My personal pet peeve about being a new girl is that every time I move to a new school, I hear people whispering as I walk by. I don’t think they mean anything bad by it, but it stinks to be singled out like that. Being the new girl has been fun, embarrassing, exciting, a little scary, but always an adventure. You can check out what happened on my first day of middle school at Abigail Adams Junior High in Worst Enemies/Best Friends … let’s just say it was an experience I’ll never forget!
Have you ever been the “new girl”? How was it? Do you have a funny story or embarrassing moments? Got any tips or advice for other new girls? Let me know!
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Have you ever been the “new girl”? How was it? Do you have a funny story or embarrassing moments to share? Got any tips or advice for other new girls? Let me know!
I just moved and though everyone will be new to Jr. high I will be the one that doesn't know anyone. The only person I know is S*** waaay down the street from the grand-folks. If anyone is in the same sitch I have advice, even though scool for me doesn't start 'till the 19th of august. BSG reader, purplelola11
I was a new girl once and it is scary.My advice for new girls is to be yourself because if you aren't, you have to live with it for as long as you're at that school.Also, there is nothing wrong with coming back after summer vacation as a different person. Change can be good.
Hi! I have been a new girl once and I didn't like it. I was going 2 this school that my parents and I thought I would really like but it turned out that everyone, and I mean everyone, was a snob. We nicknamed it the snob school. I have been going there for 2 years but in September I am going 2 my public school. I told my mom that I am not moving schools again, I mean, I have 2 go on 2 middle school and high school, but that's it. Oh, I am going into fifth grade. I don't like being the new girl but I don't know what it is going 2 b like going 2 a regular school that isn't made out of snobs. Can anyone give me advice on making friends? I would really like it. ttyl! -gylfie
i'm GOING to be the new girl. I'm 11 years old so I will be going to middle school. I'm sorta scared cuz im really short and lots of people (including family) mistake me for being a first or a second grader. and im really skinny and easy to pick up, (my sis said a dude got stuffed in a trash can)
I haven't been a new girl before or do you consider a start of a new year in your old school?All I remembered was on my frst day of school when I was in Primary 1,me and my friend was chatting happily away of who to be friends with when my teacher caught us talking and said that in front of the whole class and everyone turned around to look at us!
I have been the new girl a couple of times.I had to deal with QOM'S,adjusting tothe school,and making new friends.I moved to Massachusetts from Pennsylvania in 2nd grade now I am in 4th grade and I am populur,atheletic and Nice!!!
I have been a new girl 3 times and soon to be 4! It was really hard making friends, but I always had new storys to tell for every time I moved. It was kind of hard having all of the attention on you but after a week people sort of moved on!
Hi!I am a girl who has many expierences with always being that new girl. U see i have been home schooled, public school, and private school. I always have been an out going person, and i tend to make many friends pretty easy, but it can be pretty hard at the beginning of the year. You know what people say it is so hard being new, but i think that that is not the truth, people just don't like to take chances an d make mistakes. What's wrong with that, everyone is going to at some point of your life so next time u see a new girl go up to her and introduce yourself, you may start a whole new friendship. --abzs
unicornprincess, (sorry for leaving the thing out in the middle but i can't find it on my computer) in which country did you live before and what language is your mothertongue. i don't think your english is bad (my mothertongue isn't english either, so my english is probably the worst of all people's english on this website)!! i have two girls in my class whose mothertongue is english and everyone else's is german, but noone minds their not perfect german. we speak a mix of english and german with them (most of us are good at english because we are a bilingual class). noone who isn't from our class would understand us when they would hear us talk to them!
I was the new girl 4 times. This year included. But this year was the worst because it wasn't just a new school it was a whole new country!! I wasn't very good at speaking English and I was (and still am) an extremely shy person! I didn't know anyone ofcourse but now I have many friends who don't mind my bad English. Next year I'm moving to my 5th school. But I think I'll try 2 be less shy and I'll probably participate more... (that was exactly what I had planned 4 this year but none of it worked! Everybody knows me as the "girl who hardly talks")
totally char, just last year in 5th grade i was the girl to be i finally was at the top of the heap, but then my mom told me i had to go to the school by my house. no matter how much i screamed and begged, she still wouldn't budge. but it all turned out o.k. cuz i hav new bffs and new people to make mew memorys with.
uh yeah! ivebeen the new girl way more then 1 time. i move every year to new schools so far. my mom promises to keep me there but breaks her promise. im always new
I have never been the new girl! Except 4 my first year in middle school but everyone was new to that school! I knew some ppl in my class and i made new friends too!
