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Queens of Mean

anna_joline_240.jpgHey girls,

It's Katani. Dealing with QOM (that's short for Queens of Mean) can be a hassle, and EVERY school has them. Right now you can probably think of at least one girl you know who fits the QOM description, am I right? Abigail Adams Junior High has Anna and Joline as reigning QOM, that's for sure.

But you know what? There are lots of ways you can try to get along with—and maybe even become FRIENDS with—the QOM at your school. I know what you're thinking: "Is she kidding?" Girl, I am not. And to prove it, here is a Kgirl list of four ways to deal with those mean girls.

Do the things you love to do. Don't let the QOM (or anyone else!) convince you that your interest in, say, table tennis isn't cool. That's what makes you unique!

Keep some perspective. Remember that QOM put other people down because they might actually feel bad about themselves. Makes you feel a little better to look at it that way, right?

Don't participate in gossip. This might seem obvious, but just like you don't deserve to be gossiped about, other girls don't either. And that includes the QOM.

Talk to a trusted adult. Your mom, your grandma, a teacher—anyone you usually go to for good advice can help you out here.

Got it? Good!


Read about the QOM at AAJH in book 10, Just Kidding.

 
your turn ...
How do you deal with the QOM at your school?
TTYL,



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asianangel100 writes:

I don't even know why people become so mean they get on my nerves and its just very rude! smilies/angry.gif
 

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samanthaboo96 writes:

oh i love this place it is so sheek smilies/wink.gif
 

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rissaroo writes:

I don't talk to them a long time.They figure out it sooner or later.I figure it out I did some thing mean I did.Trust me please
 

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Bokwrm writes:

the QOM at my school really aren't mean-at least to me...but i've heard horror stories from what they did to my friends b4 i started going to my school
 

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haiutt writes:

i just don't talk to them and they trie to hurt my fellings but they don't
 

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LilNussy1997 writes:

I a lot of rest smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif
 

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pinkgal writes:

well i go to a school that is christian and private and there is only one girl besides me well i always when some one gossips or does or says something that should not of benn said i tell them that gossip can always hurt the person they are gossiping about or it could hurt them smilies/shocked.gif smilies/shocked.gif
 

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asianangel100 writes:

I just hate meanies in my school. One of them is called J*** she is very rude but ever since I ignored her she wanted to be my friend so now I have no problems but if there is anymore meanies i will seriously get mad!
 

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xBSGxmarty writes:

Ugh, there must be a QOM or two everywhere! I'm dealing with one right now, and she's even worse and Anna and Joline. Just confront them. I'm saying that, but I don't do it... smilies/sad.gif
 

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starlet writes:

At our school in Texas we call the QOM and even the KOM(king of mean)Preps. I remember that one day in the afternoon ( after lunch) that we ( the 6th grader kids)would go to the gym. when ever the "preps" came through the door everybody would start "boooing" Thats how much we hate the QOM and the KOM. smilies/kiss.gif
 

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MyEverydayLuvisRF writes:

I hate gossip!
 

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mroseq writes:

I have been tempered by a QOM before so I know how it feels smilies/sad.gif so when I see it I try to either decide which way to go it depends because if there getting hurt I'll tell the teacher smilies/smiley.gif but if it's just names I stand up and snap a look or tell them to back off
 

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SparkleGal writes:

We don't have any Queens of Mean at our school, but there's this 1 girl who's like, all-powerful. She's nice enough, but it's like what she says, goes. If she's mad at you, too bad, because more than half the grade is too. I used to hang out in her group as a little follow-around groupie, but now I'm with a new group, and we all treat each other the same, and I couldn't have found better friends.
SparkleGal
 

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gogo1996 writes:

I feel sorry for my best friend her cousin is one of the mean girls and all of the mean hirls lockers are around mine and i have to wait 10 mins for them to get there books and you don't want to know how many times one girls it me in the head eith her locker smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/tongue.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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miamath writes:

just ignor them u think they r herting u but relly they r herting themselvs
 

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nodbrooke writes:

from nodbrooke how do u handle the them bsgs! smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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bri bri roxs! writes:

hey girls dont let qom get 2 u.they like to put people down cuz it makes them feel better about themselves.so just walk away 4rm qom.dont fight back.
 

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BSG Fan writes:

NO ONE MEAN TO ME.IM ONE OF THE POPULAR PPL.BUT IM NICE.ASK PPLS smilies/tongue.gif
 

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funnygirl1997 writes:

hrl1729,
thank you
 

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coolio628628 writes:

I ignore them and I dont let them make make me feel any smaller. Cause thats thier goal.
 

