk to he is soooo hot and is older but see he liked me b4 but idk who i should go out with! help me plz
dear mAEVE YOU HAD MANY BOYFRIENDS I GUEST WELL YOU A MOVIE STAR SO ANYWAY THERE IS THIS GUY WELL GUYSIN MY CLASS AND SO MY FRIEND KEEPS THINKING I LIKE THEM ALL BUT I DONT WHAT SHOULD I DO? AND HOW COULD I HANDLE IT WITHOUT BEING MEAN?
Actually, kekechi, no boyfriends yet! (Although I did once think I was going on a real date -- it turned out to be just going to a basketball game with a friend.) Just be yourself, be friendly and the guy thing will sort itself out. Laugh it off!
You guys give such great advice! I read everything, AND NOW ME AND EDGAR ARE DATING!!! YOU GIRLS ROCK!!! AND MAEVE, YOU'RE JUST PLAIN AWESOME!!!!
Thanks, Futurstar24 -- love the username!
You know, we try to get to as many comments as we can -- but with school, dance class, homework and trying to spend some time with my family, we can't get to them all. BUT, Club BSG to the rescue! Lots of girls in Club BSG also give great advice. Make sure you read the notes from other girls -- they give great advice too!
dear spellbee12, that's not really nice of ur bffs. you should try talking to them. tell them that ur feelings are really hurt. you can try ignoring them or act mad. and u should tell the boy they're teasing u about that u just want 2 be friends. and if ur bffs don't stop then find someone else 2 hang out with until they stop. Hope my advice works 4 u, Martyis2cute
there is a boy in my class and he is so cute. he sits next to me and i really want to be his girlfriend. but i dont think he does. he is playful. he is so annoying and then hes sweet and then he gets all annoying again but i really think its real boy issues cause i also like this other kid.alex the 2nd boy liked me in 3rd grade and i liked him and we totally had a chance but i blew it with trying to be popular so i really learned to just be yourself.
My bffs are telling everybody at school that I like a boy who I really don't! When I tell them that I don't like him,they tell me that they won't stop teasing me until I admit it.Should I just deal with it,or tell him I don't like him if they tell him anything if we get paired together for anything[we're in the same after school group where I'll probably get paired with him since we're the same height]???????????????????????????
Dear spellbee12,
It's totally OK to be friends with a boy and not like, LIKE him. And, telling this boy that you DON'T like him just to prove something to your friends will only hurt his feelings. Your friends are the ones teasing you -- NOT him.
To your friends, say something like, "Hello! I've already said 1,000,000 times that I don't like him. Can you guys please stop bringing it up?" And, if you do get paired up with this boy after school, be friendly! Being friendly doesn't have to mean anything more than what it is, which is being a nice person.
I have a HUGE problem! Well I like a guy names daniel. He is my really good friend. He always stares at me and torments me latey. My friend went aaked him out 4 me and he said no! But i can tell that he likes me AND my best friend now. HELP ME!
Dear babymegan90,
Sometimes, boys (and girls!) aren't ready to have the "yep, I like you" conversation -- you know what I mean? So, it sounds like he really likes spending time with you (and teasing you a little bit!), but maybe he's not ready to, like, actually go OUT. Unfortunately, no one can read minds! So, there's no reason why you, Daniel, and your BFF can't be friends right now and save the "liking" talk for later.
hey maeve my bff likes the same guy that i do, but it doesn't stop there--he also likes her and they are going out!! what should i do?
Dear skywriter13,
This one is a toughie. But, ask yourself who is more important to you -- the boy or your BFF? Either way, it's not a good idea to try and break them up. You'd probably lose both of them as friends. Instead, do a bit (OK, maybe a LOT) of heart-healing, and try to support your friend and be happy for her.
hey there I know two boys who are my friendz but they both like me. I dont know what to do because I like one of them but i dont want to hurt the other boys feelings. I need some advice.
Dear Chickabonita01,
It sounds like you want to do the right thing and not hurt anyone's feelings, which is great! If you know for a fact that both boys like you and you feel like you need to do something about it try to be as sensitive as possible toward the other boy's feelings. Explain that you really like both of them as friends, but that you feel like you want to spend more time with one of them (aka, the one you like!).
I do like a boy but I'm not gonna obssess over him because (no offense to the boy crazys out there) but it would be a waste of time. I have better things to do then sit there during my social studies class & space out thinking about him & if I look okay because he sits behind me.
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we no each other from band & stuff,so i talk 2 him a little bit.on crazi hair day @ school,he had on this girly wig & came up 2 me aftr la & wuz all hey gf!then me & my friend were walkng out of the buildng 2gether & he said bye 2 me,& she wuz all ooooh he LIKES u!ive told them 2 stop,but they keep dong it!i dont want 2 hurt their feelngs,but its gettng soooooooooooo old.hes nice & all,but i dont like him.how do i tell him w/out him takng it personaly? & what if he DOES like me?what wud i tell him then????????????????????????????HELP 
you don't need to be all romantic at our age! 
so how do i found out if he still likes me or is moved on to my friend? 
hey there I know two boys who are my friendz but they both like me. I dont know what to do because I like one of them but i dont want to hurt the other boys feelings. I need some advice. 