I move around a lot and whenever I move the first day of school is TWICE as terrifying not only because I'm the "new girl" but because I have the first day of school jitters. And this upcoming year I'm going to middle school so I will THREE times the jitters! AHHH! Wish me luck!
omg i know EXACTLY what you mean! i moved to a new town/state/and school last year and a lot of people wanted to know about me. some people in my homeroom who had met me were talking to their other friends about me. i knew they weren't saying anything mean, but it's kind of uncomfortable to know that people are talking about you. it didn't take long for everyone to find out about me, so the whispering stopped eventually. i guess you learn to deal with knowing that people are talking about you, because it happens to everyone, not just new kids. since i know what it feels like to be whispered about and pointed out, when a new guy came to my school about 2 weeks ago, i tried to be cool about it and not talk about him a lot, but my friends were like crazed! i was like chill guys, nobody wants to be singeled out because they're new to a school...i should know, it's happened to me! (and it wasn't one of my most favorite things that's happened!!!!) so what i'm trying to say is, even if somebody is new, you don't have to whisper and talk about them a lot and especially don't point them out in a crowd...they know that you're talking about THEM, and that feeling hurts!
One of my best friend moved from our big Catholic School to a very very very small school with 2 classes, one with grades 1 2 and 3 and one with grades 4 5 and 6. She left in the middle of the year and top of feeling uncomfortable there she also felt really bad becuase our ILA teacher (Indapendent Langauge Arts)was new that year and had just gotten out of College and Teacher's School and so the teacher thought it was her fault because she thought that my friend left because her mom thought that the ILA teacher was inexperienced.No one at her new school has anything in common with her and these two girls keep on following her around and are really annoying. So now when our large group of best friends starts having fun one of us will always say "I miss **" and then the fun will go away
On my second day, I was hoping that my 2 friends would be there. I thought i would die if they weren't there!! Guess what? The next day, neither of them were there!! I didn't die, but hung around with some other girls who are now even better friends than them!!! raro_chic
Hey Char, On my first day at my new school, I walked in and my teacher was nice and all, and then this other girl said to me: "Hi, what's your name. Do you wanna sit next to me. Aw, it's a pity you have to sit next to that other girl!! She's okay but she's kinda annoying." She said this all in one go, and I was pretty overwhelmed!! She turned out be an pretty good friend of mine!!! Bye!! raro_chic
yeah i was a new girl, i was so nerovus i didnt speak, but this girl who is like my best friend for life well she came up to me first and ask to hang out and we did after that i got really close to my class, and yeah at first it is scary but u get used to it and by u know it u will have friends
i usully make friends by doing things in class like group projects it also helps if u find someone talking and u know what they're talking about in put some insight in i do that and i hav tons of freinds now! its all about finding a common ground with others
i always welcome new comers with a smile even if they are not the prettiest or no one else would just because they don't "feel like it". In my class we have 9 new kids (and that is in a small school)! In which 7 are in my half, i am friendly to all, and good friends with a few.
I have been new so many times, because my family moved so many times!But my advice is that sometimes people can be mean just because you are new, but if you stick up for yourself, and don't let them get to you, i find that they respect you a lot. just ask for more advice got a ton --abz
I got advice for all new girls: If you are new and you are worried that no one will be your freind, don't worry. It takes a while for frendship to start. Just becuse you don't have freinds in the biginning doesn't mean you will never have freinds! One the first day don't worry becuse after a while you will have tons of good freinds who like you!!!
i was a new girl too!! last year i moved to a new state in the middle of the year, and i was soooo scared my first day!!! being new is hard, so b nice to new girls, plz!
Chocolatte don't worry! I am starting 2 but just be kewl but quiet, but basically b yourself, unless u know who the kids are! If u say anything 2 outrageous they will think u are sooo krazy. Thanx 4 listening, 082398princess
Char, I did the worst thing in 2006! O.K., I was the new gurl, and they were like all talking and I said hi. Evry1 looks and me. I hear whispering all around 4 the rest of the day. I found out I said something I heard on T.V. a couple days ago when I was trying to find the "look" these kids had. Wrong Thing! They thought I was stuck up, and like hated all 1st graders but I don't!
I am so nervous because next year I am starting Jr. High and I know it will be so different from the small private school I used to go to. Does anyone have any help? I could really use it!