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hrl1729 writes:

dear, funnygirl
if you get mad try walking away


from,hrl1729
 

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PICKAJIN writes:

I HAVE A BFF AND SHE WANT WITH MY EX-BOYFRINEND smilies/sad.gif
 

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Dark Angel98 writes:

The peaple at my school are mean i wish she would just go away
 

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julie123 writes:

i have a bully in my school that trys to steel my lunch smilies/angry.gif
 

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chocolategirl96 writes:

i know someone who has that problem. there's is these girls who are the meanest so i understand they make fun of too. they are just anyoning i gald it's summer smilies/cool.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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Cookie Bear writes:

I agree with Hello Kitty
 

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funnygirl1997 writes:

i have a girl in my school who use to be my bff smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif. and then she suddenly changed like that she started to lie to me and talk about me behind my back and when i would start to hand out with someone new she would try to make it so that i couldnt hang out with that person any more then she would tell me yes i am trying to steal her away from you and then go off to my other friends that i am a liar and everything she did to me she would tell them i did to her and one day she mad me cry and i could just throw up and and it is terrible please help me please please please smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif
 

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funnygirl1997 writes:

i have anger issues really badly and when i get mad i usally yell and say things i dont want to say well what i do want to say at the time but might make me the mean girl l8ter and i DO NOT want to become a mean girl so all i have to say i SOMEONE HELP ME BECOME MORE CONTROBLE OF MY ANGER AND EMOTIONS!!!!!
~funnygirl1997
 

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5chocolatebar5 writes:

My qoms are the popular cheerleaders who will go WAY 2 far 2 get attention from guys. Their only 12! I can ALMOST Not quite tho!) feel bad 4 them because they will be the ones screwing up their lives and doing it at like 14(if u r a cheerleader, i know that not all of u r like this but most of the ones at my school r!)
 

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_hellokitty_ writes:

i would just talk back to them smilies/cool.gif
 

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dreatweety writes:

just dont pay them no attention then they will stop smilies/grin.gif smilies/sad.gif
 

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angel293 writes:

i deal with bullies by asking them why they do what they do and it;s usually problems at home or they are picked on themselves.but if they don't open up to you then at least the will know that you care.
 

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dainty4567 writes:

1.Stay away from them if your away from them they cant bother you
2.Do not try to argue with them
3.Do not try to fight fire with fire
4.If they make a rumor do not make one about them
5.Talk to a teacher or a adult if it gets worst than that
 

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Pinkybear500 writes:

i usually just ignore them and stay clear and never listen to them.
 

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maeverocks21 writes:

the girls at my school tease me 2-and this one guy is bugging me in particular at the moment. i tell him to bug off, or i'm going to the principal!
 

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Babygurl08 writes:

ignore them they will stop eventually..there's always a mean person and there is always a nice person who can change that person with one thing..... an actual friendship!!! smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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BSGPlatypie writes:

I usually ignore them when they tease me, so they jst get bored and they go away from me! Cool huh! smilies/cool.gif
 

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Chocolabi97 writes:

Try to ignore them. When you have friends, they have your back. Get through it together. Maybe try not to be enemies. Think of them as normal people. I have popular girls in my grade. I just decide I will be nice, but not great friends. Bye! smilies/shocked.gif
 

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annabelle8 writes:

Hey girls,
Dealing with QOM (that’s short for Queens of Mean) can be a hassle, and EVERY school has them. Right now you can probably think of at least one girl you know who fits the QOM description, am I right?

But you know what? There’s lots of ways you can try to get along with—and maybe even become FRIENDS with—the QOM at your school. I know what you’re thinking. “Is she kidding?” Girl, I am not. And to prove it, here is a Kgirl list of four ways to deal with those mean girls.

Do the things you love to do. DON’T let the QOM (or anyone else!) convince you that your interest in, say, table tennis isn’t cool. That’s what makes you unique!

Keep some perspective. Remember that QOM put other people down because they actually feel bad about themselves. Makes you feel a little better to look at it that way, right?

Don’t participate in gossip. This might seem obvious, but just like you don’t deserve to be gossiped about, other girls don’t either. And that INCLUDES the QOM.

Talk to a trusted adult. Your mom, your grandma, a teacher—anyone you usually go to for good advice can help you out here.

Got it? Good ;-)


 

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mags1040 writes:

Well I just ignore them and don't even listen I walk away and if they keep bugging me I just tell them to stop. smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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PumpkinMehelani2323 writes:

I try to act nice and try to become friends with them more often instead of fighting. smilies/tongue.gif
 

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JonasBrothers1562 writes:

I try my best to make friends with them and dont be mean back.
 

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vampierpriencess writes:

omg! you girls are mean.but i am the:coolest,cutest,funnyest girl in school. my best friend comes in second 4 the attatuide con test.of course i come in first.i luv this web site. smilies/smiley.gif
 

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Pretty Princesses writes:

JUST EGNORE THEM DONT LET THEM PULL U DOWN FRM UR DREAMS N WHEN THEY MAKE FUN OF U WHA DO U DO?EGNORE
 

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sam91011 writes:

I DEAL WITH THE QOM BY IGNORING INSULT THEY SAY TO ME
 

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doxi writes:

I find someone who I can hang out with and that can stand up for me.
 