Last year, I moved across town, and had to go to a new school. It wasn't that hard for me because I knew kids that went there, but it was still pretty difficult to be in a new, HUGE, school. It was a great experience to be "new". Right now, I fit in fine being at my school for a year. Like you Char!
i just moved last week 8 hrs away from all of my friends! i started a brand new school yesterday! it was terrifying, but i actually got invited 2 sit with sum ppl @ lunch! its nice being able 2 talk 2 sumone!
last year in 5th grade i was so nervous because i didnt know anyone. it was good because i started making friends. i fell at recess in front of everyone. yes just be yourself and you might have friends.
for me when i was in grade1 i was really scared to go into the classroom!so everyone turned around and stared at me! a little embarrassing! oh well now iam in 8th grade and i have some close to b friend and so not so close to me friends ~BSGlover123~
I have never in my life been the new girl but I find that new people are the BEST friends for they have been through a whole lot and understand more than most
yea i was the new girl in october and the night before i transfered i thought to myself: what if on my first day i have a sub? and i did!!! the whole day! oh man i was wanting to cry! but the second day is so much better!
You're right -- being the new girl is only temporary. There's always tomorrow :-)
hey charlotte! hmm.. let's see..i went to preschool when i was three, and then in kindergarden i went to the cousin school... soo. ya i have never been a new girl.. but..... when someone new comes in, i totally greet them!! like i have a friend who's really mean.. ((Who even knows why she's considered my friend)) && she's rlly mean to them & that makes me feel rlly mad.. as if i were the girl she was being mean too.. so i totally make her feel welcome!!
what vienna is like? mmh, it's sort of an outdoor-museum. most of the town's center is really old. there is the hofburg and st. stephen's cathedral and all these old streets. it's really nice. but the viennese are a bit slow, i don't mean not intelligent, but they do everything slowly and take their time. sometimes, like in a shop, that's really annoying!
Wow -- sounds like an amazing (and stress-free) place. Thanks for telling us about it!
i was a new girl six month after i started at a new school anyway. i lived in germany and there you start "gymnasium" in 5th grade. so i went to my new gymnasium and six month later we moved to vienna. at first i was really shy and didn't know what to say, but now i am part of my class as much as anyone else. anyway, i go to a school where we are teached in german and in english, so lots of kids whos parents work at international organisations are new to our school each year.
That's really cool! You should tell us what Vienna is like some day! You're right. If you give it some time, you'll see that making friends is possible :-)
i loved being the "new girl" in 4th grade 'cause i meet so many new friends. to be exact, 12 which is so much more than any other year at my old school!
I was never a new girl... im sorry but i have good advice Meet is new people and be open minded to what is going on! You can make new friends. Share your hobbies and likes. Maybe they will like you. Just accept them and they will accept you. Dont spring on new friends just because you want to. You have to get to know them. talk, invite them over, i promise it will work out eventually. Good luck!!! you rock and remember: Make some friends and keep the old, one is silver the other is gold
That's great advice! And, you know the rest of that song? "A circle's round, it has no end. That's how long I want to be your friend!"
theres this old new girl who still thinks she is new she just like every one else she is a year old on the day right befor every one leves for vacation i was scraching off the color on my pic so it would look litey draw and unforchanatly she saw me and she said 'when i some one saw me do that and copied me' i said 'no i've been doing this sice kider'then she stayed silent
hey charlotte i need some advice, i am in 7th grade and there is this guy in 9th grade that i really really like and we r always talkin and we r both in choir ay our local church and r both faithful christians and we r always together and i want him to ask me to go out with him but he has not yet asked and i am starting to get worried that he mite not even like me wat do u think i should do should i ask him out or just wait impatiently? plz hurry and rite back soon
-lionchica
Well, I think it's possible that this boy likes you, but isn't ready to ask you out. Boys and girls can have crushes on each other and not go out. So, just because he's not asking you out doesn't mean that he doesn't like you. Focus less on "going out" and more on getting to know him :-)
This year I was the new girl.I think you are the new girl all the first year you are at the new school, then you aren't anymore(I think) sometimes you don't like it so much because your friends talk about things that happened when u weren't at school.But it isn't very bad it's ok. Besides many kids are nice to you because they want to know you.GOOD LUCK IF YOU ARE NEW KID AT SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!
You're right. It takes time to really get used to people and start forming your own memories with them that you can talk about. But, you've got to give yourself a chance to get to that point!
WHEN I MOVED IN2 MY "NEW" HOUSE THIS LADY INTRODUCED ME 2 3 GRLS.THEN THEY STARTED WHISPERING ABOUT ME. IM FRIENDS W/ 1 OF THEM NOW AND SHE SAID THAT WHEN THEY MET ME THEY THOUGHT I WAS WIERD, SNOBBY, AND STUCK-UP!
That just goes to show that first impressions aren't always right!
every time someone talks about something i do that is embassing my heart jumps becuse im kind of known as the lame kid
Well, I hope YOU don't believe you're the "lame kid" no matter what people say. If you don't believe in YOU, then it's hard to fight those kinds of LABELS people put on others in school. You know what I mean?
When I was a new girl last year, I came in the middle of the year. It was fine, I was really shy when I first came. My friends now tell me they thought I looked like a cat when I first came! I laughed my head off. Some tips are to accept every offer of friendship, even if they're strange - just not mean. Like at lunch, "If your friends are there, it's the cool table!"
They thought you looked like a cat?! Hahaha! That's really funny. You're right -- ALL the tables in the caf are cool in different ways.
This very year i'm the new girl and I was walking into literacy class (well following everyone else) we were writitng stuff and my teacher said "oh we will do some partener thing were you will read your story to your partener" she partenered me with this boy and then says' will this be okay for you guys" I say okay and the he says"Well I didn't really want to be with a girl but I don't know her so yeah and I don't want to say that I hate her but she's to shy and I don't really know her" Well I didn't have to be partenered with this boy but I was kind of embarrassed everyone was lauging hard.
Dear Charlotte, When I was the new girl in first grade, I was walking by, and I overheard one boy say something gross to another boy. The thing was so gross, that I can't even say it.
the new girl in school is starting to get on my nerves. She was nice, but now that she is more comfortable with us she is really annoying! Sometimes she insults me and my friends (because we do it to eachother, but it's ok because we are BFF's)and is really annoying. Like at lunch, she mixes wierd foods and thinks its funny and eats it, but it's really gross! How can i get away from her if i promised my 4 hour teacher that she could always sit with my friends and me lunch!?!?!?
Hmmm... sounds like a tough situation. If she's throwing insults around like you and your BFFs do, she might think that by doing it, she's actually bonding with you and becoming part of the group. Also, I think if she's mixing weird foods and eating them on purpose, chances are that she's just looking for attention. Some people just don't mesh, and that's OK. Just try to give her some more time before you make a decision since it sounds like she's just trying to fit in.
I have been the new girl ALOT! One funny story was i am a very outgoing girl so i went up to a girl and said hi there whats your name? She told me her name and then told me she loved SHOES!! I love shoes too so i thought it was awesome that we shared an interest,i told her i would call her shoes and now everyone does! Some advice is be yourself!! Don't try to impress people to fit in. If they are true friends they will like you for why you are and not what you have or what you are trying to be!Trust me I have learned this the hard way. Be yourself and have fun!
I was new too my school this year. It was hard the first day because for the first time in my life, my parents didn't come in with me!!! I was scared. I only knew one person in my grade and her older brother. I went up to her and said hi, but she was so involved with her friends she didn't notice me. I ended up befriending a 6th grader (I'm a 7th grader), but that day my English teacher was REALLY nice, I felt totally welcome. At lunch I sat with the girl I had been assigned to 'shadow' and her friends, there ended up being almost 15 people at our table. Now I've joined the Basketball team, In The Know middle school team, and I'm starting a Middle School newspaper. I have soooooooo many more oppurtunitise than I had at my old school.
My advice for new girls: GO WITH THE FLOW. Don't try and shake things up or anything if you don't understand the school dynamic! I didn't try to, but i just have a feeling...... AND if someone looks like a nice person and is liked by teachers, ask them for help.
That is FANTASTIC advice! I'm so glad you had a good New Girl experience!
i just changed schools 2 months ago, have any advice?
Sure! Join clubs and programs at your school where you can talk to other kids and get to know them. I joined the student newspaper at AAJH, and being involved with that has allowed me to get to know more people besides the BSG. Good luck!
i was the new girl once. i didn't know anyone there! i had to leave my best friend behind. it was a little easier because i had someone help me around. now, she's one of my bff's!
I hope you still keep in touch with your old BFF. I try to email my BFF in Paris, Sophie, whenever I can. You know what they say... "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, and the other's gold." I love that song!