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S.M.A.Rox writes:

i have two "popular" girls in my classi dont deal with them very well and my mom is always telling me how to just ignore them but it never works and at home i somtimes cry once ive been put to bed because they are so mean and i never do anything to them. S.M.A.Rox
 

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thepurplelover writes:

don't listen 2 what they say if its something bad about u. b nice 2 them at some extent. if their mean 2 u, b mean back but don't go overboard. sometimes even the meanest people have a nice side. remember that. theres usually a reason y their the way they r
 

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kanisha28 writes:

if they say something mean to me i will say something mean back
 

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racergirl101 writes:

i tell them to shout their mouth!!!!! smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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♥luv2run58 writes:

Don't let mean girls ruin your time in Junior High because before you know it(*sniff*sniff*) it will be over. Stay positive!!!
 

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Fuzzygirl5 writes:

i ignore them smilies/smiley.gif
 

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sugarblush_101 writes:

Its really hard to get away from mean girls but if you do the following you'll be fine:
1.)ignore them
2.)tell someone you can trust with your proble and they might give you some advice
3.)Mabey the bully might have a rought time getting along with people so TRY to be their friend
4.)If none of these work brush it off and listen to your fav. CD or read your fav. book because bullys aren't going to do anything but make you scared if them.

xoxoBlush smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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angelcake501 writes:

and u dont have to be mean maybe because u dnt have love from ur family but now im giving u some love because i want u 2 be better in life!!!! smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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angelcake501 writes:

she needs 2 just ignore them because they are noy the one who gives u food or ur parents soo let them say what they have to say cause i was in the same situation just like u smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/shocked.gif
 

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stylechic26 writes:

OMG some of the girls at my school are just like that and i just ignore them. I have tons of friends and i think thatit's good to just focus on them rather then on the QOM. Just focus on your style since it's awsome and never focus on what they say to you!!!! Your books are some of the coolest and i hope to read the rest.
 

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bobsgrandma writes:

the queen in my school know how 2 get away with anything! She bugs this little short kid in my class. It really annoys me!
 

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AmyRose writes:

my qom K*** is ttly mean hu has evry1 do her work 4 her! and then i sorta say M** and S***** r total nutz! i mean hu carez if u like t same guy, u should still b frendz. and K****** is kinda mean.
 

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wildcatchick101 writes:

omg i don't like the kind of girls that think that they are all that all it iz is that people only like them for thier money


wildcatchick101
 

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ccsoccerqueen2 writes:

when someone is being mean just ignore them and they will figure it out sometime. smilies/smiley.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/tongue.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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fashiongirl8116 writes:

Usually, I am very young and well, my classmate is kind of mean, and she has a lot of friends.
 

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koolkat93 writes:

There are QOM in my shool. They really don't bug me. smilies/tongue.gif smilies/smiley.gif smilies/tongue.gif
 

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sweet gurl writes:

hi i wanna be in ur club
 

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julene11 writes:

To deal with these kinds of situations ithink you should just walk away, or wen you cant tell them how pretty they look and then walk off they will be like ok why did she just compliment me and they will neb=ver wear that color again , and just say that everytime you see them they will run out of clothes to wear trust me (DONE IT)
 

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misshstar writes:

Its sad how people are mean to other people just because they are having some problems in their life. Its not fair to the person they tease and stuff. smilies/sad.gif
 

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misshstar writes:

word of advice:

being mean does not make you popluar,if thats what u think

bye smilies/grin.gif
 

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FunTime writes:

OK stay away from the QOMs(if you have one!).And try to ignore them.If they say something,like your eating pie,and they say everyone hates pie.Its her opinion.
I LOVE PIE.
 

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cutiepie#1 writes:

there is a set of girlz that are mean at every school so if you have problems with those girlz
just dont let them be your problem.just live life fun
 

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bobsgrandma writes:

well let me tell u 1 thing u have to know if u want to cry just ignore them when ur in a sfe place do yuor buisness
 

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alal13 writes:

Whobla your so silly!
 

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alal13 writes:

emmyinLA if you and your friends are mean to people, girl have i got some advice for you!

1.STOP DOING IT! It can really hurt people`s feelings and people won`t like you any more.

2.the key word is...huh...let me see"Apoligize" to the people you are being mean to ther`re probably pretty angry with you.

3.CHANGE YOUR WAYS IT~S NOT COOL TO BE MEAN.
That`s all I have to say about that. :p smilies/smiley.gifsmilies/cool.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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alal13 writes:

emmyinLa if you and your friends are mean to people, girl have i got some advice for you.

1.
 

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bffgirl114 writes:

everytime the QOM are mean 2 me, i just ingnore them and go on with my life. it is better because they wont bother you. even though one of them is liked by the guy i like. it gets anoying.A LOT!!!
 

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softballrokstar10 writes:

There is a relly mean girl at my school who pretends to be my friend. But behind my back she says mean things about me.I just ignore her. shes a drama queen.
 

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ollie writes:

They only pic on you to show of in front of there friends you might not be able to win them at ganging up on them but always remember you can win them always at smartness.
 

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pinkcow11 writes:

thers a girl at my school that me and one of frends where close to , but then we found she was a lier so we werent her freind any more , ever sence then she made fun of us so we just ignor her
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karmita writes:

to tell the truth i just don't listen to them..... really nobody should but everybody always does.... and if they really get me mad then i just walk away to cool down and not scream (i can scream PRETTY loud) smilies/wink.gif
 

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nini27 writes:

just let them talk cuz at the end of the day they goin to feel bad about it and when they talk u should smilies/cheesy.gif about it dont even worry bout it
 

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yumzum123 writes:

Ignore them. If they start messing with you, tell a teacher or parent. And don't stoop down to their level. Everybody already hates the QOM. Don't make everybody hate you too.
 

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nascar242 writes:

Just ignore them. they arent worth it. and dont stup down to their lvl. smilies/grin.gif
 

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Cupcakelover14 writes:

I just let them be mean to me 'cause eventually they will notice you don't care.
 

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Thlayli23 writes:

I try to keep calm and sort things out. If I get to mad, I just "Give them a piece of mind". But I don't want to influence anybody to do the wrong thing. The right thing to do is to tell them your not bothered or nervous about them anymore, They should leave u alone after that. smilies/wink.gif
 

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keesha writes:

i had a lot of qoms at my at first to.
 

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courtney24 writes:

when there is ever a bully you should just say back to them thanks or something,and just try to ignore what they say. smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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Isabella96 writes:

I had alot of QOMs at my school. At first, when I met these girls, I didnt know what I would do. They would tell my friends bad things about me and make those friends go against me. I dont really have those problems anymore though because I made friends with those girls. One of those girls pretty much hated me since prekay but I found out later that she was actually jelous. I think this because she called me fat once but she was actually very skinny. I think she just felt bad about herself so put it out on me.Now im friends with her and all those other girls. I no longer worry about QOMs because I know now that all QOMs are just taking things out on other people when they themselves are the ones that should just go out and make a few friends.
 

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izzytoocute1234 writes:

hey everyone, i just wanna say that if a QOM is messing with you ignore them and hang out with your REAL friends...they will cheer you up no matter what. smilies/smiley.gif
-izzytoocute1234
 

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izzytoocute1234 writes:

i like love s** smilies/wink.gif
 

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izzytoocute1234 writes:

hey whobla!!
 

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thinkpink123 writes:

you guys they are just mean because the are friendless and think by just being mean will make them feel better smilies/angry.gif guys if you have kids like that at school tell them that u understand what they are feelling and if they get mad at you Run
 

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babyloubs writes:

hi anyone wanna chat smilies/grin.gif
 

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actress10105 writes:

Just ignore them and if u wanna get back at them say something that will make them backoff
 

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Whobla writes:

emmyinLA do you pick on kids if so CHANGE your actions and be nice but keep the look. smilies/grin.gif
 

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Whobla writes:

If there is QOM at your school and your the one she says"I can't believe your wearing that it's sooo disgusting"or something 'bout your look just say that its your look and you like it.Besides she has her look and you have yours and don't change it just to impress some1.
 

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Whobla writes:

at my school they're no QOM but only 1 KOM(King of mean) smilies/grin.gif
 

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emmyinLA writes:

the qenns of mean in my school is . my friends and i.
 

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Arieldele writes:

you have very good advice and thanks!
 

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pocketfullofsunshine101 writes:

i'm one of the popular girls anyway, most of us don't put down any1 else. that's just rude, and it's happened 2 all of us before.
 

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pocketfullofsunshine101 writes:

i just totally ignore them and do my own thing. seriously, you don't have 2 put other ppl down just to be "popular"you just have 2 b urself and ppl will like u for that ! smilies/grin.gif
 

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pink121 writes:

i just ignore them if she/he/they keep bugging me i say step down and look what u did
 

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lokiita617 writes:

mean peaple dont get anywere so back off
 

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tanner1995 writes:

I would just ignore them they can't do anything to you. They think their the toughest girls. But they are wrong whatever they tell you dont listen because you are you no one can change who you are
 

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puffypink8 writes:

I'd just walk away. My mom tells me not to say anything. One day it'll come back on them. smilies/cool.gif
 

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puffypink8 writes:

All i do is stand up to them and tell them how they would fell if sum1 did that 2 them.
 

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puffypink8 writes:

I just go with flow and ignore them. smilies/cool.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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Ellareyan writes:

I just think that they are not a QUEEN NASTY, because I can't really change the attitude I don't like for them, and more is Iam friends with Queen of means in our school. And if they try to fight you, just backfire at them again
smilies/grin.gif smilies/wink.gif
 

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hannahmontanafan15 writes:

i ignore them!
 