Hey Charlotte! There is a new girl at school who I like, but nobody else does! Even my BFF is like umm tell her to go away and maybe we can hang out this weekend. I really like her and want to stay friends with her, but people are starting to call me a nerd! What should I do!?
No ive never been the new girl but on the first day of middle school i was totally scared! and i had one of my bffs help me through it by being in the same classes as me. I cant imagine being totally new!!
You're so lucky that you had some friends already in the school. That makes things a whole lot easier!
Ive been the new girl at my school atleat 3 times. this year when i went to my new school 1 of my freinds were already at the school. She introduced me to all of her freinds so now ai have alot of great freinds
ive been the new new girl quite a few times it never worked out at any of my schools but now im pretty happy with my school that im going to right now!
That's great! It's such a good feeling when you finally feel like you're in the right place. That's how I feel in Brookline with the BSG!
in second grade i was the new girl. wen i came into the classroom i was so shy everyone well almost everyone kept looking at me. i was so nervos i could barely talk, and wenever i went to school i wouldnt talk to anyone i would jus play with some of my class mates. now im in 4th grade and im always so shy!!
In the second book when Isabel is the new girl and Katani does not like her I wrote a post it that said that she is not the only new person because everyone is new in Abagail Adams seventh grade.
yes i have been the new girl i moved like 3 times and every time i move i get scared and i think that people wouldn't like me and i been like you i had a sleep over with 3 girls and they didn't like me and then they had a fight and a mouse came and went on the girls head and then we went on a safari and when i get into a new school people are all staring at you and there like who's that well that's all i hope i get on the web site thanks well bye.
Charlotte, The way you sound in the books doesn't really mkae me think that you would be the clumsy type. You are always calm and quiet, how can you do it?
I dunno. I really don't know. If you figure it out, will you let me know? ;-)
I haven't been the new girl in a very long time. But I've seen new peope come and go and My friends and I are always really nice to them. I might be the new girl again next year and I'm thinking to reinvent myself a bit but still be myself. I still need some advice. BSG fans can you help?
I was the new girl in grade one. Even though it was the beginning of elementry school, a lot of people had been ther since pre-school. Nobody really paid atention to me on the first day in the morning. But at recess, briannah(now my bff)came and played with me and so did Kim, now one of my old friends. The thing sis to be yourself and you'll have lots of friends.
I really have never been the new girl, BUT I think the best thing to do is be yourself. You don't want new friends who think you are something that you're not! If you ever feel left out just tell yourself that it will get better because it always does. YOU WILL BE OK. I know that being the new girl is easier said then done but you gotta push through the croud and be noticed!!!!!!!!!
Good advice! Just when you think things can't get worse, they always get better. Like Avery says, quitters never win and winners never quit. That applies here, right? No? What do you think?
Thanks so much for all the advice I'm new and I don't think anyone likes me here! I completely miss all my friends from my old school but I'm going to listen to your advice.
Once when I was in grade 6 I didn’t know anybody in my class cause I went to a new school. I was so scared that I would not fit in that I started crying in the middle of class and this girl I didn’t know came over and ask me why I was crying and I told her the hole story and then she ask me to sit with her at lunch and then she became my best friend.
That's a great story! BFFs meet each other in all kinds of crazy ways. Look at me and the BSG!
About 2 years ago when when I was in 4th Grade we were in Art Class one Friday morning. Then our teacher came in with a girl named Taina. She look kinda nervous probably because she had just moved to the states from Haiti and her English wasn't very good. So to make her more comfortable my friends Tima, Kimberly and Sofia and I sat next to her at lunch and welcomed her and became good friends.
For many years moving was a thing that came nautrally. I moved every year or so. When reading The Beacon Street Girls series, it gave me hope that this recent move would be my last. Like Charlotte, i was used to moving, but that didn't mean i wanted to. I now live in Connecticut and am determined to stay here. It seems that i am just dust in the wind when it comes to the descision. I want to become more involved in the descision that affects me. I belive that kids everywhere are going through the same thing and the Beacon Street girls are a perfect example ( Charlotte ) that while moving may be hard, your friends will have your back when you need them most.
Hi Charlotte, I'm going to middle school this fall and I'm worried because I've never gone to a real school,I've always been homeschooled.Oh and i love to write.I just don't have blonde hair,green eyes,and i love to dance.but I'm shy and kind of klutzy!
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But I think I'll try 2 be less shy and I'll probably participate more... (that was exactly what I had planned 4 this year but none of it worked! Everybody knows me as the "girl who hardly talks") 