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emna writes:

i just leave them alone but if they mess with me or my bff they will get a ugly side of me.
 

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Tracey1968 writes:

This one girl in my class REALLY GETS ON MY NERVES! smilies/angry.gif She is DEFINATELY A QOM! smilies/angry.gif
 

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piggy3241 writes:

Help me!!! My schools QOM found out that I like a boy in her class. Now, shes threating me by saying, "Either you be nice to me, or i'm going to tell J**". It's really annoying! Help! How can I make her stop? If she does tell J**, and my friends find out, I am totally DEAD.Please, somebody help!!! smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif
 

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corriannsilver writes:

Just ingore them cuz they are feeling low if they pick on other people! Try to be nice and youcould b friends! It's great for an enemy to become a friend
 

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PreteenGirl writes:

smilies/smiley.gifWhat I do isjust ignore them. If they make fun of you, just walk by. Eventually they will stop. The only reason they bother you is this: They love to male funof people so everybody will think that they're cool and popular!
 

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dixie_pink writes:

i have 2 girls at my school and 1 is like anna and 1 is like joline
 

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ciara37 writes:

i'm like one of the coolest popular girls besides my friend i'm sooooooo coooooooooool!!! smilies/cool.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/cool.gif
 

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elmorulez writes:

ya i had a problem with them last all thethey said about me backfried on them HAHA smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif
 

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bamawama writes:

good advize!! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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hlloo12345 writes:

i,ll make sore she doesn,t make fun of meor just walk away if it,s somthing bad about mei,ll jst inoge them
 

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jigish101 writes:

i'd have to say that i would sorta just fire back then my friends would help me... we are sorta like the bsg... there are 5 of us too, but we dont have people like ruby and sapphire
 

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baby girl 2 writes:

u sound cool can i join? smilies/cool.gif
 

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Kincade12345 writes:

I just ignore them, but NICELY!
They really get on my nerves!!!!!!!!
I would stand up to the QOM!
 

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phoenixsuns writes:

roll yur i's and walk away smilies/wink.gif smilies/cool.gif
 

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mz.collins writes:

wising i was not new PLEASE be my friend
 

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maranfrontera writes:

haha yea every school has QOF but they actually when u get to know them and be friends with them they are actually pretty nice. some just have probs in there family and take it out on others. smilies/smiley.gif
 

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stargirl39 writes:

be nice to them and avoid them, i have some at my school i try not to bug them and leave them alone. All Anna's and Joline's are just brats! smilies/angry.gif
 

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joanacapixie writes:

Ok so we've got a girl at my school and she controls two other girls if you start to hang out with her your stuck with her she's sad everyone's sad for her she's mad everyone's mad too you try to stop hanging out with her she get's mad and the two other girls that she's forever controlled for like 4 years maybe really are nice if they get the chance to even talk to you and they really like me and my friends but can never hang out with us. Anyone got advice? this would really help
 

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cdm1227 writes:

try to avoid comming in contact with them smilies/wink.gif
 

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preciouse101 writes:

you should leave them alone or if you want to just ask what you did so then tthey may tell that they dont know or something else so then just being nice to them so they be nice to you. see isnt a great plan. smilies/grin.gif
 

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AnimalGirl10 writes:

ButterflyVannessa,
I've had a QOM in 2nd grade too. Actually, if you look at one of my earlier posts you will see that the popular girl,D***, in my class this year is a QOM from 2nd grade. And you are right about friends turning into QOM. Check out one of my earlier posts to see what happened.
TTFN,
AnimalGirl10
 

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ButterflyVanessa writes:

Ok, I've had a QOM IN 2nd GRADE!!!! But I just walked away realizing that she's COMPLETELY not going to be my friend. It was her loss, and if you were friends with someone and they become QOM and DUMP YOU, it's their loss, they're missing out on a beautiful friendship!
 

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ButterflyVanessa writes:

Most of you are pretty lucky, having only 1 or 2 QOM, but here, we have a DYNASTY full of them! There is probably about 20 people in my grade that are in the Mean Royalty (kings included!) They have different category of mean: Some are just plain mean, others are mean but can be nice at times, (I call them the "on and off-ers") and some are mean AND some other thing that I can't remember. But it's torture here! But like I said, stay out of their way, and you'll be a wall to them!
 

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ButterflyVanessa writes:

I haven't made eye contact..or ANY contact (other than seeing them around the school) with the QOM here since forever! I just stay out of the way; I don't bother them, they don't bother me, the deed is done! Besides, the top reasons they bother people is:
1. They've been bugged in their before time, so now they gain their self-confidence back back bugging innocent people
2. They do it cause they're bored (a very rare reason
3. They're jealous of you for some reason, so they insult you and what not to lose a) your self-confidence b) the likeness of people liking you for that skill (in which cas QOM is jealous of!)
4. Some tragic impact has occured in their lives, so they become a QOM
5. Bad influence of an older sibling

those are the only reasons of know of that have actually occured in my life! But does anyone remember kindergarten? Where everyone was nice, and you were each and every day safe from the cruel insults of your QOM today? smilies/smiley.gif
 

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purplechick723 writes:

jassybaby10029 I love your advice you sound alot like me!!!!
This is what you wrote if you are wondering
Well in my school we definetly have one QUEEN OF MEAN! Me and the QOM used 2 be friends! But i was the nice one I always tried to tell her be nicer she would just be mean 2 me so all i do to the QOM is just ignore or my teacher(best teacher ever!) told me just to walk up 2 them and :You know something your acting like a complete and total idiot. Atleast now I have friends who like me for how I am not for my looks even though I;m starting to think you have no friends or looks!: Trust Me!! That defineltley works!! I hope my advice helped all you girls who needed it!!~Luv Always Jazzy
 

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WaterDancer writes:

At my school, we don't really have QOMs. We have people who don't like each other, but noone that i can think of is a QOM! That's kinda cool, I guess.
 

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Zandy_duh writes:

I don't erally know>....but people think me and my friends are the QOM.
 

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bhail writes:

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ONEOF THE "QUEENS OF MEAN" AT MY SCHOOL GOT IN A FIGHT TODAY AT LUNCH WHEN THE GUY THAT RUNS DETION GRABBED HER BY THE ARMS SHE TRIED SOOOOO HARD TO BREAK AWAY I AM THE GOSSIP QUEEN AT MY SCHOOL AND i HAVE REALLY GOOD "CONNECTIONS" MYGOSSIP IS ALWAYS TRUE ALL i KNOW SO FAR IT WAS BOUT A BOY I WOULD HAVE MORE BUT ALL THE PEOPLE WHO KNOW SAY THEY CAN'T TELL BUT WHEN i HAVE MORE i WILL BE BACK LOL
 

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AnimalGirl10 writes:

I'm in the mildly popular group. I would be totally popular but my friends are not popular a tiny bit which drags be down to the mildly popular group.
 

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KITTYCAT2 writes:

TO ME, PEOPLE WHO R TOTALY QOM,R PEOPLE WHO R JUST TRYING TOSHOW OFF SOMETHING THAT THEY SHOULDN'T BE. THEY BLAME EVERYONE BECAUSE THEY GET EMBARESSED ALOT FOR NO STUPID REASON! I DON'T LIKE THEM AT ALL!
 

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writerforever97 writes:

I hate it when the QOM of my school makes a scene! But when ever she does, I make sure I'm far away so that she can't target me. My tip to not getting targeted by a QOM: STAY OUT OF THE WAY! smilies/grin.gif
 

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pocketfullofsunshine101 writes:

For me, I just don't cross paths with them! I'm one of the popular kids, and most people think we're brats and snobs, but just remember that everyone is a person with feelings and emotions and thoughts, and think about what you would feel if someone said mean stuff about you. smilies/cool.gif
 

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AnimalGirl10 writes:

Really QOM are the people who feel insecure about themselves and they take it out on other people. smilies/smiley.gif smilies/wink.gif smilies/cheesy.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif smilies/sad.gif smilies/shocked.gif smilies/cool.gif smilies/tongue.gif smilies/kiss.gif
 

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AnimalGirl10 writes:

At my school the bullying is so bad that the school counselors have to come in and talk to the girls about it. I ALWAYS stay out of the drama. It's the popular girls in my class that make the drama. I categorize the levels of coolness. D** and M** are at the top of the food chain. It's weird. Everybody is ALWAYS on D**'s side. Once my friend
and I were in an arguement with D**
and M**. Then K** joined in. She didn't even know what was going on and she
automatically took D**'s side!! What is even weirder is that D** is short and has buckteeth but everybody likes her. I admit I'm her friend to but we do have arguements.
 

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AnimalGirl10 writes:

I am not in Middle School yet but I already have mean people. My BEST FRIEND from third grade (I'm in fifth) is SUCH a brat. We had this arguement on the bus once and she never forgave me. I shouldn't have even apologized because SHE was the one ignoring me, GOSSIPING about me, and making me cry. All I was saying was that why would she make such a big deal about the window seat on the bus. Now she glares at me and is best friends with MY best friend. She is just trying to take her away from me. She doesn't even really like my friend!!!
 

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puppypie32 writes:

I am actually a friend of The QOM but she is not that mean when you get to know her.

 

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red198 writes:

I hate mean peopl.
 

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KITTYCAT2 writes:

this one girl named C***,is so mean,bossy,and takes every thing the wrong way.when she gets jelous she gets really mean.then she makes an excuse and says she has a diease.and my mom says every body does that but i don't beleive that!but it gets worse!i have to be nice to her and play with her at her house!she gets meaner there!and if i don't be nice to her i get in trouble. can you beleive that!it's hard being nice to someone that you absolutely hate!but i survive,BARLEY!well any way...... yay.

love,
KITTYCAT2
 

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amatomboy29 writes:

I MAKE FRIENDS W/ THEM!! smilies/wink.gif LIKE I'M NOT MEAN OR ANYTHING. I SIT BY A QOM AT MY SCHOOL, AND I SHOW HER THE ERROR OF HER WAYS AND HOW TO HAVE REAL FUN! all my bffs used 2 hate her, now she is all of our bffs and she is ttly nice
L8ter,
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live4hoops writes:

look at them like you there is something seriously WRONGwith them. they normally back away at that
 

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bayhay writes:

i would love my life so much - * smilies/wink.gif
 

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i luv marty16 writes:

i ignore them and if they dont stop i
will tell an adult
 

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dancerqtpie24 writes:

omg this is like my life
 

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courtney24 writes:

Heres what you should do,Just ignore them and say like "thank you",pretend that you don't really care,give them your "cool look" and just walk away. smilies/cool.gif
 

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Emily Windsnap writes:

I read somewhere that if someone says something really mean to you, say, "If I valued your opinion, I would be offended by that." Or you could say something like, "Uh-huh, sure, whatever," and just walk away.
 

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savennah writes:

I am one of them smilies/angry.gif so wacth out
 

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dani_gurl writes:

The queen of mean in my class is very mean. People go and stand up to her but she doesn't stop. So if they keep on doing it just tell the teacher. It won't make it worse.

♥dani_gurl♥
 

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metalicaluv writes:

Well,what i do is go to the pricible and tell him everything they do to the school.once,the put gum on the teachers chair and the teacher had to where something else for the rest of the day.lol!
 

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lilmisspink4195 writes:

AAAHh!! qom drama ttly tick me off. we r 7th graders, they r 8th & they always say were stupid & there soooo always whispering about us. its so stupid!!!!! they get all the guys and manage to be so absolutely repulsive
 

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Zikea5000 writes:

I became friends w/ them they were getting on my nerves and they were teasing this kid who is Mentally Retarded and I started hanging out w/ him and it actually felt better to be with him then with them
 

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mzjjbffs13 writes:

what girls need to know is that the qom don't mean anything, and all you should care about it what you think of yourself and what your friends think of you, i mean who cares, go crazy that is what i do at school and after 3rd grade i got over the qom, so you shoud too! i know it is hard, but after that it is one less night thinking about what they are going to do the next day!!


~mz
 

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joinia writes:

if kids gets out of line just ingore them they'll start to relize it's not bothering you smilies/wink.gif
 

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froggygirl98 writes:

how i would handle qom i would walk by them and if they said anything i wuold just keep walking
 

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brooklinn writes:

well i really never talk to them so yeah thats how i hadel it.
 

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tangirl10 writes:

you could just stand up to them and tell them that you are not afraid and you could just dress your best and try to impress them and maybe the will put you in their group
 

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auree8 writes:

i do not like those people smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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souljagirl4eva writes:

i tell them to stay away from me and hang out with my friendz to protect me smilies/grin.gif
 

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cutiepie#1 writes:

i have a question how do you get boys i like this guy but i dont know if he likes me backplease help a frend
 

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cutiepie#1 writes:

everybody is your friend no matter what and if ur having trouble at school with a mean group than try not to infear just be your self try to get the meangirls to be your friend and dont let them be meean because if u join there group to be cool then just think u are being mean to every body ur not just hearding people your hearding everybody so stay cool and dont be mean
 

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elizbeth writes:

i love it
smilies/kiss.gif smilies/grin.gif its so cool
 

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BSGDaisy writes:

There is this one QOM at my school but when ever she says something mean I just say cool or oh. Or I just ignore her! smilies/wink.gif
 

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Chocolabi97 writes:

I guess all you have to do is stand up for your self, but not in a violence sort of way. Don't talk about it to people who spread secrets, they would spread to everyone and those Queen of Means would be very upset. Two wrongs don't make a right! Also, they'd be very upset with YOU!
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nccowgirl97 writes:


Thanks that should help if that ever happens! smilies/smiley.gif
 

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pollymed1995 writes:

what can i do my boyfriend wont believe me when i say the person he dumped me for was a bully and a user i really cant bare to see him hurt even if he did dump me
 

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flexrocks writes:

Thanks Animalgrrl but dont you think that is true because they can't control us it might hurt but we need to let them know that they aren't better than anyone because they are lieing to themselves and they are just going to be embarassed. smilies/grin.gif
 

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lilmamaxoxo writes:

ummm i would just say to ignore them. i mean the only reason people would hurt you is to get a reaction. i wouldnt make enemies though either i mean no one would like to be the girl with no friends. right? so stay cool and stay nice!
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ilovepandas writes:

Just ignore them. Don't listen to them. You are what you are not what they say you are. smilies/smiley.gif

Idf you like my comment heart it. (Please)
 

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jassybaby10029 writes:

Also if what ever I wrote on this page doesnt work you should go tell a trustworthy adult like you mom,dad,teacher,principle and any body who can help you!! I you are being bullied I hope you can stand up and show them that you arent going to tolerate any mean things anymore!! I hope this advice works!!Ciao Bella
 

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barbiesiss writes:

well my school has a king and queen of mean do not look like the qom and kom watch out
 

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babygirlbrown16 writes:

it is these girlrs named a** and n** who gets on mmy neves!!!!!! smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif
 

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Reallyrosy writes:

they sound mean if i were at tyhst aschool i would just ingnore them
 

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jassybaby10029 writes:

Well in my school we definetly have one QUEEN OF MEAN! Me and the QOM used 2 be friends! But i was the nice one I always tried to tell her be nicer she would just be mean 2 me so all i do to the QOM is just ignore or my teacher(best teacher ever!) told me just to walk up 2 them and :You know something your acting like a complete and total idiot. Atleast now I have friends who like me for how I am not for my looks even though I;m starting to think you have no friends or looks!: Trust Me!! That defineltley works!! I hope my advice helped all you girls who needed it!!~Luv Always Jazzy
 

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Harley50 writes:

i juz ignore them and wish they would go away
also i go up 2 them and say leave me
alone cause i'm not afraid of the that is wat i
would do but i'm frends wit everyone smilies/smiley.gif
 

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cheesycube writes:

my school doesn't have queens of mean just preps that act better than everyone and ignores people who aren't there friends so we don't have QOM luckily smilies/grin.gif
 

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energizer.bunny7 writes:

thanx Drama13 smilies/cheesy.gif
 

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hellopeeps writes:

If someone is mean to me I walkaway.
 

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tweety123456 writes:

rock girls ok
 

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Drama13 writes:

When you are being bullied just ignore them!! Or you can just stand up turn around say their name and ask them to stop!! But do what you think is best!!

 

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MunkiLuvr101 writes:

i need help.
the qom in my school stuck a note on my back that was really rude. i was walking in the hall, and everyone was laughing. it's happened to several other people, my bffs, and i don't know what to do. iv'e told the teachers, but they don't believe me. smilies/sad.gif
i'm not exactly sure what the qom has against me. hmmm...
advice?
 

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MunkiLuvr101 writes:

i have sooo had an experience with the QOM at my school. a horrible one, too.
don't chicken out. stand up for your beliefs and the chances are high that they will start to respect you, maybe not be bffs with you, but they will be surprised at your confidence. try it smilies/cheesy.gif
but remember to be nice.. to everyone.
what goes around comes around.

 

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NikkiiixlO writes:

i think every girl should know to stand up for yourselves
do not go to far by pulling of pranks but tell them how you feel
also you can just walk away our ignore
if they say something mean to you just stop
 

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nyagoa writes:

smilies/smiley.gifCAN I JOIN smilies/smiley.gif
 

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CCBaby writes:

You guys are so cool I realy want to be like you. I like a boy what should I do?
 

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Wizela writes:

Every school has their QUEENS OF MEAN. I dealt with them once, and i totally freaked when they went too far. smilies/angry.gif They should be BANNED from schools. (Not really, but they should.)
 

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veronicar writes:

ok soo like my soo called bffl is trying to hang out with my frend becaus our other frend rielly is bffl with my frend and our frend is a qom with some peaple but its not like im meaan or anything k . but like she doesnt like her because she thinks shes a (beeep)i cant say the word cause its bad but im like watev
 

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gracecboowman writes:

I would just ignore them if they were mean to me.You should try.smilies/smiley.gif
 

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maaryb writes:

To deal with the qom you just don't bug her and stay out of her way
 

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chree12 writes:

i don't like mean girls this has really help me. smilies/grin.gif
 

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craze4chocolate writes:

I stand up for myself!!!
 

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sweetcharm writes:

i have a QOM at my school who used to be my best friend but now she is NOT. She always comes and talks to my new friends whenever i am with them, just to make me jealous. I dont want all this to happen. Whenever I tell my friend not to talk with her,she says that "like you are my friend, she is also my friend."
Please tell me what to do!
 

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corriannskywalker writes:

yo said it ryan lover138
 

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corriannskywalker writes:

i deal with them by doing what i want to do and you bsg girls helped me soooo much
 

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hjo243 writes:

Hi it gem i have this ex friend though she has got this other friend but they arguy alot if she is friends with her she will leave me but if she is not friends with her she will come craling back to me so i said to her stuff it and she went of crying so im the queen of mean really never mind!
 

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ryanlover138 writes:

I think you can try to be friends with them, but if they start to treat you like crap and dont let u be who u want to be, leave them out of the picture!
 

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